My mom likes to rub my school and life failures in my face.?

Question

i just failed a math test and she repeatedly called me a failure and shes gonna bicth at me when i get home wut do i do

Answer 1

Short answer? Fight back! Never put up with that kind of abuse from anyone, espescially someone who's supposed to love you as her son. If you did your best on that exam, you have nothing to regret, and anything she says should either fall on deaf ears, or get her just as much argument and disregard as she gave you abuse. I grew up in an angry, resentful household wherein everyone was constantly screaming at each other, but I knew when my Mom or Dad mistreated me when I had done my best or at least what I knew to be right, I had to fight back. Do whatever it takes to get the point across that if she doesn't treat you better and cut you some much deserved slack, she's going to lose you. And "losing you" could mean anything from you finding someone better to live with, to just disregarding everything she says, thinks and orders you to do. You're not a prisoner in her house, and she's not a dungeonmaster. You have to fight back, or else she'll never respect you, and you'll have a harder time respecting yourself. That's my advice, do with it what you will.

-Valkyri

Answer 2

I am truly sorry that your mother calls you a failure. Now think about this. You are preparing yourself for adulthood and take a look at yourself and school. Remember this is your life! What do you expect to be when you finish high school?

Wake up and turn your grades around and start planning what is it that you are searching for in life. You are just starting to get some taste on real life. As far as friends go, they come and go and where will you be ?

Just ignore your mother, some of us don't know how to react towards a love one that has disappointed us in some form. Or leave her a note saying how sorry you are about your grades and promise to do better but you would respect that she not tell you that you are a failure because honestly it is much to yearly in life to say that you have failed? right?

You take the high road and take control of your grades and behavior. Teenagers need to learn that they won't be teenagers for long so grow up. Take care.

Answer 3

even my parents did that.a price to pay for being the elder sibling.i just don't come near them when that happened.the longer the better.i don't consult them on my private problem because i know they will laugh at me and disses me.so the only solution is to keep every aspect of your life a personal issues.your family should not know anything about it.talk about your problems to anyone who is more open-minded like a psychiatrist or a counsellor.it helped me a lot for a long time.on whatever bad things your parents said to you,get over it,ignore them and never share your life with them ever again.consider them just a guardian,not a problem solver.if you are much older[17+],you should fight back.silence is not strong enough.fighting back to show them you are not a children.they can intimidate you when you're a kid,but not anymore.once you achieve something.show some arrogance by not visiting them regularly.just visit them during the holiday season but make sure the visit is not more than 3 days.

Answer 4

Sadly sweetheart there is nothing you can do. My grandmother was the same way. She would and sill to this day rubs all my indiscretions in my face. Did I mention I am 25 now?? Just ignore it and don't let it get to you. Unfortunately in their sick minds they think that by bad-mouthing you that they are going to "mold you" into becoming a better person. They don't realize how hurtful and discouraging what they say is. Keep your head up sweetie your not going through this kind of situation alone. But know there is light at the end of the tunnel. ;-)

Answer 5

You don't have to do anything. Parents can be very unwise sometimes. My daughter is pre-registered for Penn State and she knows how I feel about her grades. But I will never put that type of preassure on her. No matter what your mom tells you, believe that deep inside she really means well. But way she is making you feel is wrong. Believe in the person you know you are. Never get your self be pull down, not even by your own mom. Chin up,,there will be more test. Improve for you and you alone,,not for anybody else. Learn to listen to her, but don't let her words wound you....

Answer 6

First of all darling, remember no one can make you feel bad about yourself without your permission. If you feel like a failure just cos she said so, chances are that you'll become one.

Ignore her and work your butt off being successful in whatever you set out to do. If she still calls you a failure,thats her business. As long as you know you've made a success out of your life without her help and you're where you've always wanted to be.......then it's ok.

Goodluck!

Answer 7

Greetings Hayden,
Your mom may be struggling to cope with emotional problems. You may be a victim of depression and negative stress.
Are you contributing to her frustrations by getting into trouble?
Is she normally a very loving and caring person?
Do you love and care for her?
How do you show your love for her?
Are you doing the right things or are you messing around and ignoring your responsibilities?

What you can do is demonstrate by your actions that you love her and promise her that you will make things right.
Regards
Rik

Answer 8

If you are truly doing your best, then that should be enough. If not, then your mom is just wanting the best for you. I imagine we all would want more for our children then what we had, even if it is hard to understand that at the time. Good luck, and happy holidays!

Answer 9

All i can say is maybe she herself didnt do too well and is disapointed at the fact you arent doing too well either. The real problem is your mums incapability of talking things through rationally, so try not to take it to heart.

Answer 10

She probably feels like a failure herself,and rather than face it ,find it easier to lay it on you.