My bf went to court yesterday because his X who is the mother of his daughter took him in on motification of his visitation. She wanted to modify it by not having me around his child. This was an act of jelousy. My bf and I live together and his child loves to spend time at our house and her and I have grown very close. She went to court painting a horrible picture of the 2 of us. My bf has in the PAST been violent toward me and he spent 2 wk in jail due to his actions but since then he has attended many classes for his anger and our relationship is 100% healthier then it was. After hearing both sides of the story and listening to the X's lies the judge handed out the following order--Visitation on mon and sun. Mon gf shall not be present but can be present on Sun. gf can not be present upon drop offs and pick ups. judge told him to have me get out of the car and wait around the corner....we have one car and it is mine....dead winter seems like they are babying her jelousy
2007-12-06 01:45:03 · 6 answers · asked by Princess 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
We also live 30 minutes away what is my boyfriend supposed to do with his daughter on these visits i cannot be around. I am supposed to give him my car and go out for the day? Thats my home its like I am being told what to do in my own home. I truly feel that it has nothing to do with me being a bad influence or not safe like she was saying because I am allowed around her on sundays but not mondays. its like the judge just wanted to make the mother comfortable by making sure the relationship with her kid is limited and she doesnt have to get jelouse when she sees me in the car. i have been with this man for 3 years. she must be over it by now
2007-12-06 01:51:46 · update #1
but the father has rights and why should he be told where and how to visit with his daughter......he is a good father and does what he is supposed to
2007-12-06 01:52:28 · update #2
but the father has rights and why should he be told where and how to visit with his daughter......he is a good father and does what he is supposed to
2007-12-06 01:52:37 · update #3
You have no rights.
If his ex doesn't like you seeing the kid, and she gets a court order to forbid that, you are out of luck (and so are the kids).
Peace
Jim
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2007-12-06 02:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The visitation order may not seem fair, but it can be changed later on. Your boyfriend should get more time with his daughter as she gets older.
As far as his ex painting a horrible picture of you, obviously the judge didn't believe it, hence your Sundays.
If she's acting up because she's jealous of you, that can make his daugher upset. Not having you present at drop offs and pick ups protects the girl from any drama scenes. Go along with it, for her sake.
You don't have to wait around the corner. You can wait at a restaurant or mall or any other fun place the three of you are going to go to together for her visit with her dad.
Of course they can use your car. And your gas. Aren't you already helping to pay child support, too?
The judge just wants the father and child to have some alone time to bond. Respect and uphold that. You don't have to, necessarily, be banished from your house. You can be there to cook dinner, then go off to some other part of the house to work on a hobby or read, or yes, even go shopping or run errands if that is convenient for you, not because you were told to.
Don't even worry about her. Just keep being a good step mom. If daddy's happy, and baby's happy, in your company, in your home, (in your car), that's all that matters.
2007-12-06 02:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by NeighborLady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and done that. I had 2 kids and was court ordered that I could not have them when in the presence of another (romantically linked) woman. There were no legal problems as far as domestic type or actually, any others.
2007-12-06 01:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by sensible_man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boy friends anger issues have happened in the last 5 years I think he is a risk - only time tells if he is really better
You want to prove you are a really stable couple that can provide a good home? Get married.
2007-12-06 01:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by roadrunner426440 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to live with unfairness.
2007-12-06 01:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's her child and she has the rights. sorry, you don't have any rights in this situation.
2007-12-06 01:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by jack spicer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋