my 8 year old daughter insists on sleep ing with my wife and i. we can't get her to sleep in her own room unless shes having a sleep over. i'm sure you can imagine what its done for my wife and i's sex life. any suggestions are welcome. if you are rude or condescending anyway it will be reported.
2007-12-06 06:00:32 · 25 answers · asked by brad w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your wife needs to cut the cord.....You both need to become Harsh in getting her to sleep in her bed.
My husband is the harsh one......Hint!!!! I am the good guy he likes it that way.....
2007-12-06 06:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with alot of the other posts. You and your wife have to present a united front. You both have to enforce the fact that she needs to sleep in her own bed. She is way too old to be sleeping with mom and dad. I can understand if there is an occasional nightmare but every night just because is ridiculous. Put her to bed in her bed and tell her that in no way shape or form is she to get up and come into your room in the middle of the night. You and your wife need to come up with an appropriate punishment for not following this rule and enforce it. Good luck, this can't be too good for your love life!
2007-12-06 14:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by Scorpio_sting 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say she "insists" but a parent is never obligated to follow the orders of a child. You and your wife together should tell her an hour before bedtime words to this effect: "You are a big girl, and you are going to start sleeping in your own bed every night from now on. Please get used to the idea, because it is not open to discussion. Our decision has been made." At her bedtime take her to her bedroom, tuck her in, read her a story, and tell her good night. If she cries, let her cry. If she begs, just firmly say "No," and then leave the room with an "I love you!"
2007-12-06 14:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your daughter and your wife that thisis enough that she is old enough to sleep in her own room. Tell her that you will sleep on the couch until she can stand by you and make the right choice. Your daughter can not sleep with you guys forever. Good luck. I am a mother and I had a problem getting my kids out of the bed but my man finally said thisis enough. This will not be going on anymore and said he would sleep on the couch. So it has been 2 years now ans the kids only sleep with me if he goes out of town.
2007-12-06 14:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by Nae 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Consistently make her sleep in her own room-why isn't your wife doing this?-both of you will have trouble for a few days or possibly weeks but you BOTH need to enforce this asap-it's inappropriate-tell her she is a big girl and big girls sleep in their own beds -try a reward system for each night she sleeps in her bed she can get a sticker after 5 stickers she can get a small toy or something like that.
2007-12-06 16:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make it like a reward system. She gets a star every night she sleeps in her room. After x amount of star she gets a prize. Like going to a movie or something. You could also try to embarrass her out of it. Talk about it around other people with her standing their. It sounds a little mean but it works pretty well. When she wants something say "no thats for big girls and you're not a big girl" when she says that YES she is reply with something like "big girls sleep in their own beds and you sleep in our room. So obviously you aren't a big girl yet"
My daughter would wet the bed when she was first potty trained and we would tell her that princess' dont wet the bed so she couldn't be a princess til she stopped/ It worked. (she loves the Disney Princess')
2007-12-06 14:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by natasha 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She's 8. She shouldn't be able to insist on anything. Put her in her own room, tell her that she IS NOT allowed to come to your bed and if she does, there will be consequences. Take away the TV, video games, outside time, anything she enjoys. If this doesn't work, put a lock on your bedroom door and lock her out. If she continues to try to get in your bed, you and your wife are going to have to get up and physically put her back in her own bed. You are going to have to be firm with her if you ever expect to have any time alone with your wife. You'll likely have a few sleepless nights, but you have to nip this now or you're never going to have any peace.
2007-12-06 14:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by KitKat 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My daughter had security issues when she was about that age. I can tell you what I did. It may not work in you situation. I let her come to bed but the minute she went to sleep I carried her to her bed so she always woke up in her own bed. She went to sleep very quickly though and slept sound once she was a sleep. It could be problematic if you child does not. In that case try to find out why she does not want to sleep in her room. maybe there is some noise that her new ears can hear that scares her.
2007-12-06 14:08:23 · answer #8 · answered by wrknprgsat47 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not to be rude or condescending - but who in the house is the parent?
Sorry, but at 8 years old if she is in your bed it's because you have allowed the behavior and not taught her proper sleep habits. You need to be the parent and put her in her own room - it will be tough at first, but nothing about being parent was ever guarenteed easy.
2007-12-06 14:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Susie D 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time for SuperNanny !!
Eight year olds should definatly be sleeping in their own beds. Put her in her own bed and give her some 'down time' to read or listen to some soft music. Then lights out and good night, see you in the morning !!
2007-12-06 16:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by I love winter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she afraid of something
get a radio make a nice cd with songs she like get a night lite
and stay in the room untill she sleeping
you have to show her that your right there and you'll hear her when she call(and she will test it often so be ready)
dont fuss or get mad keep a smile on your face like it a game make her feel comfortable as best you can untill she goes on her own
read storie when it time for bed
lay there and talk with her about funny thing
but do it in her room.
2007-12-06 18:22:16 · answer #11 · answered by sunrisedrifter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋