Here lately I do nothing. I am home all the time without a car, I don't work, I have no friends, no life. I am married but he is hardly here. I feel so Isolated. This has been going on almost a year. Has anyones life ever gotten like this, it is almost like I am scared to get out there and socialize again. I don't know what is wrong with me.
2007-12-05 17:44:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry, I know this really isn't marriage or divorce, but maybe you can help too
2007-12-05 17:45:14 · update #1
try getting involved with some womens groups. volunteering is a great way to meet people with the same interests. I'm trying to do this right now, actually.
2007-12-05 17:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you to have a life. Get up off the couch and do something. You don't have to have a car to go places. You have two feet and most cities and even small towns have bus service.
Go for a walk around your neighborhood. You might be able to meet your neighbors and start a friendship. Go to your local park and have a picnic lunch. You may meet people there too. Find out where the theater is located. Walk or take the bus. Enjoy a movie. See if your town has a roller rink, go skating. Bowling alley, go bowling. Miniature golf is always a kick. Find a local bible church, they do all kinds of activities and will be friendly and welcoming. Only you can change your circumstances. Be brave try something new today.
Volunteer at the hospital or old folks home. There are a lot of lonely people there, who would love a visit from you.
Just open the door and step out into the sunshine.
2007-12-06 01:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, that's my life, except I wish I had a spouse even if she wasn't around much.
I've been struggling with the same thoughts. I know that I'm isolated and that I need to do something about it, but sometimes I get out there and truly I just want to go back home where it's warm and comfortable. I agree with one of the answers, that people in our situation really do need to act before it becomes a problem. There are people that just can't leave their houses anymore.....I suspect they started much the same way. I do get out for work, so I think that keeps me somewhat connected, but I can go for days without seeing another human being.
I know that exercise is the single most important thing to start back on the road of feeling normal and connected again. Hmmmm. I guess I'll need to be doing more of that!
Good luck to you, you are not alone.
2007-12-06 02:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people here are harsh but yes i have 4 kids an my husband work 19 hours a day an he's asleep the rest so I understand completely how you feel! I don't really know what to tell you cause I'm at home too! Just try to accept it! I love my life even though it's boring at time's but my children are what keeps me going! I spend every second I can playing games or watching a movie! I have them so my life isn't that bad! Do stuff with your family! Good Luck we need it!!!!!
2007-12-06 02:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by ajjsdj4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I'm in the same boat as you. You have to turn off that pc and get into some walking gear. Get some air. Meet new people. You don't have to make pleasant talk you don't mean but a simple hi hello would brighten up your day. I'm alone most of the time as well and I try to be productive by learning new things and doing what's best for me - exercise, get some sun, get some fresh air, bike and listen to good music. Don't let it defeat you. You only feel that way because you allow it to be.
2007-12-06 01:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, you need to pursue your dreams and interests too. You need not wait for your husband to be home for you to feel fulfilled and accomplished. Be productive. Know what interests you and what you are good at. Life becomes meaningless if you let days passed by without doing anything about it. Join social clubs (such as: cooking/culinary classes, go to fitness gyms) and attend seminars that offer part time jobs.
Its not too late to make a change in your life. Just take initiative in pursuing something you really want to do. Be a better person/wife by doing things that would enhance yourself.
2007-12-06 01:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by addicted too 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a hobby fast
i got a case of the depressed lazies myself and it lasted 3 YEARS
help yourself fast
if you are codependant take a cooking class
homely learn to knit
afraid of the world tae kwon do
need to express yourself-writers group
need to lighten up-- go to a comedy club
build a garden and you will feel useful
do it from seeds and you will feel like you can do anything after all there was life in your hands
most importantly do something bc you stop appreciating life and then you stop appreciating you or vica versa and equally bad
best wishes
2007-12-06 01:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by smittnlittlkitn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my life is pretty much like that, except I am (rather unwillingly) leaving him within the next two weeks.
I think I would rather have the security and love, than the excitement.
2007-12-06 01:49:54 · answer #8 · answered by Red Velvette KY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Second had stores are fun to hang around in for a start.
2007-12-06 01:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go 2 the counselling centre and seek help. u can \also try on line counselling.
2007-12-06 01:55:01 · answer #10 · answered by srajendran m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋