My sister told me that my husband was jealous because my brother and I talk to much. She said that in-person he told her he wishes he would have met her first and that he would leave me and our children for her. She has proof that he also called her (she did not answer), and sent two texts: one saying "We need to talk," and one saying "Are you busy?" She told me this at least a week after this happened. He said nothing. When I finally asked him about it, he said he did not remember texting/calling and did not say those things. I brought it up again the next day and he said he hated to tell me this but my sister said something to him while they were in the car waiting for me that he cannot recall, he asked :Are you serious?", and then she said "Yeah, we can get it on." He then says sat in silence afterwards. He then says that he did call and text because he wanted to be clear that nothing was going to happen. Note I have not had any problems of this sort from them in the past.
2007-12-06 03:47:24 · 16 answers · asked by hot_mama_of_five 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
believe them both.....seeing that either one can/is lying.....I believe that they were flirting way too much with the other one and now they have crossed the line and want you to know but without confessing any wrong doing on their part.
2007-12-06 03:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, if you can (and you obviously are) accepting that nothing has really happened between them at this point except talk then I do not recommend any type of get them together for a confrontation type meeting. Honestly, that could do more harm than good.
Here is the reality...you may never know the truth because you obviously aren't going to get the whole truth from either of them. Accept that the truth probably lies somewhere between the two stories.
Now, either forget it and get on with your life or decide you can't live with this insult and divorce the man. What other choice do you really have? And please don't say you are going to punish him or her because that stuff only hurts you in the long run.
2007-12-06 14:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by mikey_fiveoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was only texting and calling to put her in her place, why did he deny calling in the beginning? You can't be certain exactly who is telling the truth but what you do know is one or both of them are lying! And the fact that your sister waited a week to tell you may mean she's considering the offer. The best thing to do is try to hold your composure. As best you can, try to behave normally and pay attention to detail! Conduct an investigation of your own...one or both of them are bound to slip when they think they are in the clear.
2007-12-06 12:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by I know a lil' bit about that 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tend to believe your sister over your husband.
Reason being.......he lied about the text messages in the first place. Then comes up with some story that she came onto him, but can't seem to recall how the whole conversation started to begin with.
And if your sister has never cheated with any of your boyfriends, and this story is out of character for her, then your husband is up to something.
If he's hitting on your sister, then he's probably hitting on other women as well.
2007-12-06 12:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anything's happened yet. Keep the two apart. Who needs to flaunt temptation in their faces and besides, I'd have a heart to heart with my sister telling her to back down and that you don't want to hear about any of it anymore cuz it's just not going to happen. And then just see if that works. If he starts smiling for no reason, and she starts acting like she's in love... then you will know something's up.
2007-12-06 11:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to give your husband a little trust, but also be on your guard (take it from a reformed - or reforming chater).
Keep the two of them away from each other if at all possible and lay down the law with the hubby and you can tell him this comes from a male who almost threw it all away).....out of respect for YOU, he is not to initiate any contact with her and he is to immediately tell you about any conversation with you, including txt messages. SENT AND RECEIVED.
Be careful girl-it's a slippery slope. Don't be nieve-we men are very cunniing by our very nature.
2007-12-06 12:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by ntl_promo_guy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a soap opera....surprise them by getting them both in the same room and clear the air....you should be able to tell by their body language and what they are saying who is telling the truth.
2007-12-06 11:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you should talk to both of them together and make things clear. First of all she is your sister do you think she is telling you the truth. Tell her to prof it to you and also tell your husband the same thing.
2007-12-06 11:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone is not telling the truth
Either your sister or your husband is a liar.
2007-12-06 11:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would call your sister to come over and sit the two of them down in the same room and have a LONG LONG TALK until you get to the bottom of what happened!
2007-12-06 11:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Blood is thicker than water. How close are you and your sis if you are super close than Id question what your hubby is saying. If your suspicious of both of them then you really need to evaluate what is going on figure how bad is this and how far its gone. Good luck!
2007-12-06 11:55:34 · answer #11 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋