or do you recognise it as a perfectly valid temperament?do shy women let balzy and brass feminist ladies down?because they are 'wishy washy', 'docile' and seemingly 'submissive' amongst other terms...?Men and women what are your views?
2007-12-05 23:33:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
No. I think you've got it all wrong - shy women aren't necessarily submissive. There's a lot of perceptions about shy people and people tend to think shy people are boring - that's not the case. I find that shy people are usually interesting and intelligent if you get to know them. They just have to manage their shyness so that it doesn't get in the way of progress - not easy though, this is not something people just get over.
2007-12-06 00:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know where you're coming from. I feel like I am in a very similar situation. My fiance works constantly. Know that you are not being selfish. It's good that you have mentioned it to her, but I would really talk to her about it. Be understanding of how stressed out she is--she really does have a lot on her plate, but then again it's not fair for you to be "second place" to her life. Tell her that you would like to take her out on a date, buy her flowers, write her a sweet card. Let her know that you two need to spend some time away from the business of life because your relationship depends on it. Tell her what you just told us, that you don't want to cheat on her and you don't want to get a divorce, that you just want HER. You may have to sweep her off of her feet for the evening and then start slow with the intimacy. Start with a back rub then please HER so that she knows what she's missing. This is something that needs to be done, it's time for an intervention. GOOD LUCK, I know it's tough!
2016-05-28 10:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by audrey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really view shyness as a negative thing, as opposed to something like arrogance. Shyness is simply a personality trait that doesn't necessarily need to be corrected as some might suggest. That would be like telling a naturally gregarious person to be quiet - they would go nuts.
I'm not shy, although a lot of people might say I am based on the fact that I am not a very chatty, verbal sort of person. They are usually flabbergasted when they find out that I can be quite bold and opinionated. Also that I have a sense of humor that takes people by complete surprise and leaves them laughing their @$$ off.
Now, shyness may or may not be a hindrance in the workplace. Obviously if a person is in sales that would not be a good thing, but in jobs where great focus is required it could be a good thing. My husband was recently confronted with a hiring decision - he was reluctant because she was shy and was afraid that she might not do well in meetings. The shyness was initially taken as a sign of incompetence.
He hired her anyway because she knew her $#it and she has not only been a great employee, but she speaks her mind when she needs to and she stays focused on her job. Unlike some other employees that are disruptive and spend their day socializing.
Yes, I believe the world needs all sorts of people and that's a beautiful thing.
2007-12-06 01:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by Vianka 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Some women cannot get over being shy or quiet. It has a lot to do with how they were raised.
They may have been verbally abused, had an over bearing father, mother or even sibling.
Now, how can you let a balzy, brassy women down? I've known many women like this and they really don't give a **** what others think. Amen. Let the poor shy women alone, for goodness sake
2007-12-05 23:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by shortimer 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't 'get over' your natural demeanour. Shyness isn't always down to lack of confidence, and neither is submission. Being a true feminist is about letting everyone be themselves and accepting people for who they are. If we all had the same temperament life would be pretty boring!
2007-12-06 06:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by Odin's daughter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being shy isn't something you 'just get over' because you become a certain age nor does it have anything to do with any of the negative things you describe them as being. Shy women can be feminists, by the way, and brassy women can be stay-at-home traditionalists. What's the point of your question?
2007-12-06 01:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It isn't something that's my business, live and let live and accept people whether they are loud or shy.
Shy women aren't letting the feminists down. I reckon feminists have got enough gumption to speak for those who are shy and wanting help, that's if they wish to be, otherwise women who are happy with status quo can remain they way they are and live happily.
2007-12-06 00:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by Shivers 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are shy, then you are shy. If you want to change that, then it is up to you to it. I know many people that are shy, I am to a certain extent, but have gotten over it as I get older and have to stand up for myself. I believe that shy people think that their opinion isn't important, but everyones opinion is important and the more you express yourself, the less shy you will be.
2007-12-05 23:50:08 · answer #8 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a shy woman myself I say it's perfectly natural personality trait and should be accepted and respected as much as the outgoing types.
2007-12-06 04:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a shy girl, (more out of self-preservation), but not anymore. I don't like their behavior. I think that everyone should come out of their protective shell a little bit once they are adults. For me, it's passive-aggressive and controlling behavior most of the time. But there are some women who've been abused physically and mentally, and some reason they're not able to cope; hence, their temperament.
2007-12-06 00:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by Ladyhawke 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋