My fiance is great my family adores him, we're living together and I don't feel the chemistry I had with him when we first started out, he's always horney when we're in bed but the idea of having it with him turns me off as it's boring and because he's always in the mood for it, I have it with him sometimes but I don't enjoy it, the intimacy is gone when I want cuddles or kisses I have to ask him, and when we do things together... well generally we don't do anything together anymore, I bought a jigsaw puzzle for us to do together and all he could do was whinge how boring it was! he plays his playstation and then whinges because I'm not paying attention to him cause I sit down and do work on my computer because he's not paying attention to me!
not to mention due to his spending habits we're always broke.
What can I say? the relationship is stale
2007-12-05 14:43:24 · 7 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you have a lot of talking to do. You need to sit down and discuss what you expect him to do, and what he expects you to do. If a compromise can't be reached, then get out soon or you will be stuck with a whiny, selfish, broke loser. The fact that your family likes him is not a good reason to stay with him.
2007-12-05 14:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by kathi1vee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no longer any sparkling solutions to this question. in the adventure that your ex sells the domicile in the previous he's lived in it for 2 years, he will ought to pay capitol features taxes. If all have been honest, he'd reimburse you the finished $50K, yet considering the fact which you have lived in the domicile for just about a year, he needs to reimburse you for all expenses different than loan money (evaluate those money lease), and flow into the domicile for 2 years (it ought to be his popular place of abode for 2 years in the previous he can sell it with out capitol features taxes). He could ought to handle a room mate or 2 to have the skill to make the money, however the home is his. He could sue you yet i do no longer think of he'd have the skill to win any healthful. whilst it comes all the way down to it, he could desire to have found out lower back in November that he became into paying for a house for extra useful or worse. An engagement isn't a legally binding contract at present. next time, wait until you honestly get married in the previous paying for the domicile.
2016-10-10 09:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on if you love him. personally, he sounds like a straight up jerk. if you're serious about him, then you're gonna have to go through the boundaries. if he can't comply, why get married to someone who doesn't respect what you want? but think of it this way: what i do when i'm in doubt with the guy i like, i close mi eyes and i try to imagine myself falling off a building and the guy i like catches me and gives me a big smile. and i think to myself: 'am i comfortable in this situation?' it ALWAYS works. that way you'll know whether you REALLY want him or not. i should warn you of one thing though, once you say yes, there's never going back (well, i'm sure you know that and there is such thing as divorce, but not good for both parties...) and beware: if a guy doesn't get what he wants sexually, he's gonna go run off to some other lady then it gets preeetty messy. while he's on his playstation, just stare at him and do like i mentioned earlier and start to imagine the future. hope that helped and good luck to it all!
2007-12-05 14:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by Luvin Usagi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first part of your relationship was just lust, you are learning one another and you have realized you are not compatible.
NOW, STOP AND THINK:
will you continue doing things bass akwards until you have kids and no dad to help raise them, get a disease to boot, a bad reputation to where anyone who dates you only does so for sex,OR will you get to KNOW a guy and if you are compatible WITHOUT sex FIRST before taking all those risks with your life and any lives you create?
2007-12-05 14:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you found out some things before you made it legal. Make a pro and cons list of your realtionship.
How it is with him and how it would be without him
Only you can make this decision but it sounds to me like you have very little in common anymore and that doesn't make good marriage material.
2007-12-05 14:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by jenk1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In answer to your question~~yes. If you do not have sexual chemistry, you do no want to face that on your wedding night. Smart girl. You my dear, are crazing unbridled passion~~the kind of sex that knocks your socks off and always makes you wanting. If you don't have it in your marriage, it will needle you every day asking you "What if?" Marriages work if we make the right choices. That's what you have to do.
2007-12-05 15:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still love him? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? If not it will be real emotional breaking it off. take a break away from eachother, see if anything changes.
2007-12-05 15:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by dearmeohmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋