Problem with sex....?

Question

I have some serious issues. I am married and have been for 31/2 years now. Before we got married we were having sex like 3 times a day with no problems. Now, i have trouble "getting it" and i get rubbed raw. Its starting to affect me mentally. I have trouble even wanting to get into it because its so much work trying to climax and i get rubbed raw in the process or i get rubbed raw and don't even get it. does anyone else have this problem???? i need advice

Oh we talk about it....a lot!

Answer 1

A natural lubricant that you can fix yourself is to make sure you eat yogurt with active cultures in it daily. This will increase the natural fluid lubrication from your vagina.

Answer 2

Well... dont over-think or worry.

With a women - the mind is said to be the most important sex organ. If you are worried, upset, distracted, it wont work.

You are not 'broken', but you are not letting your inner-child out to play.

Do something silly. A can of sugar-free whipped cream in the bedroom, costumes, role-play, going out 'commando' and teasing your husband during a movie, etc., are all things that are playful and fun. Your own orgasm will 'sneak up' on you while you are focusing on the game or your husband.

A nice bottle of Merlot helps.

Answer 3

Try something new or different sexually with your husband. Sex gets old when you're doing the same thing, so your just not getting turned on. Your getting raw for that reason, you're not getting turned on so you're not producing the natural lubricants your body products when you're turned on. Also talk to your husband.

Answer 4

Try some lubricants and try to not focus so much on climaxing. Just enjoy the sex and the rest will come naturally.

Answer 5

Try lubes and also don't rush. Try and heat eat other up so you can get in the mood.

Answer 6

talk to him and tell him your problems...