What do i do if a girl i like thinks i'm stalking her?

Question

Basically, We were both in the same class in high school, she's a couple years younger than me. We were really good friends in High school, used to talk every day, talk to each other at lunch and used to talk for hours online. I graduated, and had so much course load, i did not get a chance to talk to her for more than year. I finally talked to her a couple times when i found her on facebook, but that was deleted almost immediately. A few weeks back without even meeting her for over a year, i felt i liked her. So i talked to a friend and asked her if she can ask get me her contact info. thats when i found out that this girl feels i stalked her. even though, i havent met her in 2 years, and talked only a couple times on facebook, and a couple times i asked her friend about why she deleted her facebook. this was almost 6 months ago. what do i do? how do i fix this? its wierd situation. because i cant talk to her, because i'm worried that would make me look worse.

yea, but the thing is, we were really really good friends in high school. and the couple times i talked to her on facebook, she talked back. but almost immediately deleted her facebook, and i could not understand why, so i talked to her friend. it was only recently that i found out she deleted her facebook because she thought i was stalking her or something. i mean she could've just said "hey, i dont feel like i know you anymore, and i dont want to talk to you" and blocked me right? why delete her entire facebook account for me?

and i said, we were really good friends.

Answer 1

Hello, RED-FLAG warning.

If you haven't seen her in a two years and she considers an attempt to contact her stalking I'd let her go; NO I'd run from her. There seems to be more going on inside her then you would want to deal with.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

If you have made efforts to get in touch with her, and she has not responded in a friendly manner, that's a good sign that you should just leave it alone. The other half of this is that if she feels you are stalking her and you have only made a few attempts to talk to her, maybe she has her own set of problems. That is a big flag that you should stay away. You don't need to get involved with someone that says that after just a "hi" here and there. She could be a lot of trouble for you. Look elsewhere for someone that invites your attention and seems interested. Good luck.

Answer 3

Stop.

Stalking is in the eye of the beholder.

Perhaps you could ask a friend to intervene on your behalf.

I can see why you want to clear this up. First you need to assume she has some basis for not wanting you in her life. For example, someone might have told her an ugly rumor or used your name falsely in previous communications.

She must have her reasons, but you cannot be the one to ask. You simply need to respect her wishes or you'll find yourself in a legal mess.

Answer 4

I think the first question you need to ask yourself , is why talking to her is so important to you, what is the reason behind your interest. It seems she does not have the same interest that you do, so why continue to pursue her, I'm sure there are other girls you could get to know better. If you keep trying to get in touch with her and she feels you have stalked her you are setting yourself up for trouble down the road, possibly even trouble with the law. Search your motives and your heart, what do you really want from this girl.

Answer 5

If everything happened the way you say it did, then I would most definatly leave he and the whole situation alone.Even if you're not guilty,stalking is a pretty serious accusation and as I said, even if you're innocent,the stink will stick,so back off,and find someone else since she (obviously!) wants NOTHING more to do with you.
Sorry
TL

Answer 6

Quite frankly, it doesn't sound like you were stalking her at all. Maybe you can send her an email explaining that you were friends in high school and would like to re-kindle the friendly relationship you left off of.

My ex boyfriend stalked me in high school. He was in 2 of my classes, he called me constantly (I mean 10 times in a row as my brother picked up and hung up), he even contacted me on Facebook 5 years after we broke up.

THAT'S stalking.

Answer 7

There's nothing you can do, you need to respect her space and her feelings, even if that was not your intention, it seems that it's about her more than it is about you. So leave it at that, and move on. Sometimes space and time is the best medicine. If you pursue it to say sorry or whatever it is just going to make her feel like you are too peristant, you may like her but she obviously doesn't like you and you can't control that. You can't change people you can only change yourself.

Answer 8

let it go and realize that she is obviously a vain child that shouldnt assume that ur bein friends w/her in the past was anything more than that and u need to grow up and date ppl ur own age cuz its pathetic to be n college datin high school kids but then again u must not be too bright if shes a couple of yrs younger and were n the same classes as u

Answer 9

are you telling the whole truth? are you sure your not leaving anything out? If your not and you know your really not stalking her then I don't know what to tell you because you really are in a weird situation but if you know that you really do tend to stalk her then she has every right to feel that way.

Answer 10

Is she thinks your stalking her just leave her alone and move on! She already is "afraid" of you and nothing you do will change that~ the best thing for you to do is just stop all ties to her and leave her alone and move on she doesnt sound like a very nice chick anyways!