My boyfriend..who I absolutely adore..he is my highschool sweetheart and I don't think I could find anyone better than him...is addicted to porn and it hurts me for him to search on the internet for the stuff he likes. We are an interracial couple and he owns over 90 interracial porns...that doesn't bother me as much as it does when he gets on the internet and looks at it. I just feel like I am not good enough for him and I brought it up to him and he blew up saying well I am not going to ever look at it again and you could have worse at least I am here all the time with you and not running around f**** other females or out until 5 AM in the morning. It really hurts me that he don't understand where I am coming from with this and it hurts me for him to be SOOO interested in all this fake sh** when he has me..a real woman..am I wrong for feeling like this???
2007-12-06 05:45:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just cause your boyfriend looks at porn doesn't mean he doesn't love you or has any problems with you. Stop taking it so personal.Every guy looks at porn. By making him hide it you are just forcing him to start keeping secrets and lying to you.Once he starts that he will find it easier and easier to do.Then who knows what could happen. Him watching porn doesn't hurt anything other than your pride because some of the girls are hotter than you. But big fricking deal. He comes home to you everynight and takes care of you and loves you. Isn't that good enough?
2007-12-06 13:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by Leroy J. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 16:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAHA, I'm glad you didn't just end it with her, shes got her own problems comming to her in her relationship. Understand man don't watch porn, BOYZ watch porn! I know because I went from watching porn, to well not being able to watch porn, true love does that to you. OOOO I could watch it, yes I can watch two strangers plow uglies into each other, but it isn't near as good as what I got from my "real woman" relationship, NOW THATS INTENSE! But I digress, the point is maturity, your fella there and it shows doesn't empathsise well with people, which means you most feel lonely sometimes, not sexually, but emotionally, because your emotions are BEYOND his understanding, becuase he denies them. A very natural thing happens when you watch porns, and you've developed that all important ability to emphsise with people, you start feeling guilty, and embassed, becuase one, thats some ones, daughter, mother, sister, wife and your just getting off on the sight of her, and two, you've got a woman that you could be spending those passions on. So really basically the problem is, that he gets feel good feelings out of his masterbation, more so then what you can give him, aslo the relationship is mostly about sex, becuase for him to have a porn addiction thats mostly what he thinks about. Highschool sweethearts doesn't mean life long lovers, doesn't even mean lovers. That aside, the lady before me, has hell coming to, lol. She doesn't even know how much of a problem his inability to last long without her without going to porn means, that he is pride-fing her too, that all she is, is a screw he loves, relationships go deeper then this..... but this is RAPID in our society, it makes sex the relationship, when sex it just a part...... but when your young, immature, and still getting pride out of your own body, you can't see that.....
2007-12-06 07:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever read a romance novel? Or watched a soap opera? Porn is the same thing for guys. But there is a respectful way to watch it, which should be not constantly or in front of you or in place of being with you. And the way he blew up at you he sounds disrepectful so you should talk to him about that.
Not all men cheat and the ones who are faithful don't deserve a consolation prize of watching all the porn they want while disprecting their women
2007-12-08 11:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by monski 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all guys watch porn, it's not that big of a deal my boyfriend watches porn just not when i'm around. being addicted is another thing, but he might just be a normal guy that likes porn. he's right about one thing, though-- wouldnt you rather him watch porn than cheat when he's horny and you arent around? if it reallyyyyy bothers you even though its totally natural for guys (most girls dont even know that their boyfriends watch porn) then try and calmy talk to him about it and try to get him to understand where you are coming from
2007-12-06 05:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by crazi3 c 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's just porn
2007-12-08 08:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
nothing to worry about
2007-12-07 16:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by michellebaby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋