If you could remove all the pain and sadness from someone's soul, would you? If so, who would be your target?

Question

The catch is you must take that pain and sadness on yourself... Could you? would you?

Goldbear; This is obviously a hypothetical situation. We simple don't have that ability. We as humans can only use the methods you described. But to suggest that the situation is some kind of passive-aggressive martyrdom is also accusing Jesus Christ of the same "selfish" motives. Christ is, after all the prime example of the sinario I was describing. I just wanted to see how people would react to it in a secular context. If and I say "if" a person could have that much compassion, I think he would do it secretly and with no strings attatched. So I'm guessing you are in the "no" group.

Answer 1

I would take my older sister b/c she needs it. She has had enough hard things in her life. I would take my ex husbands. He is so hurt and negative. It hurts me to see him like this so I feel it either way so yes in a heartbeat I would remove both of these people's pain and take it upon myself.

Answer 2

If I could remove it I don't think I would. This is not because I am not willing to take on another's burdens but rather because I feel that the pain and sadness in our souls make us who we are. If you take away pain or sadness you do a wonderful thing... but what lesson does that person learn?

Answer 3

Most of the people who have answered this question never experienced great sadness or the deepest love.

Giving no for an answer because you think the other person won't be able to appreciate happiness without pain and sadness is bull.

Given that pain and sadness already exist in the other person's heart and you just have to remove it means he has already experienced what it's like to be down there.

If you really care about someone you'd want to save him from all the crap that would be thrown at him and make him forget his painful existence.

how could you answer like this, people? you don't use your head, not even your heart.

Answer 4

no, i wouldnt remove all the pain and sadness from anyone's soul. because if there is no pain or sadness we wont be able to appreciate the true value of happiness.
but i am ready to take on someone's problem and that someone will be the person i love most, in my case my parents. then they will fully enjoy happiness and i will have an opportunity to appreciate the happy life i had had.

Answer 5

No. Feelings of sadness and pain make us human. They allow us to learn from mistakes, to sympathize with others, and play a part in our free will. Taking away their pain or sadness does not make the world free of pain or destruction, or tragedy. It would take away the grieving process and lessen our understanding of human nature. It really does make us stronger. What I would like to do though is to help the person understand their pain, or what makes them sad, to help them accept it, help them cope, and maybe lessen their pain and/or sadness. If I could do these things I would start with my daughters and husband.

Answer 6

No because pain and sadness are the opposites of joy and so you can't have one without experiencing the other. Pain and sadness is as much a part of life as happiness.

Answer 7

Sorry to bust your bubble....but I think this is a senseless question....Who do I love enough to take on all their pain and to willingly suffer in their place...and am I not just a stellar person for doing so?....The question seems more of a cattle call for all the martyrs out there... adding glamour to their dysfunctional behaviors.....Years ago there was a TV show called "Queen for a Day"....viewers then would fatasize about what that would be like......This question is similar....."Martyr for a Day,"...Looking closer, the use of the word Target is, in a twisted sort of way appropriate.....surely my Target would be happy to have their pain removed....but any decent sort of human being would feel extreme guilt then for my suffering....and this, in a nutshell, is exactly what martyrs do to control others...it gives the appearance of benevolence to malevolent intention....This helpful martyr is meeting their own needs and is not really very helpful....not in the long haul....they make others miserable but look like such a humanitarian in doing so....

Life seldom calls upon us to lay down our lives for another...which surely would be an act of heroism....What we are presented with frequently in life is the opportunity to help others who are suffering...but rather than martyring ourselves, it is much more effective to work and strive to become stronger and more competant, to learm to cope better and to learn skills to aleviate suffering....and then to minister to the suffering, to help heal their pain and to teach them to do this themselves.....this is what true healers do....and they do it with no martyr strings attached....sorry I can't get into your fantasy....and I see many of the other responders couldn't either....but they probably said it nicer than I did.........

Answer 8

At first I thought, "Yes, I would do this for my children." But then it occurred to me that by doing this, I would be cheating them of experiencing life. How would they ever grow? How could they ever be sympathetic or empathetic. Honestly, how could they function in the real world without experiencing this?

Answer 9

only great souls like u have the strength,ref vedic healing by dr frawley meditating and chanting mantras help,and practised by indian saints for centuries

Answer 10

I would do it for my best friend. she's a much happier person now, but she struggled for a long time (both her and her mother) with a terrible step-father. he stole their money, made her mom work like a slave, and constantly caused arguments and problems. if i could erase the pain she felt then, I'd gladly accept.