I would like to get into the music business.
But it requires hours of practice. I've been into music since before my marriage, but only began taking it seriously over the past year and a half.
My wife has no friends but me, and requires lots of attention.
It's something that I'd like to turn into a career in the future, so not only does this mean creative expression, but also earning a living.
I'm 26 years old. How is it possible to put in the practice hours in this situation?
Is it too late for men to reach their dreams once they are married?
2007-12-06 03:49:51 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Behind every great man is a great woman. You simply need to make her part of your team. Tell her how important this dream is to you. Then ask her to help you. Come up with ways that she can contibute.
Scheduling, marketing, networking. Not only are these things that you need to do that will take away from your practice/writing time, but they are also things that will help your wife meet new people and possibly grow as a person.
2007-12-06 03:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by light_strikes_a_deal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think so. my husband's dream was to have a place in florida (we live in michigan), have a small boat and live there in the winter.
a year and a half after we got married, here we are... we've done exactly as he dreamed of it. i have been supporting him all the way even if i didnt want him buying a boat because it cost a lot of money. as long as you support each other, there should be no problem. ur wife having no friends, surely she had a life before u, right? if not, u can take her with you to some of ur practices and maybe can make friends with the wives of some of ur friends there. but her loneliness shouldnt stop u from achieving your dreams. if she tells u not to, thats awfully selfish of her. just talk to her about it. marriage shouldnt be the end of your dreams. it should be the beginning of a new partnership TOWRADS your dreams. so maybe u have to tweak some plans but still shouldnt stop u.
2007-12-06 04:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by switbaby9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's like saying, you get married and give up living !!! You have a wife and that only means she'll probably love and support you no matter what. The only thing you should remember is not to walk all over your wife while you are trying to reach your dream.
2007-12-06 04:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by frustrated 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that a big part of your sexual enjoyment derives from doing something naughty, forbidden, or at least socially unacceptable. Once you are married, sex is pretty much expected and not viewed as wrong, immoral, or shameful in any way. This might possibly take the excitement or adventure out of it for you. Perhaps you could increase your passion for him by trying different things. Maybe if you role played and dressed and acted like other people, this might do something for you. Maybe if you changed the location, such as the back yard in the rain or even make out in the movie theater like teenagers to get yourselves all worked up for later. There si also the option of viewing porn and imagining that you are the person in the video or that he is the guy in the video. Use your imagination and think of creative ways to explore your sexuality that results in more excitement.
2016-05-28 10:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being married shouldn't stop you from achieving your dreams and goals however you will need your partner to be very supportive and understanding to do that since you will hvae to put in long hours of practice, etc. She should go out and make friends anyway and not have only you to depend on for attention. She needs to be encouraged to join clubs or take general interest classes to keep herself busy and meet people on her own.
2007-12-06 03:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's too late to reach your dreams. Talk to your wife about it and see how she would feel. Tell her it's something you love and need and explain that it would mean a lot of practice and time. If she really loves you she'll want you to achieve your dreams. Good luck.
2007-12-06 03:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not to late to live your dream, but you and your wife need to sit down and have a long heart to heart talk. You need to talk about the pros and cons if you do this, and together decide what is best for your family. Good luck!!
2007-12-06 04:25:11 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Colonel Sanders was in his 70's when he started Kentucky Fried Chicken. My favorite author was in her forties when she starting writing and she produced two novels a year after that for decades. And with your wife as your best friend and for support, it's a no fail. Definitely, go for the dream. Live authentically.
2007-12-06 03:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is never too late to make our dreams come true.
Your wife can come along with you in your practice and she can also give you idea. Just plan it with her and if that is what you love to do she will understand you and support you.
2007-12-06 04:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is never too late. You might find some music that you are already fairly good at and practice that in front of your wife.
When you are alone practice on things you have not mastered. Then practice in front of your wife on mastering your skills.
If you are ready to perform in public, have your wife come with you. She will not feel alone and she will be proud of you.
Take care,
Troy
2007-12-06 04:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋