I don't know what to do. I think i'm pregant and i am only 14. And the worst part would be i wouldn't even know who the father would be? If i am do you think my life is done for or do I still have a chance?
2007-12-05 16:19:37 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
now i know that i am telling this on the internet but im not ashamed because shyt happens. i had sex with 7-8 people.
2007-12-05 16:32:44 · update #1
I TOLD YOU GUYS I SLEPT WITH 7-8 PEOPLE
2007-12-05 16:39:28 · update #2
i have a therapist since august i just think ive grown up ALOT
2007-12-05 17:40:48 · update #3
Nope! It just changes it. You gain knowledge in certain areas and lose the chance to gain knowledge in other areas. You also lose alot of time to *be young* and enjoy the things that teenagers should. You ned to do alot of soul searching within yourself and make the right decision for yourself. Adoption can be an option. I know its hard, but it is an option. Or you can go through with it and try and juggle things within your life. Just dont give up schooling. Then having a baby young does make your life alot more complicated, but not RUINED!
2007-12-05 16:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by NIPS® 7 · 7⤊ 2⤋
I feel that it would ruin a person life if they have a baby at such a young age. They have to grow up very quickly. And not in the sense that they are more mature. In the sense that they are more mature and more responsible. When you have a baby, it becomes your whole life. So going out, having friends, and even school is compromised. And it is very hard to do all of that with a baby. But not every young person's life is ruined. It all depends on the person and how well they take the situation. Everyone is different.
However (and I am honestly not trying to be rude), you don't sound like you're ready for this. And this would definatly ruin your life. You are a young girl who slept with a lot of guys. I'm 21 and haven't slept with nearly that much. So because of that, you don't know who the babies father is. That shows great immaturity. I hope you tell every guy you slept with that it may be there child and get a DNA test on every single one of them
2007-12-05 18:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by thathockeychick23 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the people. My sister was 21 when she had her daughter and her husband is a hard working, faithful, smart man. They're happy and doing ok in life. My younger sister, on the other hand, is 18, had her daughter when she was 15. She'll leave her daughter to my mom to take care of for weeks, and not even worry. I visited her a few months ago, she hadn't seen her daughter in two weeks and was finally going to see her daughter again the same day I was leaving, and you know what she had the nerves to ask me? If I wanted to go clubbing with her and her husband. Uh, that's bad. It just goes to show that having a child young can really take away your freedom. She wanted to experience all the clubbing, drinking, smoking scenes, but couldn't really do so because she always had a child to go home, too. I understand once in a while partying, but some young teens just want to party for a LONG time, and a kid will definitely ruin that! It's not just that, but school and work is hard. My little sister fought with my mom because when she tried going to school and work, my mom refused babysitting after a while. My mom will do what she can, but she has a life, too. She's not going to be the designated babysitter watching her grandkids from 7 AM 'til 10 PM. Unless you know you're in good standing for a stable life, you shouldn't have kids on purpose.
2016-05-28 09:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that your life will be completly ruined. It all depends on the person and the mother that you want to be. You could be like a lot of girls and still carry on with your own life and let your parents raise the baby. OR you can do the right thing...stay in school, try to get a job, let your parents HELP (not do everything) and be a mom...not a slutty teenager. I was a teen mom, and sometimes things do work out. I am still with the babies father and we have two more kids 11 years later. Not that that will be the case for you. But, you can get homeschooling while you are pregnant and get assistance for daycare so you can finish High school. But, you will have a responsibiltiy now. do whats right and take care of yourself and your baby from now on. No more being a foolish teen, that is cool until you are a mom. And guess what: you are about to be one. Take responsibiltity for you actions and get yourself where you need to be to establish a life for your child.
2007-12-06 01:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by mama3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to ruin your life...but you have to be prepared to give up everything for 18 years to take care of this child. I can tell by your question that you are in no way mature or stable enough to raise a child. You say you have a therapist, I'd talk to them...there is no way a 14 year old should have slept with 7 to 8 people, you have self-esteem issues and you aren't going to be a good parent if and until you can work those out. Good luck.
2007-12-06 00:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by beaners1229 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you still have a chance, but it's going to be a lot harder than if you hadn't had a child. That goes for people in their twenties as well. You need to find out for sure if you are pregnant and then figure out what to do from there. Do you want to raise this child, or give it up for adoption? It is possible to raise a child and still have a successful future, but it is much more of a struggle. You have to find a babysitter in order to continue school....When you get a job, same thing.
I had my daughter at 18. I struggled for quite a long time, working dead end jobs that barely paid enough to pay the bills. I didn't live in the most ideal places. Everything I tried to do was made a lot harder by the fact that I had a child.
With hard work, it is possible to have a good life. I currently run a business, I'm part owner (with my husband) of another business, we own our own home and we have a comfortable life. I plan on going back to college as soon as my youngest is in school. I would have to say that my life is good, but I have busted my butt for many years to get to where I am.
Having a child does not mean you have ruined your life. A child is a wonderful thing, but I'm not going to lie and say it's easy...It's not. All you can do is work hard and eventually, your life will be on track.
2007-12-05 16:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
No your life is not ruined, far from it, but it will be tough on you. Do not have an abortion. I was a mom at your age, so I know what you are going through first hand. It will be very difficult, for you, but stay in school go to college. It will seem like an impossible task at the time, but don't give up and it will all work out in the end. Looking back, I'm glad I never gave up even though it was difficult, so you do the same.
2007-12-06 08:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by chocolate4vanilla76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your life is not ruined if you are just going to be a little different. Having a baby in your care is tons of work and requires tons of responsability. Stay in school get your grade 12 and try to become something dont do drugs or drink around the kid .
Your life is only ruined if you let it be ruined just embrase the fact your having a child and dont let it become a handicap. And if your not pregnet get some form of birth control and make fort knox.
Not sure where your from but there are places you can call that can provide support if u are pregent and after you given birth. Respite care (professional/friend/family) though is a most at a young age has you will want to hang with your friends and stuff.
2007-12-05 16:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by Jack N 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No matter your age, you do have choices to make. But first of all you need to get an official pregnancy test to see if you are pregnant. Second, you need to decide: to have it and keep it; have it and give it up for adoption; or get an abortion. If you choose to have and keep the baby, your life is not over! You will have basically cut your chances for a normal adolescence esp if you don't know who the father is and therefore cannot rely on his being there with and for you. Would your parents help you with the baby?
Do you care for yourself so little that you have to look to so many others for that reassurance that you are a valued human being? Giving yourself to so many is not a safe practice. Are you sure you don't have an STD? Regardless of the baby situation, I recommend some personal counseling even if that means speaking with your school counselor or asking your parents for help.
2007-12-05 17:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by Suepee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I do not think so. Well, if you know the 7-8 guys you slept with they can each take a Father test otherwise its not the best situation. You still have a chance. Your life is not done for till the fat lady sings and pigs fly. Neither one of those things are happening so you do still have a chance. Serious though you still have a chance I thought I would make a joke just to lighten things a little bit.
2007-12-05 17:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Before you panic you should find out for sure and then tell your parents. I know that you are scared but believe me even if they are hurt at first I am sure they will stand by you and help you make the right choices.
Sometimes the best thing for you to do could be the hardest like putting the baby up for adoption. At you age and if your family is not finacially able to help you it may be the best option for you and the child.
In any event even if you decide to keep the baby the only way to make something of your life is to stay in school and get an education, don't cut yourself short by dropping out.
If you find out you are not then immediately stop having unprotected sex. In fact stop having sex at all until you are mature enough to handle it.
2007-12-05 16:32:45 · answer #11 · answered by lizabet17110 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋