Does this bother anyone else?

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Usually I don't come into this part of the forum, because the questions make me sad and angry. Does it bother anybody else to see SO many questions of people freaking out that they might be pregnant, telling the story of how they used no birth control and let the man leave it in (or if he's a man, left it in)? Does it bother anyone else to think of helpless children dragged into these situations? Does it make anyone else angry and kind of scared to hear the same thing from so many people, to know that that many people can be SO irresponsible or even downright stupid? Or what about those who know they could be/are pregnant but refuse to find out for sure or go to the Dr.?

For those who find this question offensive, I find it offensive as a human being that the act of creating a child is such a huge responsibility and some take it so lightly. Not to mention the factor of spreading diseases.

Actually it didn't make me feel better because while I'm venting, it isn't impacting the actual situation at all.
And I agree, it's the abortion questions that bother me the absolute most. They would never even have had to worry about it if they had just used a condom. They do0 NOTHING to prevent the pregnancy and then just discard it like garbage. That makes me very angry. I have 3 kids. I had my first at 16 and if I can do it, they can too. I do not accept the "I'm too young" excuse. Maybe that's inflexible of me, but I don't.

Caitlin: I'm sorry, I don't call it a mistake. To do nothing to prevent pregnancy and then be terrified you might be pregnant is stupid to me. To do nothing to prevent pregnancy, get pregnant and then have an abortion is horrible to me. You are acting like getting pregnant is something that just happens and it isn't these people's fault. It is PREVENTABLE. And most of them know that! They just do nothing about it.

I'm not isolating abortion. It is the STUPIDITY that bothers me. These people are also spreading diseases to everyone else. The unborn baby isn't the only casualty from unprotected sex.

I can understand being scared. Believe me, I was 15 when I first got pregnant. 16 when she was born. But it just bothers me that people willingly put themselves in these situations and put other people in them. I don't feel sorry for them. Maybe I should and maybe I'm just callous but I don't. Most of these people, you can tell by the questions, KNOW that pregnancy is preventable but they didn't try to prevent it. They say things like, "We didn't use a condom" or "I wasn't taking my pills the way I should have." These are not statements of people who are ignorant of birth control, I'm sorry.

Callous I may be; I DID say I was. I don't believe in sugar-coating or dancing around. I tell the truth as I see it, as we all do. As for "arrogant", that may be also. I'm not above looking at myself honestly and can do it easily.
But at least I am blaming the people who ARE to blame, not using it as an excuse to blame government factions who didn't educate them. These people know about birth control. They state in their own questions that they didn't use it. That is their own fault.
And by the way, my opinion is often the unpopular one. I can live with it.

Answer 1

you have NO idea how much I agree with you on this. I am living next door to my friend, who we are both 39 now. She got pregnant and had a miscarriage in February...didn't ever use any birth control, got pregnant again and is now like 5 months pregnant and just went to the doctor for the FIRST TIME yesterday!!! She just kept thinking "I'll have another miscarriage", the whole time smoking cigarettes and taking her meds as if she wasn't pregnant. I would get so pissed at her and tell her it must be nice to live in such a state of denial that you don't have to deal with reality. Damn it she pisses me off so bad sometimes!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

I Totally agree with you. There are SO many couples out there that would give anything to become pregnant, and can't. Yet here's all these women acting like pregnancy is the worst possible thing that could ever happen to them in their lives and all they worry about is what will i tell my parents, i'm gonna get fat, who's the daddy, etc. It's truly sad that these people are so careless. A simple condom could have prevented their worries. And these poor babies have to pay the price for their parents irresponsibility.

I was irresponsible and got pregnant at 18 years old. Thought oh well, he forgot the condom, no biggy one time aint gonna hurt nothing. 2 weeks later off he went and ended up marrying my best friend. It wasn't a couple more weeks later I found out I was pregnant. Of course I was scared out of my mind. But immediately I decided, it's time for my life to change, it's time to grow up and be the person this child needs me to be. And that is exactly what I did and I have a very happy and healthy 11 year old daughter to show for it.

It's one thing to end up in the situation and take charge of it, but so many people end up in this situation right after an abortion, or after a pregnancy scare last month, or turn to hear looking for advice on how to get rid of the baby. Breaks my heart.

Answer 3

It doesn’t really bother me much, but that’s only because I don’t hang out in this section of Answers. I could see how it might get annoying if you visited this section quite a bit. Unfortunately I don’t think I have an answer to this. People make stupid mistakes. Until we reach a point in our society where preventing this type of behavior becomes a priority, our children will continue to be uneducated about these types of things. As a parent I take responsibility to teach my children to be responsible and to learn how to live with the choices they make. Children should be taken to a nursery at an early age, say 9 or 10 , to show them what it means to have a child. It’s pretty scary when you get an up close look. That’s something that I intend to do with my kids. I want them to fully understand what it means to take responsibility for their sexual decisions in life. It’s not just their own lives that they are tampering, but with everyone else around them.

It’s really not that hard to have safe sex or to use birth control. It’s actually VERY easy. It’s disappointing to see that so many people are taking these kinds of risks. It speaks volumes about the types of relationships American’s have with their children. It’s just sad really and very disappointing.

Answer 4

Yes it's sad but thank god we do have these places where people can openly talk about there problems.Even if you can't beleive that there parents didn't teach them about sex.Atleast they have somewhere to go and ask bc maybe they don't know better and it may not be there fault.Pregnancy at a young as is hard i can't say i agree with you because i was there young and pregnant.I didn't keep my child bc i couldn't.So to come in here and express yourself and ask questions bc your scared and you have no one to ask or nowhere to open up bc you can't tell anyone.That doesn't disgust me.I was young and very stupid thinking i knew everything.we are human making mistakes and everyone will learn.some better than others.I come and try to make maybe a little diffrence in someone's life it it take me 10 minutes to answer one question.Some people don't have insurance and are scared to find out? is that ok not to go NO but atleast they can come here an talk about it.maybe there scared or maybe there parents will disown them.you dont know.its sad but thank god we all have a place to go to get help when needed.There is alot of children that come in here that are less fortunate.we all make a diffrence being here.Even with better sex education i don't think it will make a diffrence.your against abortion clearly.well its a women choice and its not always the womens fault!!!!!!!

Answer 5

So, I can't really say everything to everything you said, since you said a lot.. Haha

But I agree with EVERYTHING that you have to say, word for word.
It's like you took the words right outta my mouth! Ha.

I recently had my daughter, and I am only 17 years old. I had her when I was 16 and got pregnant about a week after my 16th birthday.
I do not regret her and I do not call her a mistake or even an "accident". I call her a gift, because that's what she is.
I was, however, on the pill and still got pregnant. Even so, abortion never entered my mind and I was actually kind of happy when I saw that it was positive. Weird, right? Haha.

So yea.
I agree with everything that you say.
If a person has an abortion in their lifetime, odds are they will learn nothing and end up having another one if not more than just another one in their lifetime.
It's sad how people don't know how to be responsible.

I knew I was pregnant probably about a week after I had sex. I could just tell. And even though it wasn't planned, I was actually happy about it. Well not happy as in excited, but happy as in.. "You know what, if I am, I am. And I will do the right thing." You know?


Plain and simple, I agree with everything you have to say.


And to the people who dislike your opinions, well, they're just stupid and probably are all people who have had abortions in their lives and probably more than one because they didn't know how to be responsible.

Thanks for putting the GOOD WORD out there to all these people..

Answer 6

It does bother me, but with some questions its different some people could be wanting a baby and just anxious and asking questions because they are hoping for symptoms. It is wrong though saying you didnt use protection and you dont know if you want the baby. I dont believe in abortions but also feel sorry for the children born into a family who arent ready for them. I know i've been in the situation before where its too early to take a test but you think you have symptoms and your anxious and curious to see if there right ( even though they never are lol )

Answer 7

Wow...someone really need to unload. I understand. I found out my sister was pregnant with her 9th child (3 of them are step but nonetheless her children) the same day I decided to let my family know that I was pregnant. I ended up miscarrying and she is still having a happy and healthy pregnancy. I resented her for it and all I could think is how selfish of her it was. She is in a custody battle for 2 of her kids and CPS has intervened with them twice.
Life isn't fair but God said that we will face trials and tribulations.
I understand how you feel. It is sad that these children didn't ask to be born to bad parents and bad situations. I believe though that God has a plan for each and everyone of us. Before we were even created in our mother's womb. We have been trying for awhile now and it does break my heart a lot to hear people that were just irresponsible having a baby that they don't even want.
Be calm and patient. We all need to unload from time to time. I hope that it made you feel better getting it all off your chest. Don't be stressed out though. If you are trying to TTC, it really affects your chances!!!!

God Bless!

Answer 8

When I started Yahoo Answers I was shocked! Don't people teach sex ed any more? Do parents not talk to there kids? I think kids/teens need to be taught safe sex, stds, pregnancy, and about there body! So many teens/young people don't know what can get them pregnant or maybe they just don't care! I don't know any more! I know my body I know my cycle and I know what causes a baby!

What gets me is when they ask "can i be pregnant" and never had sex. Yes it can happen but get real chances are low. What is happening to our world?

I agree with you!! It does bother me and I vent about it to others. Its crazy what they ask!!!

I know now why there are so many young people having babies!

Why are people not teaching safe sex????? If there going to do, you can't always stop people!!!

Get tested
Get safe condoms, birth control! Do something!!!

Answer 9

Yeah, I agree. I will take it a step farther and say people shouldn't be having sex if they never want to welcome a child into the world because there is always a possibility.

EDIT:
Abortion is legalized murder of the unborn and you are right, being too young is not an excuse for those who get an abortion. My other favorite excuse is those who get an abortion because they didn't want their parents to find out they were having sex(even college students)....it's completely disturbing. If I think about it too much I actually end up crying because of all the innocent babies destroyed.

Answer 10

I agree with you 100% and I think that the majority of this problem could be solved if sex education in schools was more indepth and advanced. I'm not talking about letting kids watch porn in the classroom but instead, taking a 'Abstinence is best but if you choose, this is how to be safe' approach. I am tired of people telling kids sex is bad, don't do it, don't talk about it. Kids are going to do it, going to talk about it and if none of them are informed then how is it their fault for getting into trouble. I could rant on forever but I choose to leave it here. I think you should have to pass a test to have children and idiots should be sterilized.