My daughter is 8 weeks old, and for the last 3 days she's decided that i'm the only person who can hold her.
At first i thought it was cute, but now its starting to upset my boyfriend, she inconsolable when he, or anyone else trys to hold her, or even look at her.
She didnt do this before, any ideas what i can do?
2007-12-06 03:15:38 · 14 answers · asked by - 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
of course he's her father. you dont have to be married to have a child.
2007-12-06 03:23:17 · update #1
and yes, she is breastfed.
2007-12-06 03:24:39 · update #2
joe c what did that have to do with my question in the first place? do you really think a legal document will make you a better parent? thats just stupid.
2007-12-06 04:06:43 · update #3
that was my daughter in a nut shell up until 2 months or so NO ONE could her hold but me not even daddy and it hurt his feelings too and i thought i would never get a break...than around the 2 1/2 month old mark she started letting daddy hold her again than around 3 1/2 months shes letting anyone hold her but only certain people for long periods of time....so it will get better
2007-12-06 07:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by Renee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 3 months old and sometimes does the same thing to my husband. She's probably doing it because if you hold her the majority of the time, she likes the way you hold her and the way you console her. I hold my daughter certain ways during the day when her daddy isn't home and if she's not held a certain way or consoled a certain way..she is not happy! I'm sure it's frustrating, but try getting him to mimic the things you do and I'm sure your daughter will come around. Just give her some time. Eventually, she won't care who holds her, just as long as she is able to look around and see everything :)...Good Luck!
2007-12-06 04:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by Hannah's Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he shouldn't take it personally. Just tell him to spend a lot of time with her. Like when she's crying for you, maybe he can stay close too. This way she gets used to his smell and voice and touch.
I've come up to the answer to why babies cry only for mommy. She's been with you for 10 months already. She's just now meeting him. She already knows everything about you. She's been listening to your heartbeat. And that's the first thing she recognizes. That's what soothes her. Because it's the only normal thing to her. She now has a touch and a smell to go with the heartbeat and voice she's been hearing for the whole time she was inside. So now those two things are also what she looks to for comfort.
I think if he starts doing the same things while you're doing them, she'll get used to him too and used to him being there as well, and eventually she'll look to him as well. It's just a very crazy time for her, and she's just looking for what she knows as normal. I hope I made sense and helped.
2007-12-06 04:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they all go through this stage, at different ages though. My daughter went through this around 3 - 3.5 months. She would only be content with my husband and I, it really made some of her grandparents upset! It's nothing personal, they just want their mommy and/or daddy! I'm sure we will go through this phase again as she gets older. Good luck, it will pass :)
2007-12-06 03:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by jatay 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, My 18 month old still does this. Babies love when guys singing in a deep voice and they love being next to a guys throat and feel the vibration. Women don't have deep enough voices to do this. They it with your boyfriend. Also have him hold your baby with you right there. Buy a sling too- for you
2007-12-06 03:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by Heidi62 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are with your baby most of time which mothers usually are then she likes the way you hold her and she smells you etc.. so she is comfortable with you.
when the baby's dad holds her have him hold her the same way you do and sit close to him for awhile, you can also have him put a blanket or stuffed animal next to him when he sleeps, and in the morning put it next to her in crib and have it with her during the day.
but over time she will grow out of this and one day she will have a fit when he leaves for work and won't have anything to do with you.
2007-12-06 03:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by jeanniep 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Joe C" is an insecure, jealous loser who feels guilty about their own choices in life. Don't worry...a husband doesn't make a man a "father" or a "better lover/person".
i think Joe C is the one who needs a reality check,.
2007-12-06 03:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
i swear we must have the same baby! at the end of the day my arm burns from toting him around. the only other person he is calm for is my sister, but she is a nursing mom too so she smells of milk!
2007-12-06 03:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by parental unit 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
have him hold her anyway you leave the room , this will pass don't worry and the more time he spends with her the closer they will become, right now you are safe
2007-12-06 03:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your her mommy..shes loves you..you carried her for 9 months so she knows you...she just needs to get used to everyone being around...
2007-12-06 03:20:36 · answer #10 · answered by lisa 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋