My marriage is already boring. Suggestions for what to do that fit our lifestlye?

Question

I've been married for 5 months to my HS sweetheart who I've been with for over 6 years. We don't do much when he gets home from work (I'm currently looking for work so I'm at home all day). I find myself really bored cause we just watch tv, play on the computer, or occasionally play a board game. I don't mind doing these things so much but after a while I want to try something else and he also wants the tv off not longer after watching and just likes the silence (I dont). I'd like to go out but we don't have TOO much $ and don't know what to do. We don't drink, we don't like to dance, and we're not sporty types of people...neither of us can come up with anything to do and we're just getting frustrated with each other. Also new in town, dont know anyone.Does anyone have any suggestions for how to make this marriage more interesting. I don't even find myself that interested in being with him physically lately since I find myself bored when we're together the rest of the time..please help

Answer 1

I've been in this situation also when I was stuck at home all day. The key is to occupy yourself with something during the day, and then in the evening when your husband gets home, this time can be 'relaxing' but not 'boring.' Have you ever tried scrapbooking? Or start making a family tree. It can become quite addicting (I didn't even think I was that interested at first, until I started finding stuff from really far back). I recommend ancestry.com if you want to start a nice family tree. Or you could volunteer for a few hours a week somewhere in your community. County Boards of MRDD can usually use help, and it's a great learning experience in itself. Hope this helps!

Answer 2

It takes some work to make marriage continuously interesting.Understand that your man is tired from work so it's up to you to find something for both of you or yourself to enjoy.

First, buy a map. Drive around town. See what's happening around you.Go to a mall, not necessarily to buy stuff but just to look around, maybe buy a few snacks.If there is bus there, find where you could get a bus schedule. You could go around that area for cheap using the public transportation.

Visit the local animal shelter. Volunteer or adopt a pet(discuss this together first). Look at your local phone book. Read the community section. Somewhere, it might tell you the local happenings. Buy a newspaper, you'll find lots of info here like garage sale, happenings. Learn to cook so that when he comes home, he's happy to have a good meal. Decorate your house/apartment.

Increase your knowledge by doing some research on subjects.Read a lot. Get to know your neighbors. Keep in touch w/ friends/families. Plan to send cards this holiday from both of you as a couple.Talk to your husband. Try to find something you both can do together. Once you have something interesting going on in your life, there should be something interesting to talk about.

Oh, and don't forget to organize your pictures--in albums and on websites like myspace or friendster.

Hope this helps!

Answer 3

Neither of you are to blame in this situation. But ask yourself, what you did that was so interesting being with him in the last 6 years? Some suggestions though to spice up your life.... be ready to answer the door naked. Prepare little cute messages for him all over the house. Take this time while you are at home to learn a musical instrument... it sounds like your marriage isn't dying, you are. You are bored and that can be detrimental to your relationship. Welcome to marriage, sweetheart. Things will look up for you once your find employment.

Answer 4

Grab the local paper and see what is happening in town. Go check out a museum or a city monument. See if the have any organizations that sound interesting.

If you still having decent weather plan picnic at a park.

Sometimes in marriage it is also healthy in my opinion to have seperate activities. Maybe you all can check the local YMCA and see if you can find a class to join together or find two different things to do.

Answer 5

Welcome to marriage. Not to be boring, but it's what you make of it, and you may have expected too much. Get involved with a social club (church?) Learn how to play bridge with another couple or a club. DIG a little bit! Get a book or two and each of you read it, then discuss it. You're presently boring people in a rut. Have a talk and get with the program! These are the FUN years! Do something!

Answer 6

Stop thingking that you are bored...You're only married for 5 months......this is all normal feeling...Once you're married,lots of things you'll gonna miss out.....Including your friends,family,as you're not hanging out and staying with them anymore as it used to be.....It takes alot of sacrifices and lots of adjustments too...why not call your friends and ask them to come over to your place.... or your sister?,have someone to talk with....Give sometime with your husband to work and find $...he may just surprise you one day and ask you out for holiday....You are his responsibility now so he needs to work more harder.....don't think he doesn't bother much about you,he's probably tired sometimes....just give him a nice hug after he gets back to work and don't talk about things that could upset him.....just stay sweet,he will find you more romantic that way.....I've been married for 11 years....I've experienced being bored and alone too after being married...We shifted to another town,and I only met new friends years later.I'm not Local,so It's kind of hard for me...But,finally I got over it....now I have so much friends around me....It's only a matter of time....just be patient...

Answer 7

I found myself in this same place as you not to long ago, my hubby and I don't really like bars, so I went out and bought a few things we do like to drink, I got all dressed up and when he sat down for a night on the computer, I went outside and rang the door bell, when he answered it, I pretended to be someone who was lost and needed help. he invites me in and away we go into a role playing game, it was fun, and it keeps the boredom at bay, we don't do this everyday, but when things really get boring, we play this game, sometime its him that goes outside and peeks into my window, etc, etc, etc, try it, you both may really enjoy this game.

Answer 8

you dont sound like your a happy couple fisrt of all otherwise it would come naturally. I would go get a job if i was you then you would have the money to do those extra little things together. after that you could plan a day for you to like a spa getaway to crank things up a bit. like have movie night.

Answer 9

Join a church. There will be plenty of worthwhile projects that you can do together helping other people in the community. You'll also meet new people that you can be friends with and you'll have a support network. The church will also help you with your marriage.

Answer 10

This is a tough one. Maybe you can try other board games, one that both of you don't know but would like to try. Maybe ask him what he wants to do other than those things you mentioned.