Sunday December 9, 2007 will be 4 years that my father died. I am still not over it and I am an emotional wreck I just can't deal. Does anyone have any advise??? Please Help Me!
2007-12-05 15:23:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
A loss like that is entirely devastating. At 4 years you should be on the verge of being able to deal with it, although grief is the one emotion that is not shared equally among people.
My recommendation is to seek out a Help Group - usually this can be found by contacting a church, a local Social Services office, or dialing 2-1-1. Keep your eyes open when you are at the grocery stores or libraries for bulletin boards that may have support groups posted as well.
And don't be afraid to continue grieving. It's an incredibly difficult way to lose your father, so just continue seeking guidance in whatever spiritual belief you hold (prayer, talking openly because he's there, speaking to a religious leader/minister) and by talking to family. They also may still be dealing with it the same way you are, so you may not be alone in this.
And just know that the person who's typing you this is wishing you well! It might not be much to you, or it might be a lot. Just take this for what it's worth.
Don't be afraid to get hugs, give hugs, receive a back rub, give a back rub...to love, to give love...to feel anger, to receive anger...to laugh, to share a laugh...to cry, and to be that shoulder. Don't be afraid to live and always remember that as long as you remember each moment you had with him, good or bad, you will never have lost him. Sounds cliched, but if it hasn't worked so well for so long it would never have become a cliche in the first place.
2007-12-05 15:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my uncle recently, who was like a father to me. Something that has helped me get through this was doing some of the things that he really enjoyed. He really enjoyed fishing, so i went fishing one day, and it helped me to "see" my uncle. It gave me a sense that he was there, and that he was truly in a better place. Just keep him close to your heart, but think only about how positive your memories of him were, instead of dwelling on your sadness
2007-12-05 23:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My father passes away a couple of years ago, too. I don't think I will ever be over it. Try to remember the good times, cry if you need to, and know that he will always be with you in spirit.
2007-12-05 23:27:00 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the soul never dies,only the body dies,he is always around u,and will not be at peace seeing u in this condition,hence to give him peace ur routine should be normal and share his responsibility too ,and make life worth the while,to prove u still love him and u can face the world better.
2007-12-06 01:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to see a counselor, just to talk about it. You never get past the lose but you can learn to live your life to the fullest as he would have wanted you to do. I am sorry for your pain my father has been dead for 14 years now. I still think of him everyday.
2007-12-05 23:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is the first Christmas without my Grandma,and every time i think of it i get a little upset. then i ask myself if SHE would want to see me like this. LOL, if she saw me upset on her account, she would probably send me in the yard for a switch! I can not let myself be too hurt, she would not have wanted it. I hope this helps you, it kinda helped me too. Good Luck
2007-12-05 23:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by dadforfive 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time is agreat healer so i would suggest if you want ot see a counseller. My dad died a few years back and i found counselling to be a great help.
2007-12-06 05:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by IrishPrincess <3 my BC shep 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try to come up with a list of good things he has done to inspire and support you and ask yourself if he was here, what would he have wanted me to do? And once you do that, I'm sure he's gonna look down on you and smile and be proud of you.
2007-12-05 23:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by J.T. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. You need grief support. Call your mental health agency and ask for a referral, or ask your own pastor or church leader.
Call Hospice for referrals.
Blessings!
2007-12-05 23:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mdme. Mango Keeps it Real 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never going to be easy. All I can think to say - how would he want you to remember him? What would be his hopes and dreams for you?
Honor his memory by following the path he would wish for you.
2007-12-05 23:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋