i feel i was good at nothing . And i feel depressed when some on says that how can u be like this stupid.?

Question

Many of my friends have settled in jobs. I was not dare enough even to try. I feel i was not fit for that. Not fit for any thing. I hate myself for being like this. I feel life is boring. I wish i could be dare enough to do anthing. But i was not such kind. I feel inferior .

Answer 1

I suggest you consult a counsellor and start working on Self-Esteem issues. The counsellor should be able to tell you a good self help book to use and use the counsellor to assist in this self improvement process. The one I am personally using is Self Esteem by Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning.

Also, start taking activities such as sport (team), try a new hair cut, a new ice cream, if you speak a lot try to listen, if you listen try to speak up instead, at the end of every day try write up a list of things that made you happy on that given day. Also, try writing a three page journal every day - try it for a month or so and promise yourself that you or no one else is going to read that journal for a year at least (in order to avoid self judgement) - this journal would be a safe place to write down your thoughts and feelings and would hopefully help you listen to your own voice.

I am personally going through the process of building my self esteem and tackling certain personal issues and it is challenging, but as someone said 'once you taste success there won't be any turning back!' And lastly, make it THE priority in your life. Only you are responsible for your happiness. It is all inside of you.

A good website to consider is: http://www.joy2meu.com/ It talks about co-dependence. I have been reading thru this site lately and it has helped me a lot. It is similar to building self esteem etc, getting out of the victim perspective and empowering yourself as a person. Also look at: http://www.joy2meu.com/SelfWorth.htm for info on self worth!
Trust me it is a VERY good website and I say that from my own experience!

Good luck!

Answer 2

boss look dnt go to a doctor he will prescribe something and u will think ya iam taking what he said and i will become ok
NO U WONT
and also nt to a counsler he will worsen ur feelings later on

So the best what u can do is sit some where peacefully and think what are u how are u different from others. I am saying this cos i have been through this before . So back to your question. Sit and think for a minute and start doing the job which u like let it be what ever and then u can accomplish in life cos u will come to know what to do and what not to. Once u work some where only u will come to know what is right for u and what is not anywayz buddy this is my advice u continue with what ur mind and heart says nt some one else sayings k

Answer 3

Don't decide by yourself that u are fit for nothing.

Why you think so? Ask Too many whys to yourself. Try to identify the field which you like. Try to get some job in that field.

Don't think job is just for earning. When done whole heartedly your soul will enjoy what you are doing.

Don't try to follow all the thing what others speak about you. FOLLOW YOUR HEART.


NOTE:

Go for a long EARLY MORNING walk. 5 a.m. to 6 a.m. provided it is safe in you place. You can also see many people walking at that time. Listen to nature. It will give you a clear and happy mindset which helps you the entire day.

JUST GIVE IT A TRY. You will feel the difference.

Answer 4

in the dictionary it says that the meaning of stupid is being willingly ignorant.
Your the one causing your life to be this way. You need go out and figure out what you enjoy(: or what makes you happy(:

when you find something you like, do it! even if it is being a garbage man or a plumber or lol a light guy at a theater. when you find something that makes you happy. Do it. Because you will always be un happy with a high paying job that you hate.

Are you shy? or are you just depressed? Do you have low self confidience so you dont believe in yourself to do anything? Maybe you need some therapy, just to help you work things out in your mind(: it really can help.

i hope i helped.): im so sorry you feel this way

Answer 5

Everyone is good at something. Maybe you already know or maybe you have to find it. What do you enjoy doing? What causes the world and tie to disappear or stop being a concern when you do it? That is what your calling is. Feel better about yourself and things will change. Don't gage yourself against the success of others. Gage yourself against your own accomplishments, no matter how small. Everyone has a purpose an every step towards that purpose, no matter how small will make you feel better if you pay attention. You'll see!

Answer 6

no one is inferior. no one is a waste.

well, my sis always used 2 feel depressed coz she thought she was good at nothing and she is a loser.

but i saw that over the time, she got over herself.
she joined in and started to learn new things.

that s what i would suggest you.

what does it matter if ur frenz have settled in jobs but u havent?? ur just taking ur time to figure stuff out. after all, good things take time.

just relax and take some time off. if you think u cant dare urself enough to do something by urself, ask ur frend to join in...maybe say for tennis or golf or some sport.
maybe start to learn musical instruments...they are really good and relax ur mind.
maybe join the gym or start going to evening walks.
Get a pet.
start to learn how to dance or sing or knit or draw or sculpt or paint.
join a club.
do community service or charity.
travel around the world or go to places where u had always wanted to go or are fascinated by.


from big to small...there are many things to try out to make ur life interesting. and in trying out new things, u might discover a skill u never knew u had ! :)

Answer 7

The point is you FEEL. You aren't. You just feel that way. See the difference. Everyone can do something. Everyone. We have people here at work that are retarded and can do many things. Are you retarded? Then you are 12 steps ahead of them aren't you? Volunteer somewhere. A hospital or nursing home if you like people. An animal shelter or the zoo if you don't. You will gain confidence and help build your interests so you can discover what you are going to do with your life.

Answer 8

just get off your *** and do whatever it is you have to do. no one in this world is inferior (apart from englishmen at international sporting competitions). stop feeling sorry for yourself because that does no good at all, and nobody is going to feel sorry for you apart from yourself. so start thinking about yourself and your desires. and remember FAKOUM HALL. this is your life. life is crap for everybody, jsut that some people manage by in life with luck or with the correct attitude. Remember: Peggio non è morto mai. there's always somebody around the world in a worst situation than you are. out of respect for them, get yourself moving.

Answer 9

You are not inferior just unique as the Creator or your parents made you. Beautiful just as you are .........with room for growth.
Study self more..........ask the whys that are important to you and for you ....growing pains are rough but you will get through this. Remember there is a time and a season for every thing under the heavens.
Shine on............!

Answer 10

I hope you get to some counseling... There's a saying:" God didn't make any junk", meaning everyone's life has worth. I know someone who thinks like you. He is now on medication and is beginning to feel better about himself. If you can't afford it, there are community clinics where you can go, to get some help. Please follow thru. You are worth it... Good luck to you....