2007-12-06 03:56:53 · 21 answers · asked by muzzella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why did you get married in the first place? Was it just to get over the ex? Be honest with your husband, because it is not worth cheating on your husband with your ex. He has a right to know that you have feelings for someone else.
2007-12-06 04:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon29 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We feel what we tell ourselves to feel through our own self-talk. If you are committed to making your marriage work, then you need to try to limit thinking about your ex. If you find yourself starting to idealize or daydream about times with him, tell yourself, "but that was then, and this is now. I love my husband and would not risk anything." By cutting off those daydream fantasies, you limit and decrease the idealization of your ex. It may not be true love you feel for him but the grass is greener syndrome from being married. Did you feel like you still loved the ex before marriage? Think about stuff like that. Is it really a love for another person or the feeling that you've ended up with the wrong person?
If you truly are in love with the ex, then you need to come clean with your husband. He has a right to know his wife is wanting another man. Than together, you guys need to discuss if you're going to take actions to make your marriage work or if you're better off parting ways so you can pursue different peple.
2007-12-06 12:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sonya 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to remember why he is your EX boyfriend and not your husband. Forget about him and focus of falling in love with your husband. I honestly don't know why you got married when you're still in love with someone other than your husband.
2007-12-06 12:03:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most people have feeling for an ex in some way, most aren't strong enough to end a marriage because the ex is an ex for a reason, remember that !!!!!
2007-12-06 12:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i hope you didn't get married while you were still in love with your ex. Otherwise, you're terrible for doing that.
Break of all communication and never talk to him again. Think about it?! do you want to eventually cheat on your husband? of course not! RUN AWAY from your ex..
2007-12-06 12:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by TheWanderer 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
try to forget him...it will only lead to more problems...I understand ..I went through the same thing..I married recently and when I married my husband I thought I was over my ex but I wasn't then i found myself regretting ever getting married.......because I always thought my ex could have treated me way better than my husband I never let myself love my husband.....it only caused problems and later i ended up leaving my husband...it turns out that my ex had changed and I remembered why I left him in the first place....me and my husband got back to together and because I chose to let the past go...me and my husband don't fight..I mean yeah we disagree...you know...we're all humans with different brains...but you just gotta let the past be the past and appreciate and enjoy your marriage...because there is a reason he is called your ex..you know..been there done that....Make a better choice there is reason he didn't make it to your future.
2007-12-06 12:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by Elvia C 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You live with the choice you made and make the best of it. The love you feel for your ex-boyfriend will always be there... and there's both pain and comfort in that. But you should keep the daydreams, as pleasant as they are, away from your reality. Love them both, one in secret and never to have and you should know that, and love one for real, your husband who needs you.
2007-12-06 12:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
love is a choice, when your married your husband you decided to love him for eternity ! The love for your ex boyfriend should have been considered befroe you tied the knot! You probably just scared becasue your got married and now you realize its one person for forever! Again love is a choice, you chose your husband! Move on from loving your ex boyfriend
2007-12-06 12:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by vh13 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Do nothing. There may be many times in a person's life when she feels love for more than one person, but love for any man other than your husband simply doesn't matter. Live your life with your husband, focus on him and on making your marriage strong and intimate, and those feelings for the other man will fade in significance and may even go away.
2007-12-06 12:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why on earth would you marry somebody that you don't love.
Does/did your ex-boyfriend love you.
Too many people let pride get in there way and don't say/act on their true feelings.
How long have you been married and how does your husband feel about you?
2007-12-06 12:01:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋