What the H3LL am I going to do now?

Question

Last night my gf told me she was preganant and I'm happy but the thing is she is high risk. If we decide to keep it she has to be in bed and not able to work. I don't know what to do because I can't afford everything on my own...She knows this and said that she will continue to work but then she runs the risk of a miscarriage. I want the baby it's my first.
What can i do besides getting a second job to keep her from working...I don't want her to work if is causes a miscarriage. What can I do? Please help me.

I have no problem getting a 2nd job and you people are so judgemental. I can afford it on my own but we are both taking college classes which cost a pretty penny. I'm going for my master's and she her bachlor's so it isn't that we don't have degree's. Its one of us have to stop going to school for now to save that money for the baby and if she does stay home she would be better off doing the school then doing nothing. I will probly stop until the baby comes. i'm not lazy the job i have now comsumes allot of my time as it is and then school takes up the other half. We just moved in together to consolidate our bills and then she found this out yesterday at a routine check up.

I should of said this before so everyone wouldn't think we are poor @ss black folk cus we are far from it. We just has goals we wanted to obtain before the baby and we planned on marriage this coming Summer 2008....money was being put aside for that as well. And knowing her she isn't asking anyone for money.

Answer 1

Well it really depends how stressful her job is and what the doctor tells her to do. She may be high risk, but the doctor will tell her if her job effects it or not.

Unless she is told by her doctor that its time to stop working there is no reason she can't work. High blood pressure is the #1 reason woman stop working.

Also the type of job she has will greatly impact her as well. If she has a secretarial job theres no reason she couldn't work throughout all of the pregnancy unless the doctor tells her its time to stop. Wheras a teaching position or fast food position with constant standing, bending, and stress will impact her blood pressure.

Im due January 4th and stopped working the first week of November because my job was too stressful and I was being treated with amazing amounts of disrespect. Since I stopped working I regret it and also have problems with my food intake. I eat far too much than I should.

Since we are tight on money, I simply cannot take up a hobby or craft... so im bored out of my mind.

If you were told by the doctor she should not be working at all you should find a better job to support your family instead of workign two. Maybe it's time to get a quick degree.

Answer 2

don't despair. Things happen for a reason. You are on your way to achieving a successful life along with your girlfriend, I commend you on that. I had a high risk pregnancy and it was no cup of tea. I had to leave my job at the VA hospital since I was on my feet all day. Maybe you guys can talk to the doctor and ask what the limits are. Maybe she can work from home. I currently sell on eBay, I do so well my husband and I decided that I have my own business. Things happen for a reason. Breathe, and think calmly.
Congratulations, Babies are a blessing.
hope it all works out for you.

Answer 3

I no some women do work up until a certain time but it depends on there work. If you do get a another job , i think that is very good as long as you dont stress your self out. Im sure when you have the baby you can get child credit and i think everything will work out. I mean if your going to get another job atleast your trying an things always work out. good luck xxxxx

Answer 4

My sister is in a high risk pregnancy right now, She has cervical cancer, and the doc told her to quit her job, so she did, but she doesnt relax like she is supposed to, shes 6 months, and doing ok, once they make it so far they can put an implant into the utereus to make the wall stronger i guess, because thats what makes the pregnancy high risk, anyways shes doing good, I hope this info helps a little, Good Luck, And Congrats

Answer 5

You shud have thought about that before you guys got into bed. Now you both have to seriously have to discuss the possiblities of her working from home or ask parents for if they know about what will happen if she goes to work. But on the other hand a second job can't be that hard just don't be lazy!

Answer 6

Congrats! Just ask God to help you thru this and give you strength both for yourself and your gf. If this is what you both want then you go for it..think about it in the long run it's well worth it and the feeling you will have once your baby is born is a feeling no one can take away from you. Again congrats and good luck to you.

"Anything is possible you just have to believe that the possibilities are endless"

Answer 7

Well the damage is done, so I guess you both will have to sit down and seriously discuss your financial situation, i.e. go through figures etc, then work out how best to support your new family.

Answer 8

you guys should just sit down & decide what you both want to do...this is a blessing & im sure that everything will work itself out.....all things happen for a reason... Good Luck with everthing!!!

Answer 9

The two of you shouldn't have chosen to have a baby until you were better of financially. And yes, it is a choice. You could have taken steps to prevent it.

Now you have to take the consequences and do what needs to be done. If she has to work, then she has to.

Answer 10

screw that first persons judgmental crap. You already know what needs to be done. If she cant work, and you want the child, you've gotta get another job. It sucks, but thats whats gotta be done to pay the bills.