I had a question before about someone who says they aren't ready for a relationship with a girl i've dated a little over a month.
I said I would leave for good eventually because it hurts caring so much for a person that wouldn't have the same feelings and couldn't have that pain forever.
A couple people stated that a good/true friend would still be a freind and there for someone even if it did hurt.
Do you think thats true and right, or is it right to break it off completely because you are in pain?
2007-12-06 06:02:41 · 9 answers · asked by Robert R 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is a hard one.
I think that a true friend would stay in her life. I would think that, if you like her that much the pain of not having any connection with her would be worse then the pain you have now. Ultimately I guess you just have to look at what you can handle. If you walk away... make sure she knows you still care.
I have a guy friend that sounds kinda like you... He is still there for me whenever I need him and that means a lot to me. I hope you find away to make everything ok.
2007-12-06 06:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by Madi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those people who said that a "true friend" would stick around, even though they keep getting their heart hurt by being that persons friend when they want more are either gluttons for punishment or have never been in that situation.
You have to make the decision when you have had enough. If you care enough about someone to want to make them your SO and the other person isn't "ready" for that, then you have decide what you can handle.
Personally, if you can handle walking away, then do it. Why waste time pining away for someone and watch them date others, just so you can sit by and hope for something that is never going to happen. Because in my experience and opinion, when a person has dated someone and then tells them they aren't ready for a relationship with that person is NEVER going to want a relationship with them.
2007-12-06 14:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Robert, don't confuse friendship with a short-term dating or romantic relationship.
A good friend may stay forever in your life. A short-term love interest is just that, a short-term love interest.
Just remember, a relationship (even a short-term one) is not a friendship.
2007-12-06 14:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she knows you still have feelings for her and shes going out with someone a month after the break up, shes not being a very good friend to you...
Ditch her...
2007-12-06 14:06:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've tried to be friends with a girl that I liked who didn't like me, and it was not worth it for me. Eventually she started dating another guy, and I just about went insane. I will never do that again.
2007-12-06 14:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by sherpa_jones 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES IF YOUR GUYS WHERE ONLY FRIENDS THAT'S TRUE, BUT WHEN YOUR IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO STAY AROUND ESPECIALLY IF YOU ONLY BEEN DATING FOR A MONTH. GO YOUR OWN WAY AND BE HAPPY.
2007-12-06 14:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by Julia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand distancing yourself from someone for a bit because you're hurt, but true friends will stick around.
2007-12-06 14:07:31 · answer #7 · answered by peroxidekween 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
True friends are the ones that stick by you through thick and thin. If they are only "fair weather" friends, they are not true, but will be with you only in the good times.
2007-12-06 14:06:24 · answer #8 · answered by quatrapiller 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you have to be concerned about your own emotioal self
and well being.
why continue to subject yourself to continually get hurt? drop
her my friend. you will be glad you did.
2007-12-06 14:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋