hi all,
my ex and i broke up because he was always working and he never had time for me. we broke up about 2 years ago. after we broke up he would always keep in touch till this day. he calls me like every 3-4 weeks to see how i am doing? also, when he calls he wants to hang out and everytime i hang out with him we end up kissing (no sex) just kissing,,,so its not a booty call...im trying to figure him out..what does he want from?? does this make any sense at all?? cause im so confused as to why he hooks up with me when we hang out but we r not together...ive been dating other guys after him and i know that hes been dating other girls after me...i need help trying to figure this out??? im gonna ask him whats on his mind, but before i do this i just want everyones opinion...im curious
2007-12-06 04:11:43 · 8 answers · asked by Danielle K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Be honest and put everything on the table life is too short
2007-12-06 04:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by One tough cookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you guys didn't break up b/c there was an actual issue between you two, there just wasn't enough quality time. He obviously misses you still. He probably wants to be with you, but he doesn't know how to say it. When you guys are away from each other, things are normal and you each have your own lives. But when you're by each other again, the old times are being brought up again and so are the same feelings that you had for each other. Next time you see him, try to avoid kissing him and see how he reacts. If he questions you on it, then bring up your question to him and tell him how it makes you feel and how you want to know what's going on. Good luck!
2007-12-06 12:21:59 · answer #2 · answered by SoMissUnderstood2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you, right now I am currently in the same situation as you. The only difference is that he is upstate at the Gulf Coast Trade Center. Also another difference is that we can only write eachother and not talk on the phone or see eachother in person. We use to be together, then we broke up on and off and this has still been going on since April 2006. He tells me that he still cares about me, but he doesnt see us getting back together, because he doesnt want to hurt me again. Yet, he steadily asks me how I feel about him-KNOWING HOW I FEEL ALREADY! He is either playing mind games with me or he is unsure of how he feels.
2007-12-06 12:21:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mieko M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just stringing you along. Should he have a need for you then you'll be there. Don't! If he's an ex then let him be an ex. You're like that last player on the bench. The coach won''t use you unless he's out of options.
2007-12-06 12:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Poppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is keeping you on the back burner. He is thinking perhaps you are the one he might want to settle with when he is ready to settle. By keeping in contact with you and seeing that you care for him makes him think that when he is ready all he has to do is call you are you will run to him. He wants you to wait until he is ready or he is lonely and has not date for that night and knows you will jump at the opportunity to see him.
2007-12-06 12:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by fantasy gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're kissing, he wants to get laid pretty much. Probably respects you enough to not push it on you though. That, or hes just playing the field to see how you would respond. Think about the messages YOU send as well by letting him kiss you.
2007-12-06 12:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by falcon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He keeps in touch because he's hoping you'll change your mind and get back together with him.
2007-12-06 12:15:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like companionship. You are enabling him to have it. He will continue this habit.
2007-12-06 12:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋