I'm always changing my personality/ identity so much, i guess it's because I never am satisfied with myself. I hate it- it's really affecting my friendships and personal relationships- one day I could be friends with one person, and the next day, I am friends with another. it's like I have no integrity or something...(i'm not meaner to them, I just don't maintain bonds that I form with people, because it's hard to get along with them as before with a different personality. I'm still nice to them though) I'm definitely not one integrated whole. I starting to fear they might think me two-faced. I'm also starting to think I've multiple personality disorder...but i think that's too serious a diagnosis. but i'm worried and tired of this cycle. How do I get out of it and still be happy with myself and everything in the end?
2007-12-06 04:30:11 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
the thing is, it's enabled me to be friends with everyone and I try to be nice to everybody, so everybody generally views me as a nice person. But I have NO close prolonged friendships, which is kinda depressing.
2007-12-06 04:33:09 · update #1
let me start by saying what you have described is NOT Multiple Personality Disorder. In MPD the extra personalities are typically NOTHING like the base personality (they can even change in gender and age.. actually there are often these personalities in these people) and on top of that the Base Personality DOES NOT KNOW the other personalities exist in MPD.
You are just a teenager, and a social butterfly to boot. It's not a psychological disorder and there is nothing wrong with you. You just still need to figure out who you truly are.. and that is a normal part of growing up.
2007-12-06 04:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by pip 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're young...and you don't even know who you are yet, so trying to figure it out.
There isn't anything wrong with what you're going through; and most everyone feels like this at some point in thier life, but you aren't helpless in what you choose to do about it.
Take the time to figure out who you want to be, and what kind of person YOU want to be, and resist the temptation to be who other people want you to be. I realize that it is a hard thing to do, but you will NEVER be happy with yourself or your friendships if you try to be something that you think others want you to be.
Only when you take the time to understand who you really are, and not try to be anything else, will you find friendships that are more than just superficial.
As you grow, don't lie to yourself by being something you aren't, and don't be afraid to be yourself...because if someone doesn't appreciate you for that, then you are wasting your time on that person and should save your energy for someone who will...because they DO exist. It might take more effort and patience than trying to befriend everyone, but it's worth so much more in the end.
2007-12-06 04:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by redsquirrelpooka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have multipel personality disorder and the difference between what you describe is that I have littel awareness of the switches so that they are dissociations.Discrete separate persona sharing the same mind.
One of the key things that you say is - never satisfied with myself and wanting to please others.
One of the things that is important with mpd. is to keep a daily journal and not give yourself a hard time - try to love yourself and be behind yourself fully, however you come - see what causes the tweaking and changing.
It sounds like a good idea to see a counsellor so you can get some good help to work through this finding out who and how you do want to be.
2007-12-06 04:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
See a psychologist or counselor.
It's the best thing you could do fo yourself.
It's very doubtful you have multiple personalities, but a psychologist could rule it in or out. It could be what they call a Borderline Personality. You might be lying to others, and it bothers you, so you change personalities, so you don't have to deal with a conscience. (I hope it's not the case. Get some honest help. Honestly.)
Good luck, and God bless you.
2007-12-06 04:44:23 · answer #4 · answered by C Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you have an ecclectic and excentric personality, if you are overall nice then they will like you even if they think you are a bit wierd.
2007-12-06 04:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
read some good stuff. for example go and visit articles on
http://www.lightinlife.com/
particularly it their psychology, philosophy and spirituality sections.
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2007-12-06 04:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Pratap 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋