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Why do people think marriage is just a contract you sign that you can get out of any time you want? Why do people not take it seriously any more. That is why this ocuntry is going to hell in a handbasket quick, no marriage, no families with both parents, kids raising themselves. ARGGGGG I am so mad

2007-12-06 06:21:28 · 46 answers · asked by Scorpio_sting 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

46 answers

Its not that it isn't always taken seriously. It is just that most of us aren't as fortunate as your husband, to have a loving wife.

And I'm serious. Don't get mad at that which you cannot control. Be proud you are (and hopefully will stay) on the "other" side of the statistics column.

2007-12-06 06:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by scott_v1963 5 · 1 0

I have a problem with this question myself, It's not like when our grandparents where married until death do apart,now it's until I can find someone else or until I can get through college and move onto a better status, if you will. LOVE is NOT apart of relationship's any more it's all about what can I get out of it and or how great is the SEX, I HATE that we now as a U.S.A. country care more about how much a persons weights, or how much money do you have, Looks and $$$$$ is what marriages is base on not LOVE, thats OUT the WINDOW!!!! U.S.A. the land of the FREE to do what ever when ever and "F" anyone else standing in my way, It's all about self.It's all a big joke,If I hear that I love you one more time, I could scream but yet you want two or more women I'm going to cut your, you know what off.
You are not the only one who feel this away, the HELL_FIRE awaits many.Hope that I could help you, I vented off with this topic.

2007-12-06 06:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by laylay 2 · 0 0

Loads of folks take their marriage vows seriously but what happens after that is a crap shoot. Life happens and people change. They can't always grow in the same direction. 50% +/- end in divorce in America. Surely that tells you something.... marriage isn't for everyone. Commitment can be a more informal arrangement for a couple. Even though I am married, I think it would have been wiser if my husband and I pledged to stay together as long as we both continued along the same path in life. It would have been more realistic and mature to have done so. Clearly that's true for half of American couples too.

2016-04-07 21:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

people have gotten this idea that a marriage is just a piece of paper........
.....and marriage is a business contract.

Excuse me while I hit the "Wrong Answer" button on both scores....

Marriage is a commitment. It is legally binding and recognised/honored commiting one's love,fidelity, loyalty,friendship,moral and financial support,empathy, and companonship to another in a shared life together. The piece of paper along with a state recognised officiated ceremony and registration of said ceremony gives that committment legal status as well as protection of both the parties interests should there be a dissolution of the marriage...and protection of those legal perks that go with the marriage when it does remain intact ( health insurance, inheritance, widow/widower's pensions, etc.)

It should never be entered into lightly, or in the heat of passion/lust...or with the attitude that if it doesn't work out there's always divorce.....

Divorce had become easier to obtain therefore, marriage should be more difficult to enter into...that way, only the serious-minded and not the fools become Man & Wife.

2007-12-06 06:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 0 0

It does seem that way. But I think that is why I don't want things to go that way for me. I like the idea of how things were in the old days as far as the wife stays home to take care of the kids and house, have supper ready, and make your husband happy. Now I don't do all of that but I think it would be nice to be able to do it. I just think kids were raised happier that way and the husbands seemed very pleased and happy with their marriage. So that is how I strive to do things in my marriage. I love my husband very much and we talked about a lot of things before we took our vows and I am confident that we will be one of those couples and families that can be on the other side of this statistic.

2007-12-06 06:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

There are no penalties for people treating other people badly. No laws for love.

In business, a contract is a contract and there are laws and rules. In love, there are no such laws and rules.

Men betray and destroy the lives of women and children all of the time and nothing happens to them.

That is the problem.

Edit: Ok part of the problem. Also "no fault" divorce where there are no consequences for betrayal and abandonment, and unwed father's rights which give the men the right to rescind the engagement ring while maintaining full rights and no responsibility. And I know men aren't always the only problem, I am just detailing what I see in my city. Tell me about your city if it is different!

2007-12-06 06:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by AJ 6 · 1 0

I think the problem is that people get married too fast...before the really know the person they are getting married to.

They think the marriage will solve any existing problems instead of increasing them.

People spend more time researching the next car they are going to purchase then they do researching what it takes REALY make a marriage work.

If this is "Until death do us part," why not take the time to look into the whole thing before you take the step.

2007-12-06 06:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0 0

Your question made me think for a moment.

Most of the people I know have been married a long time to their original spouse. Many of them now have married children who are doing well.

Who are these people that jump into and out of marriage etc.? I don't know them. I don't work with them.

Maybe things aren't as bad as TV and the press make us think? Maybe most of the country still has it's act together?

I think bad news sells better than good news. I think people like most of the people that responded to this question just need to be more vocal about their values.

2007-12-06 06:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by mjmayer188 7 · 0 0

I take marriage very seriously. Todays society makes it out to be a joke, but I'm a Christian and I know better. But I agree with one of the other answers, don't worry about what others are doing. As long as you still respect marriage, and teach your children the same, you've done your part.

2007-12-06 06:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by thickncutefrombklyn 2 · 0 0

AMEN!

And what happened to healthy marriages in our role models?

My husband of 6 months and I both came from one marriage families and feel a strong need to strengthen our marriage skills early in our life together. We see how everyone else disregards the holiness of marriage and know that it takes work, but are willing to put in the time and effort to make it the best!

All we can do is show everyone how happy we can be together (forever)!

2007-12-06 07:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by Crofton S 2 · 0 0

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