OMG HELP ME!How do I get my son to stop crying so much...?

Question

Im sooo stressed my son keeps crying and he wont stop... If i pick him up he stops immdiately but i currently have a back injury so I cant hold him all day long.. As soon as I pt him down he starts crying and not a little bit like LOUD!!! screaming is more like it. Pleas help me. He s 3.5 months old and i just started giving him a lil bit of apple sauce by gerber yesterday and some juice also by gerber. I tried letting him cry until he gets enough DOESNT WORK.. I am at my wits end here. Please any advice.. Also he has his bottom teeth coming out. the gum is all swollen.

he has been getting cereal since 2 months one bottle at night so he sleeps trhough the whole night. All my cousins started feeding their childeren food at 3.5/4 months

Thanks for everyone that was supportive and helped me out =)
And for the ones that JUDGED me and b!tched at me for doing it my way.
If your dr said that your child would be better of with someone else would you do that too???
A/w My culture is different and I respect everyones and i would like them to respect mine.
ANDDDDDDDDD its not rice cereal it is OATMEAL... ok thnx

Answer 1

Here is some advice that may help a bit. I have sciatica issues so I understand not being able to hold a baby all day long. Have you tried laying down with him and holding him, talking some of the strain off your back? I know that you can't do this all day but a few minutes in different positions will be much better for your back and for the baby. For his teething you can try baby ambesol or what our grandma's did, some whisky on the gums to help ease the pain. Get a teething ring and put it in the fridge or freezer and let the poor thing suck on it, that will help. Try also a baby pain killer, whatever your Dr recommends.

Not everyone has someone at their beck and call to come to them and help out, I know I don't and have to rely on myself a lot, my husband works 6 days a week 10-13 hours a day. My MIL works full time as well and I have no family close enough to come by every day to check on me. But, if there is someone you can call, a friend or anyone, to even come by and watch him for you for an hour so you can get out and get a cup of tea or take a shower, get a mani, anything....even spend $20 on a sitter for a couple hours for your sanity, do it. If you can't afford a sitter or are in a postion like me, just do what is comfortable for you. The poor guy is teething and that is why he's so cranky. Remember when your wisdom teeth came in? That's what its like for him.

My daughter was very upset for about 20 hours yesterday, nonstop crying, and it totally stressed me out, my shoulders still hurt from it. A piece of advice I got was 'This too will pass'.

Take it easy. The more stressed you are, the more stressed he will be.

This is me thinking for myself, not cutting and pasting others advice.

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Reading Godesses post reminded me of White Noise. Running the water, take him for a walk or car ride, vaccuum, a fan on. Anything that mades white noise helps them to relax.

Answer 2

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OMG HELP ME!How do I get my son to stop crying so much...?
Im sooo stressed my son keeps crying and he wont stop... If i pick him up he stops immdiately but i currently have a back injury so I cant hold him all day long.. As soon as I pt him down he starts crying and not a little bit like LOUD!!! screaming is more like it. Pleas help me. He s 3.5 months...

Answer 3

First, put him in his crib, go into the bathroom and turn on the vent/shower for noise, then take a deep breath and count to 10... or 100 as the case may be.
Ahhhh... feel better?
Now, just because he wants to be held doesn't mean he needs to be. That said, leaving him to cry is NOT the answer. Have you tried playing with him? Have you tried giving him massage? Have you tried just petting him/his face to soothe him? How about singing to him?
If it's his teeth, try one of the following:
- a store-bought teething ring you can freeze and give to him
- a clean wet washcloth that's been placed in freezer until stiff- will make his hands cold, but calm/happy baby is worth it. (Be sure it's not frozen solid, just stiffened a bit)
- wrap a Mr. Freeze in a clean wash cloth and let him gnaw on it. Be sure it stays covered by cloth or he'll scratch his face on the plasticy covering (speaking from experience here).
Blessings to you.

PS. Remember, this too shall pass.

Answer 4

A couple of suggestions;

Fist of all, if he is formula fed, you might consider switching him to a soy based formula. This may not work for you, but I experienced the same problem w/my oldest and my youngest, and switching formula made ALL THE DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD!! My boys ALWAYS stopped crying when I would pick them up, so I never even thought it was a problem with the formula, but someone suggested it to me and after 3 days on the formula, it was like I had a different baby.

Secondly; my second son had a crying problem as well, but his was not formula related. I noticed the crying picking up at around 3 months old. Couldn't figure out the problem. A formula switch didn't work, nothing seemed to work for him. He was fine when I would pick him up and hold him tight...turned out he had an ear infection. (they turned out to be chronic, he ended up getting tubes in ears) The pressure he felt when I laid him down caused him to cry. Ear infections cleared up, crying ceased.

I hope these things help!

Answer 5

You could try a little bit of Numzit on his lower gums to take the ache out or give him a dose of infant tylenol.

Do you have a swing or bouncy seat to try? If you can tolerate it...I also take my son into the bathroom and run the shower...he calms right away at the sound of the water running!!!

My son's the same way with wanting to be held and most of the time I don't mind but he *does* get heavy after all day!

Best of luck and hang in there!

Answer 6

definetly teething, get some baby tylenol, call the doctor and ask how much to give and try that also, along with orajel. It could also be colic, from switching to baby food and juice. Make sure he burps, those gas pains can really hurt. What happens if you lay him on his stomach? My son did that and it was just because of his teeth.

Answer 7

Sounds like he is collicky. Remember that crying hurts you more than it hurts him. As long as he is fed, has a clean diaper, and isn't needing any attention then he will be okay for crying for 20-30mins so that you can get something done. Don't worry, eventully the crying will get old and he will learn to cope. Allowing your child to cry also teaches them how to cope on their own by calming themselves down. This will be helpful for you when he is 2-3 yrs old and gets frustrated his tempur tantrums will last for a few minutes instead of 20-30. Baby orajel works well for teething and giving him something to chew on at all times helps aleviate the discomfort.
It is hard now but it will get better. The older he gets the better it will be. Hope this helps!

Answer 8

if he's teething thats probably why he's screaming that way, try giving him a little bit of infants tylenol or motron, and watch to make sure he doesn't have a fever since sometimes teething can cause them... also try going out to the store and looking for bitter biscuts, they say that they are for graduates, but i gave them to my son when he was about that old and i swear it's the only reason he got his teeth so soon... they mush in babies mouth so they won't choke on them, i would just recommend putting your son in a high chair or something when letting him one eat one because they are very messy and still keeping an eye on him to make sure he doesn't get to big a peice in his mouth, they do dissolve with spit but the bigger the peice the longer it takes to dissolve... you can also try putting a wet or damp wash cloth in the freezer and than letting him chew on that, it'll freeze his mouth so he won't feel as much pain, and it'll be soft enough he can chew on it without hurting his gums... hope this helps, and hopefully for your sake the screaming stops soon... it's good that you can't hold him all day though because he won't get use to it, and trust me when babies get used to being held all day they do expect it

Answer 9

you shouldnt give the solids until at least 4 months old, and you start off with cereal, you are feeding him solids way to early, give him some tylenol and orajel.

Answer 10

at least you know why he is crying. teething and swollen gums. that may be it. mine is 6 weeks and can be cranky all night long and cant put a finger to anything,

keep on doing what you are doing it will get better.