I'm a 22 year old girl and i have my own house, a good job, and i'm a nice person. The trouble is i live near my family. My mom and dad live on the same block and i have 2 sisters and a brother that live only a few blocks away. They are all constantly fighting and arguing with each other and it's driving me nuts! I always feel like i'm caught in the middle because i seem to be the only level headed one among a bunch of rude hotheads. I'm really tired of it and it's starting to wear me down mentally and physically. I'm thinking about getting away from all of them and relocating to another city. Would i be wrong for doing this? I love my family but i can't take this crap anymore. A co-worker told me that family should always stick together even if they don't get along. I disagree. Can i get some answers on this topic? This is my first time on Yahoo Answers. My friend told me about it so i decided to give it a try. HELLLLLLPPPPP!!
2007-12-05 19:40:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If they keep getting you involved and/or it is effecting you. You need to confront them and let them know that it's driving you crazy. If that doesn't work and you are happy to get a fresh start move. But remember they will still call and always insist on visits and/or a place to stay for a holiday.
My boyfriend and I moved 8 months ago to a another town (11 hour drive). It took his crazy family 2 months to leave us alone.
2007-12-05 19:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by moesha12611985 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's starting to become an emotional strain, I think it's time to move on.
You can love your family from a distance.
If the nearness of your family is causing problems, invading your space, making you take sides in arguments, and basically a disruption to your life it is time to cut the chord and look to moving farther away.
I would suggest somewhere that is 4-5 hours away by car. You'd be near enough if there was an emergency, but not so far that they can't visit you for the important incidents in their life.
They may not know that this is affecting you negatively. Their awareness of the situation and now it is impacting you may be enough to remedy the solution.
Never put up with abuse, and do not let them control you - EVER.
Visit the largest city 4-5 hours from you and scout job possibilities and look for an apartment. Go to a few interviews in the new city, land yourself a job. Save up enough money to make a smooth transition and get away from these negative influences.
Good luck!
2007-12-05 19:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by Krissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there! You are NOT wrong to want to move away, in fact you moving away could be the best thing you do for them, as well as for yourself. Think about it. You attempt to be the calming mediator, and if you are gone, they have to find other ways of settling their differences.
I think that the notion that a family should stick together no matter what is a load of ABSOLUTE RUBBISH. I have a much better relationship with my sister and mother now that I live a nice distance away from them! The expression 'familiarity breeds contempt' was coined for a reason, and there's a lot of truth in that other old chestnut 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'.
So start making preparations to move somewhere else, and if your family make a song and dance about it, just tell them the truth, that you have to get away from them because they're wrecking your head. If you have to get away from them in order to have a quiet life, it's their fault for driving you away. That should give them something to chew on.
2007-12-05 20:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move, it maybe the best thing for you.........I had the same problem and I married and moved away all was well then my husband died and I moved back as I was only 28 years old after 10 years of marriage.....boy was that a mistake I'm now in the same boat as yourself........but now I'm 48 .........& it's really an emotional strain. So you have to experience a thing to really know for sure. Have a great journey what ever you choose....!
2007-12-05 20:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by rainbowmatrixs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to be away from the family. Visit them once a week if all are in one city. Otherwise keep contact everymonth. Joining everybody together means again the unpleasantness. But dont fight and leave them.
2007-12-05 20:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by chidambaram k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shift to another house in the same city.goodluck.
2007-12-05 20:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by toploser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a long relaxing vacation away from them,...
that might help..
2007-12-05 19:59:52 · answer #7 · answered by hellgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it wont be wrong
2007-12-05 20:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by Dawn L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋