I messed up my life.?

Question

I'm having a horrible time. I am a 4th yr student and currently have a 2.12 gpa which is pretty bad. to top it off i'm going to be failing 2 classes this semseter. I broke up wiht my boyfreind of only 1 month but it is tearing me up inside. I realized that i have a serious alcohol problem when i woke up the next morning and noticed i had cut my wrist! I never do anything like that, or think about it. I don't remember doing it Pretty much i'm freaking out about how to tell my mom i'm doing so bad she is going to be VERY mad. My brother and sister say i'm prob going to ruin christmas. To top it off, I was on the tennis team at my school, i love tennis. and I had to quit because with everything in my life I can't handle tennis, plus i will be ineligible to play next semsetr anyways b.c. of grades. I also have a waitress job, and i'm seeing a counselor at my school, but i haven't told her the truth about everything. Please can someone give me some advice. Thanks

Answer 1

Number one, you can't mess up your life. You make mistakes, take detours, but you can get things back on track. What you want to do here, is to calmly go to your mom, with a counselor, (not a school counselor, you need a rehab counselor), let them talk to you alone first, then your mom. Yes, your mom will be upset at first, but the counselor and she can work out a plan that will work for both of you, get both of you back on track, closer than you were before. The key here is to take the first step, which you have here, but take that same step, and admit, you have issues, not problems. You need to get to the bottom of what is really going on. This is how a counselor will help. They will be straight with you, tell you things must change, and you must be willing to change. It won't happen over night. It will be a challenge, but that is what makes us stronger. Don't ever think, you are a failure. People take detours, but can get back on track. So you skip the tennis team for a while, big deal. Getting yourself healthy, back on track emotionally is more important. As for the cutting thing, its a sign of unhappyness, and a feeling of loss of control. Again, you need a counselor who will work with these issues with you. You mom will be hurting, and will take time to see you are in pain, will want to get you the help you need. Be patient with her. AA won't be enough to deal with this, especially if you have cutting issues, that needs a pro who deals with kids who are into that. AA is great for alot, but this screams, a lot more is going on than they can help you with. I won't lie, you will have to forgo your crowd which feeds your addiction. Its worth it to get healthy, strong, then you can get those grades back up, get back your confidence, self respect. Its normal to feel loss after a breakup, but the cutting, and drinking are not the answer. Time. get a counselor, talk to your mom, and both of you will be stronger, better for it. Hang in there.

Answer 2

I Messed Up My Life

Answer 3

I went through a similar ordeal when I was younger and what got me through was my family, my mother as hurt as she was and with how I behaved she was still there for me and my strongest support. I got a bit out of control at one stage but pulled my head in and I stopped what I was doing (the bad stuff...like alcohol and too much partying) I do now have the odd drink but it's not ruling my life. But anyway I also never thought much of my abilities and what I could do and achieve. Until I started believing in myself and what I could do and now as much as I'm a mature age student, but also working fulltime. I am getting the grades and the marks that before I'd never thought I was capable of getting and believe me I amazed myself.

But what I'm trying to get across is that even though now everything is stressful for you and all pressured. Work at each step at a time and go to AA if you have to if you feel that you can't give it up or get your families help. Don't worry about your brother and sister saying that you will ruin christmas just focus on getting yourself better and turn your life around as only you can do it if you put your mind to and want to do it, just got to believe in yourself. Also your mother loves you no matter what, as much as she may get disappointed if you start to make a change and show her that things are going to be different she will see it and things won't be so hard and she'll forgive you no matter what.

But as for your schooling it's never too late......look you haven't yet failed, just focus more on your schooling and your schooling and if you do happen to fail now you can always go back and do it again. At a stage when you have got your life in order and are able to take it on. But it is never too late to change your life.

Answer 4

I dont know you personally, but I DO care enough about you as a human being to say I am sorry for your emotional pain hon.It hurts breaking up with someone you love, and as far as the alcohol, if you arent addicted then stop drinking now.You HAVE to start being honest with your counselor so they can help you.If you dont they cant.Tell them EVERYTHING!
Sounds like your family is dysfunctional, mine was too, but the thing that straightened out MY life was the LORD.Visit a United Pentecostal church sometime hon, they have what you need and they also have a drug/ alcohol rehab program that works.If you get the chance read John 3:1-5 and Acts 2:38 and realize JESUS also loves AND cares for you!

Answer 5

You need emotional help from your family and a real professional. First talk with your parents and ask them to help you with the drinking. If they are good,loving family they will get you to AA. Then, it might be best to stop school until you get some emotional help. You can graduate late. But, this time put your education in the back, and help your own self.

Answer 6

talk to your counselor at school and audit or withdraw from the class. theres all kinds of people that have received an F and gone on to great things. youre dwelling on negative and allowing toxic people to judge and criticize your life and put you down. GET RID OF ALL OF THESE PEOPLE. they want to spread their misery to you. misery loves company.

when you graduate make a career out of things that you did well at in school and received an A in. by law, no one can look at your transcript but you unless you give them permission. its not the end of the world. you may have to leave family members behind if theyre negative too. when you graduate you could still be a superstar and apply for phd programs if youre good at one specific area of academia.

youre on the right path by saying you ****** up your life and not blaming others. most people that never get anywhere blame their parents, or society, or anything else imagineable. excuses excuses excuses. if you can **** up your life than you can correct it. if someone else ****** up your life you'll never be able to correct it. its all in your hands. just dont hurt yourself.

Answer 7

Stop everything you are doing and go to an AA meeting.

Once there find a woman you trust and ask her to be your sponsor. Then follow her suggestions and work the steps.

Good luck. I will pray for you.

Answer 8

the first step is admitting you have a problem so now all you have to do is tell you mom or someone that can help you if you keep everything bottled up you will explode later on and instead of waking up to cut wrist youll be waking up to gods pearlie gates (if u get what i mean) your better then all the grades sports parties and relationships focus on finding yourself and get help
best of luck ya