Is your personality an asset or a liability to your marriage? Most personality traits are expressed by contrasting words. We speak of an individual being optimistic or pessimistic, critical or complimentary, extroverted or introverted, patient or impatient. While our personalities are developed in childhood, they are not set in concrete.
If I realize that my tendency to withdraw and remain silent is detrimental to my marriage than I can learn to share my feelings and thoughts. If I realize that my critical attitude is killing the spirit of my mate, then I can break the pattern and learn to give compliments. The message of the Bible is that God loves us as we are, but He loves us too much to leave us as we are. We all need to grow. Growth requires change. I am influenced by my personality, but I need not be controlled by my personality. I am to be controlled by the Holy Spirit. When I yield to Him, I will see significant changes in my approach to life and marriage.
2007-12-06 00:28:27 · 11 answers · asked by unknown 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good question, agreed that yielding to God will bring about changes in your life. As I believe, regarding personal growth, as you grow closer to God, you will indirectly grow in your role as husband, in that you will mature in your love and commitment to your wife and family.
2007-12-06 00:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by Rob 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow I love your spiritual outlook on marriage....
A lot of what you wrote is deep but correct! I'm impressed! I only wish a lot of men would read that and get the exact same impression I got out of that question and paragraph! It made so much sense.....
I can honestly say that will give me a better outlook on my marriage and where growth comes in at, and how I'll have a better understanding with Christ in on all of this....
How do they say husband and wives have to stay in the ministry together...........
2007-12-06 01:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by rita_hiemy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would love to give you words of wisdom for marital growth. But I can't. It all depends on the couple. If they are willing to grow together in their love for each other and the lord. There are many people out there that do not wish to change.
2007-12-06 00:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if two ppl have optimistic personalities, they will clash now and then. even tooth and tongue fall out you know, but yes we must be lovingly controlled by the Holy Spirit who will never lead us in the wrong direction. one way to help solve being a negative person is; don't come to the discussion table with a problem if u don't have a solution in mind. it takes two.
2007-12-06 02:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by Audrean L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely. Our world is in a constant state of change. We should also be willing to change for the better person within to foster an ever deepening love and respect for our partner.
2007-12-06 00:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and I agree with your philosophy. But, it requires a good mental attitude and willingness to make changes. Oftentimes people are too lazy.
2007-12-06 04:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course
2007-12-06 00:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by JAY920 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An asset.
2007-12-06 00:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is an asset, as long and you two grow together. I truly appreciate all that you said, it is all soooooo true. Thanks for the lesson this morning. . .
2007-12-06 00:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your thinking good, but please include your wife in the process. She will have her own agenda and you must consider hers as well as your own. Consider her as your 'partner' as well as your wife. Growth is good, do it together, don't grow apart.
2007-12-06 00:41:07 · answer #10 · answered by rustyoldma 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋