like im a quiet person, not shy... just quiet.. i say things when i NEED to say things, i don't just blurt out random things. and well all my close guy friends aren't quiet, but dont' get me wrong, they aint abnoxious either, they're in the middle, anyways then theres these girls who always ask me why i am so quiet.. like i say im just a quiet kid yet they always say 'why don't you say anything?'.. is there something wrong with being quiet?
2007-12-05 14:21:10 · 55 answers · asked by John 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is nothing wrong with being quiet (I am a pretty quiet person myself)...just be who you are and if anyone does not like it than too bad....people who are quiet are good listeners in conversations and people like that. The girls who want you to talk more probably just want some attention from you and are interested and want to get to know you.
2007-12-05 14:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm exactly the same. People always ask me why I'm so quiet or why I never talk, which really gets on my nerves most of the time. But I don't think being quiet is a bad thing. I mean, people never ask loud people why they're always loud or why they talk so much, so why torment the quiet people? If being quiet makes you comfortable, then stick with it. Just know that people probably won't get to know you as well as you want them to if you don't open up once in a while. That's something I've learned from.
2007-12-05 14:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by - 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From experience, being a quiet person I used to be.... people were always suspicious of me... thinking I never say anything because I had something evil brewing in my head. Also, my friends had less interest in me because I never had anything to say....... but all the time I hear about these kids who do bad things and I hear them say, "It's always the quiet ones." All in all, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being quiet, but its also not the way to be if you want to stand out amongst the crowd
2007-12-05 14:28:13 · answer #3 · answered by Purrsona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quietness isn't a bad thing unless it's bothering you. I'm quiet sometimes out of shyness, and I wish I wasn't because I have things I want to say that I don't. If you still talk when you need to and don't feel inhibited, that's fine. Someone who doesn't know you could perceive you as being standoffish, or they could think that you don't have personality. There are risks with first impressions no matter who you are, though. The bottom line,being quiet isn't a bad thing.
2007-12-05 14:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by onceuponanairplane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course NOT!! Being quiet in many times is good. Just like you said, you dont blot out random answers, there are times when you'll regret talking so much because you'll say something you didn't mean to say, or didn't want it to come out the way it did. Like you said, you talk when things need to be said, there's nothing bad about that. Just think about if you're being TOO quiet, like never talking, many times that's also not a good thing. If you're TOO quiet.
2007-12-05 14:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way. I used to think it was a bad thing, but now I know it isn't. It's just who I am. Sometimes it's better to be a quiet person, because you are more likely to think before you speak. You are less likely to say the wrong thing and offend people or make a fool out of yourself.
2007-12-05 17:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by Amber K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, quiet is a good quality, but many people will tend to think you are being aloof and acting superior. If quiet is your nature, then I hope you at least interact with people non-verbally (i.e. with body language). If you remain quiet, then at least look alert and engaged, not bored. Make facial expressions, gesture, etc. so people will at least know you're involved on some level. If done well, you can actually appear to be very intelligent. Somewhat along these lines, one of my favorite quotes is by Mark Twain who said something like "It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt". He may have been giving advice to politicians with that remark.
2007-12-05 14:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with being quiet - in fact - you probably know more about what is going on around you because you are listening and not talking a lot. If someone asks why you are so quiet, just tell them you only talk if there is something worth saying. That may make them even more curious about what goes on in your head, making you a bit of a mystery....
2007-12-05 14:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by scheiem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are in a social situation, the worst thing you can do is be the quiet person. with girls you have to speak. They want to hear your thoughts, ideas, they want to know what you are all about. By talking you will answer questions people have about you. Is he funny, interesting, smart, fun, what does he like, what he doesn't like, etc. You can be quiet all you want but just don't do it in social situations.
Like you mention above, you only say things when needed, well in social situations your opinion counts A LOT. Saying random things make you and people want to know what you are all about.
In conclusion, there is nothing wrong with you. People are just interested in getting to know you but by not talking you are not giving them a chance. Talk, share your opinions, laugh, and people will do the same in return.
Good Luck!
-HRojas
2007-12-08 02:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with being quiet. You're probably also a lot more introspective and content with being alone, it's just your personality style. I used to get the same questions/comments when I was in middle and high school, as I got older it's not an issue.
You'd probably enjoy reading seeing your results on the Jung Myers-Briggs personality styles test, here's one site http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes1.htm
2007-12-05 14:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by LoFlo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋