i have been in the same miserable relationship for 6 yrs and i want out but i dont know how to do it. We argue all of the time and whenever we're not arguing, we hardly speak at all. we dont even watch tv in the same room. Sne acts as if everything is fine but she cant be serious. p.s. kid involved. I love my daughter and want to raise her but i dont think i can take anymore. Advice Plz
2007-12-05 16:29:46 · 10 answers · asked by the dude 513 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you're miserable. You're not doing yourself and your daughter a favor by staying there. When 2 people live together and don't speak to each other. It's time to leave. If you're miserable in your marriage, you'll be miserable with everything you do.
Arguing is not communicating. All you guys do is destroying the relationship even farther. Maybe you should leave but don't date anyone until you get a divorce. You need to live by yourself for awhile and learn how to love yourself. Otherwise, you'll attract the same type of women.
2007-12-05 16:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by Notredame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should be in a relationship where they are very unhappy. I know it's harder to get out when a child is involved, I've been there. But as soon as you go for it, you will see a major improvement in your happiness. I don't think that anyone should give up, so If you guys have tried everything, even counseling, then you just need to talk and try to keep things on good terms so she won't try anything like keeping your daughter away. Good luck!
2007-12-06 00:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by Mischelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask your girlfriend whether she thinks you two have a good relationship? Then discuss it with her. You'll always have a rocky time in relationships if you can't discuss what bothers you and listen to the other person explain what bothers them. Of course a child makes a difference. You should be married to the mother of your child. You should commit to being a responsible adult in the relationship and talking about your problems and working on them. Do you think you're in high school and this is the way people deal with things?
2007-12-06 01:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way is to sit down with your wife and discuss how you feel and what you want. A trial separation might do the trick but legal advisers will always recommend family counseling first before any divorce proceeding is begun. You don't have to miss out on your daughter's life as long as you talk to your wife about your relationship with her first. Get that settled and everything else will follow.
2007-12-06 00:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out now! Don't raise your daughter under the example of a bad relationship. Her idea of love and family comes from you and your partner- don't raise her thinking that this is a good family. Be strong and be honest with your partner. Think seriously about what you want to happen - have a plan of action - then speak with your spouse. Be prepared for more fighting, but if things are as bad as you describe, he/she might be just as ready to get out too. Good luck.
2007-12-06 00:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by Vanessa S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to get out, staying together for the children benefits no one. Your daughter knows that there is a problem. She is probably stressed about it also. They are very perceptive and know things that you do not think that they know. It just makes everyone miserable. You need to tell her that you want to split up and you need to get your own place. You need to make plans and take care of everything.
2007-12-06 00:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for you to Move on !! Your daughter can sense that things aren't right, and her Daddy isn't happy. People kill me when they stay together "for the kids". Kids are way smarter than given credit for !!! Why be miserable anymore?? Separate, then file for divorce, and start over Fresh !! Good Luck !!!
2007-12-06 00:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave. But make sure that all the loose ends are tied up, that this isn't just a phase or misunderstanding. Maybe you are ready to have peace and quiet in the house, a place that doesn't leave you drained with the fighting. It will only be better for your beloved daughter. If you truly can't fight for the marriage any longer, maybe you can just suggest a trial separation to start with.
2007-12-06 00:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are looking for a way to end it. You could talk to a counsellor to help you say it right and I would recommend physically leaving. Also, think about talking to a lawyer first for the legal side of things. It's best to be prepared and who knows how she will react.
2007-12-06 00:37:34 · answer #9 · answered by banana6464 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happy separated parents are always better than unhappy together parents.
2007-12-06 00:34:27 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋