Me and my exboyfriend were together for 4 months. We were each others first loves. My ex boyfriend who broke up with me almost a year ago will not speak to me, of me, or look at me. He basicly pretends that I do not exsist. He broke up with me over the computer. He also has told me over the computer that he no longer loves me. He told me the reason we cannot be friends is because I told him after we broke up that he never loved me. I then apoligized and have apoligized again since then. He continues to act as if I don't exsist. We have the same friends and I see him often but he will not talk to me or look in my direction. Why does he act this way?
2007-12-05 16:10:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
This is a good question.
I have the very same problem the very same.. same with my ex b/f years ago.. never spoke back to me oh though we met for coffee but still tried punish me and never spoke again 3 years ago and we broke 5 years ago and never spoke until 3 years later and now since that never.. I pretended to be someone els in the chatroom and then spoke to him.. he thinks i was someone els personater. I talked to him and then try to answer some questions later down the strack..
I told him about relationship discusions and i told him... So you broke up with relationships in the past... (will you ever get back to them as friends or see them) he said.. NO.. he does not want to do nothing about them Then he said they all (obsserve with me from the past love) And then he said something about (i dont want to see them be friends or be near me..) so pretty much what you have said (non exsist)
Its sad though.. Maybe its a punishment or that he has more life then what i have?
I think of him so much and its been years we havnt seen or chated or such... so much for memories.. i gues he sees me as non exsistance ever...
Why is this... I told him more to why. he said ( i dont want to do anything about them.. they all obbserve and in archiveing by getting abck to me in relationship when its all ones and over) so when he said that he sure does not want to do anything of see or talk to them..
So why ? i dont get it.. is he afraid ? or such?
2007-12-05 16:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people cant be bothered maintaining appearances of still being a "friend" after the romantic interest has died. You needed an excuse...he found the only one he could, he didnt really need to give you any excuse at all. You still arent happy with the one he came up with....so, how long do you want to go in circles, in your head, with this?
2007-12-05 16:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do one thing for yourself...move forward and stop dwelling on your past relationship. Stop putting the blame on him and focus positive thoughts to you. It sounds like you are both young and have a lot of growing to do. Did he love you yes, he probably did.
The more you push yourself on him the further away he will pull from you.
Stop the obsession and live your life. Once he sees you moving forward he will be able too....and maybe one day you can be friends.
2007-12-05 16:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by Karen F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is acting like this because he knows it hurts you and is trying to punish you for God knows what.
The best way to get him to stop this is to move on with your life. As soon as he sees that you don't care anymore he will probably stop the manipulation. Move on girl! He is only going to keep hurting you if this is the way he acts. Don't let him play you anymore.
2007-12-05 16:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about your ex and grow up Don't you know we have the freedom to do whatever in life Thats what your ex is doing
2007-12-05 16:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋