How did you get a grip on it? I just don't get all that upset about things so I really have a hard time relating to someone who gets so angry that they lose control of what they are doing.
2007-12-06 00:56:49 · 26 answers · asked by Linz VT•AM 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes, I did. I suppose it's still in there, although I had the "stuffing" knocked out of me two years ago when My Steve committed suicide. He used to call my temper tantrums "demon attacks," and would exorcise them. It was a major kindness, because when I recovered, and realized I had much to apologize for, he would say that all I really needed to apologize for was giving in to the demon. It was my duty to resist them, he said.
I understood this to be metaphor, but it was true that if he got close enough to hug me, I would usually come out of it very quickly. It took a good bit of courage for him to get that close, however, because I would scream "Don't touch me," knowing that if he did, I would melt. And to this day I do not know why I didn't want to let go of the demon and hold on to Steve. Now that he's gone, I wish I had.
2007-12-06 01:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have at times... but I tend to hide from the world until it passes because I don't want to take it out on others... as for handleing someone else's outbreaks.... it's different for everyone I suppose, but what I've found that works is to very calmly explain that I'm not going to participate in the "tantrum" and remove myself from the situation... if I can't physically remove myself, I avoid and ignore the negativity... like a child's temper tantrum, when the other party realizes that I'm not giving in, it tempers the anger after enough time has passed... Good luck sweetie
((((((Linz)))))
2007-12-06 10:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was a kid I would break things. I punched a crack in my windshield out of anger as a teenager. Now that I'm older and a miracle later...I have superior control of myself. I would trust myself over anyone not to flip out and go postal. Though I still can yell, I don't break things anymore. And I never hit anybody. I had a religious experience that made me into a new person. I am very appreciative to God for that gift. I am special. :-)
2007-12-06 11:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by Spirit-X 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I've controlled mine to the point now I'm too nice and passive. I was a very aggressive child. I would fight at the drop of a hat. My mom stayed on me about my short fuse. I became very self conscience about my temper. Now I will take a whole lot of crap before I blow up and this always get me in trouble. I'm working on balancing my temper with my patience. Because I can truly say I have been too aggressive and too passive in my life.
2007-12-06 14:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by Big Sam D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to get like that. Once I smashed in the drawers of a filing cabinet. If the anger comes often the person may be dealing with depression. In any case they need to learn to control their emotions instead of letting the emotion control them. We all feel and we can all feel deeply. Allowing those feelings to envelop us and take over is where the problems come in.
The person needs a paradigm change. It is not OK to get violent or verbally abusive because of anger. Accept that you can control your actions and how you react to feelings.
2007-12-06 09:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rage is a very dangerous thing to have. A person can get so enraged that they blackout. I did once and almost killed a man in Chicago. Not to brag, but it took 5 big men to pull me off someone and I have no memory of it ever happening.
Of course I had been drinking. I was in a bar so there were others to stop me. I swore I would never allow myself to get that angry again. It taught me that sometimes it's best to just walk away. It don't mean your scared of them, it can mean your scared of yourself.
2007-12-06 10:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was seriously upset and angry about six months ago.. My ex as she is now, left me for my work colleague and with my baby girl.. Told me one thing and was doing another all the time.. Messed with my head and i just got to a point where i didn't care what would happen to my job or me.. I was raving mad, only thing that sorted my head out was my ace young son.. He made me feel calm and stop losing it.. He doesn't even know he did it, just having him around me and staying more helped me.. :-) God sent!!
2007-12-06 09:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by googoo!! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm angry most of the time but i don't lose control. i think some people are just predisposed to be aggro. most of my anger stems from dumb shitt my boyfriend does and when i talk to him about it he brushes me off or says things like "I am not going to let you make me feel bad" or whatever. so since i fight a constant battle i obviously can't win, i'm angry a lot. i usually just vent to friends about things instead of freaking out and seeking revenge or other low level kind of things. though i almost did throw something at him the other day...
2007-12-06 10:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really never did too much until my pregnancy I guess it's hormones but I get so angry I feel like I could rip the front door off of the house.
2007-12-06 18:03:20 · answer #9 · answered by lucy diamond 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have an angry side, but I have also the power to control myself.
2007-12-06 12:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by ayubchy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋