I also just recently got a divorce from a marriage that shouldnt have been. Me and my friend been hanging and got close he proposed after i was divorced and now in Iraq through the holidays = ( The only reason I stayed here in this town was for my fiance when he returned otherwise i would have moved home near family.
My ex and I are civil putting our child first and this will b his first holiday w/o both parents. I know my fiance well enough that he would not care that i spend the holiday with them for the child. another friend of mine says i would be dumb and foolish what would fiance think. I think fiance would rather me spend time with them (for child) rather than be alone for Christmas. My family is too far and i nee to save money.
The delima question should i accept the invite and go to ex's or just spend Christmas alone?
2007-12-05 14:29:07 · 10 answers · asked by tiggermouse73 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just talked to fiance and told him my delima and he understands and knows that ex is on the up with it all and rather me spend it with kid and ex than be alone!!! thank you all for the answers and support!!!!!
2007-12-05 15:12:55 · update #1
I spend the holidays with my ex all the time for my son's sake. Even if I'm seeing someone. If your fiance understands, then enjoy your holiday rather than spending it alone.
2007-12-05 14:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go, you are on good terms and that is a great thing, your child needs to see that you still care about each other, your fiance will have to suck it up, he is still a fiance not your husband yet ,and he is not there for you, now when you get married, things will have to change, but for now go and have a wonderful Christmas,it may be the last one that the child has with both parents together, happy Christmas
2007-12-05 14:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by Loretta M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-19 08:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should spend christmas with the ex and the kids because first of all, you say the fiancee wouldn't mind and because it is better if you can get along with the ex for the kids sake. Perhaps next year you and your fiancee can still go to the ex's house for Christmas in order to be together for the kids and your ex and the fiancee might eve be friends once they meet. It works for Demi Moore, her new husband and Bruce Willis so it could work for you as well.
2007-12-05 14:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have some RESPECT for your fiance and stay at home. Your child is going to have to get used to split holidays anyway.
2007-12-05 15:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by princess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It should be between you and your fiance, and if he is fine with it, and you want to go, go for it! It is healthier for the child to see you and your ex on friendly terms than on adversarial ones! I am glad that you are going to go! Have a Merry Christmas!
2007-12-05 16:15:18 · answer #6 · answered by Mo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't go. Yes, it is for the child, but your fiance may just be saying that. He has nothing else to think about except what you are doing...why add that?
2007-12-05 14:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like a nice idea -given the circumstances
2007-12-05 14:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you should go for a short period of time. Not an all day thing.
2007-12-05 15:10:34 · answer #9 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nobody, not even you, should spend Christmas alone.
2007-12-05 14:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋