I cant handle life?

Question

I can't handle life at the moment. I don't no what i'm doing wrong but I feel low and tired all the time. I am fed up of my job, but I love my flat, and I can't find a guy who really wants to be with me. Im pretty and outgoing I don't think its worth going on.

Answer 1

It is always worth going on. Unfortunately we can't see that during rough times. As long as you are not in awful physical pain or in want of the necessities of life, just realize that life has up and down phases, none of which last forever.

Different things work for different people. We had a young lady where I worked who would occasionally get really depressed and start making noises about it not being worth it to go on. I'd tell her "Well, before you decide to pull the plug, there are a couple of personal favors I'd like to ask of you." She would get a little angry, then I'd say "See, you still care plenty." That worked in her case. Something will work in yours. Try doing volunteer work at a children's shelter. Helping others is often a good way to help yourself.

And no, the lady I worked with never did do ma any "favors" she did end up in a pretty happy life however. I wonder, does she "owe" me?

Last it through. There are probably people who look at you and think "Oh, if only she knew I existed..."

Answer 2

Just cuz things are going 'wrong' doesn't mean it's your fault,...or that things won't get better.
Yer giving mixed signals here....yer pretty and out going, then ya turn around and say I don't think it's worth going on...which are ya?

The most beautiful person can harbor evil in their heart..they can be the lonliest perople.....'good looks' have nothing to do with what makes you you....what's inside your heart does.

Take into consideration too that this time of year can be emotionally hard....it's also been proven scientifically....ease up on yerself.

As for the guy issue, why push so hard? I mean why do you feel you need a guy in your life to validate who you are as a human being...?

Ya love yer flat, GOOD! Decorate it anyway ya want.

You want to lift yer spirits, try visiting w/ some folks in a home or hospice, and open your eyes to what is good and wonderful in your life.
Visit the pediatric cancer ward and find hope there.
Hand deliver a Thank You card, a Christmas card to your local fire dept.
Visit an animal shelter and donate your time to helping.
Learn to look for the good in everyday small miracles.
Give of yourself, and soon others will be giving to you.

To quote President Abraham Lincolon,..
"The best thing about the future is it comes only one day at a time."

Hang in there and give yourself a chance.

Answer 3

You need a few days OFF:))))))))))) Time out sweetie!
I was feeling burned out and sad like that 2 weeks ago -couldn't do a thing..jobwise (I felt so fed up too), friendswise (didn't care about anything anymore). I was having the same feeling.

So, take 1, 2 days OFF. Your personal time. Your personal pampering, cake eating, makeover, shopping, relaxing, no stress, no phonecalls, no emails, NO NEGATIVE THOUGHTS time. Pause! Tell yourself you'll postpone all the worries until after this break.

You're not doing anything wrong. Your body and mind need a little break from the every day stress. It's human and natural. Listen to your body and do take this time off. I hope there won't be any peoblems at work...

As for guys...please calm your sweet self down. You KNOW that there have been good days in the past. Have faith that better days will happen in the future. It's true, when we expect them less! ;) Pray and abandon yourself in the hands of God. The guys you've met so far weren't a match for you...someone else out there is BETTER in all respects for you. So rather than being in a rel with someone that was 70% what you needed, meeting that 90% will be better and it is worth having patience.

Please just take these few days off to rest, sleep and relax. Maybe you could also go to the gym too...to get some relief from there. You are pretty, gorgeous, smart, outgoing! God loves you! Cheer up sweetie!

Answer 4

It is called depression. It may be seasonal, long nights and short gloomy days this time of year put a lot of people down in the dumps.

I hope your job has medical benefits because you need to see a counselor who can prescribe medication and give you therapy as well. Do it now, if you have a minister ask them to help you find the help you need. People still don't under stand depression for the terrible debilitating disease it is. You don't say if something has happened in your life to set depression off but even if you are grieving you are at a point where help is necessary. It will be hard to get motivated to make the appointment and get there but try as hard as you can and ask someone who loves you to help.

I didn't have the options for help when I was first depressed in my late teens and so I missed out on so much in life because I just couldn't participate a lot of the time. I am now 60 and have been in therapy for 2 years. I am so much better and my life is taking on a whole new dimension. I took medication for about 10 years and it was not enough alone. Get help, you deserve to have a better life and you can.

Answer 5

Ho! Hold up there, chica! You don't need to give in just yet! From what I've read, you're young and attractive, meaning you've got your whole life ahead of you. So what if a guy doesn't like you back? That just means there's one out there for you who is even better. Life is never worth giving up on, because you've only got one shot. Once this life is done with, you don't get to try again. While you are at your current job, start looking for something else. Send out your resume to various companies you'd like to work for. If you have any vacation time, now is the time to use it. When you come home every night, don't think about the things that bring you down, instead think about things that make you feel better, like memories of when you were a kid, and your family. Always remember that even when life seems bad, there will always be chances for it to get better. Like Henry W. Longfellow's poem, "The Rainy Day" says, "Into each life some rain must fall." Things are going to get better; you have the power and the chance to make everything better. Good luck and don't give up!

Answer 6

life is ALWAYS worth living!

Life is alot like the weather... if you don't like it, just give a minute... it will change!

I went through a rough patch like what you're describing and I couldn't imagine it getting any better. But as I pushed through each day just trying to cope I noticed that the days turned to weeks and the weeks to months and so on. But before I knew it my life had taken on a whole new look and that new look wasn't half bad!

Try to seek out some sort of counseling... it doesnt mean youre nuts or anything, but sometimes it helps to bounce ideas off of someone that isnt going to judge you. To try to help you make heads or tails of your situation.

If counseling isn't an option try listing the things that are wrong in a small notebook (or a large one!). Then go back and list an action that could conceivably correct that particular situation. Initially you won't find the perfect answer to all of life's problems this way, but at least you will have a game plan and you can go back and edit whenever you want.


If you choose this method be sure to:

- write in INK and DO NOT erase (cross out, black out, etc.)! write it down and if it doesn't work, write down why it didnt work so that you know not to try that again!

- be COMPLETELY honest with yourself! No point in trying to start some self help if YOU (the real you!) arent going to show up to your own sessions!

- be as specific as you can with your action plans and give yourself timelines!

Rest assured time will prove that all things and situations can be overcome. Have faith in your Creator that you can do all things and you will!!!

Good Luck and Be Blessed!

Answer 7

We all encounter these rough patches in life. The only way to get through them is to take a long, hard, difficult look at ourselves. This way we can change what is not working and tweak the things that are.

Now that has been said I don't think that there is anything in what you said that would make anyone not go on with their life. Everyone has relationship problems, even the ones that you think have it perfect. I finally found someone but it took a while.

As for your job, that is simple. Look for another one in the same field if you like the job you are doing but not the place, or look for a job that is comparable to the one you are in now with regards to pay so you can keep your flat.

As for perking up your energy level or look on life, try doing things that bring you joy or lift your spirit. If that means calling out of work to play hooky, as it were, in order for you to start feeling better then do it.

Answer 8

Wow, I know exactly how you feel. Really I do. It may be different circumstances but I feel pretty much the same. All you can do is take it one day at a time. If thats to much take it one hour at a time or one minute at a time. The love of my life was murdered 4 months ago. Nothing is the same everything is different to me now, even if it is the same (thats just how it feels). I am just starting to care again, I didn't give a f#*! for a long while I am trying to get myself back before I am completely gone. Take your time if its too much, stop and take a break. I know how you feel like there is no one out there for you. But there is someone for everyone. I just pray I didn't loose that "ONE" because thats how I feel. This may sound cliche "Put it in Gods hand, he never gives you more than you can bear-and believe me this too shall pass".

Answer 9

Ah dont say that the right person will come along in time, tou just have to take it one day at a time, i feel very low in the morning when i have to get out of bed and go into my new job which i hate, especially these cold dark wet mornings,

If your job is anoying u that much i think u should find something that you like doing,
Im after finding out (the hard way) that you spend most of your life , time working so its important to find something that you enjoy doing!
I prob didnt help much but mabye it might start you thinking about other options,
Good Luck

Answer 10

Don't give up girl. We all go through trials and times in our lives when it seems like there is no hope left. I was depressed a few years back and I learned that just keeping a journal of how I am feeling helped me get past feeling that way. I learned to be confident in who I was but in order to do that, you need to discover yourself. Find things you are good at and enjoy doing and make that a huge part of your life. As far as the guys go don't get down about it. You will find the right one in time and when you do you will be so happy! If you're feeling low and tired others probably notice it as well even if they don't say anything. Don't give up just yet... it's like that song Carrie Underwood sings "So small" - right now it may seem like the hardest time in your life but this experience will help make you a better person and someday you'll look back and think "wow look how far I've come" I wanted to commit suicide and I tried but realized that my life is worth something. Yours is too... everyone's is so don't give up and keep going!! Maybe go to counseling... I know that helped me! Hope this helped - keep your head up girl!!