I have a contact who gets badly treated at home. I am scared for her life. (no, I'm not being a drama queen) She is in an abusive relationship. What can I do to help her?
2007-12-06 02:18:18 · 5 answers · asked by Miss T 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
just be her friend
and dont tell her over and over to get out of it, trust me she knows sometimes though there arent many options readily available and shelters only take a person in for so long
2007-12-06 02:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by Wish 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
1. Ask a gentle question such as Did your husband hit you?
2. Be patient because she might be evasive. How often does he hit you?
3.Bring up seeing a marriage counselor,( minister or priest , rabbi etc if religious)
4.Find out if she knows if her husband was abused as a child
5.Is she financially dependent?
6.Does she have a job or can she work?
7. Suggest a refuge home for abused women for a short stay
It could make her husband think about a change of behavior is necessary without confrontation which could lead to renewed violence because he might feel threatened. It can give her breathing space necessary for her to plan her next course of action. It may be a place where she could get support, advice sympathy and counseling for her next action.
8.Make sure has a practical plan if she decides to leave him.If she has money , then maybe she should leave him. Since he is violent it would probably be better for her to leave when he is away. This also avoids a confrontation or possible renewed violence.
9. Have her tell her colleagues and friends that if her husband tries to contact her, deny him because she refuses to see him
10 Be a good listener and under no circumstances should she , you and other colleagues and friends her whereabouts to her husband.
2007-12-06 11:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by Dave aka Spider Monkey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend. Wish is right... but I have to tell you, she really has to want to get out of that relationship. I had tried and tried to get a friend help and she just kept going back into it. Even after I had witnessed the guy throw her across the room.
2007-12-06 10:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Reach out often and support her. The choice of whether to live in the relationship or leave lies in her and you can't make that choice for her. It's nice that your concerned and that's what you have to show your contact.
Good luck.
2007-12-06 10:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. E. Bunny A.K.A. Andy. 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
pray
2007-12-06 11:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by @NGEL B@BY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋