We've been married for five years and for the last year and a half, he never hugs, touches, or kisses me or even looks me in the eye. i believe he may have fallen out of love with me. He treats me very nice, but He is always preoccupied and never wants to spend anytime with me. We went to Ft. Meyers beach this past summer for our fifth anniversary, and he never laid a hand on me. What could be wrong? Another woman? or what?
2007-12-05 14:08:28 · 46 answers · asked by orange sky 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HE MIGHT HAVE ANOTHER WOMEN, OR A MID LIFE CRISIS. YOU SHOULD TRY TALKING TO HIM.
2007-12-05 14:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by esa cutie pie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, what has YOUR behavior been like? Are you sending mixed signals? For example, you didn't say if you tried to initiate anything with him at Ft. Meyers and if he pushed you away, or ignored you, or was fine as long as you were the one who initiated it. If you don't try to hug, touch, or kiss him either, he may be worrying about what's wrong with you and avoiding the situation.
Anyways, I'd suggest talking with him about it. Being able to communicate with each other is the most important part of a good relationship!!
2007-12-05 14:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by CourtneyMT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'The first four layers of the pyramid are what Maslow called "deficiency needs" or "D-needs:" the individual does not feel anything if they are met, but feels anxious if they are not met..... Needs beyond the D-needs are "growth needs," "being values," or "B-needs." When fulfilled, they do not go away; rather, they motivate further.
The base of the pyramid is formed by the physiological needs, including the biological requirements for food, water, air, and sleep.
Once the physiological needs are met, an individual can concentrate on the second level, the need for safety and security. Included here are the needs for structure, order, security, and predictability.
The third level is the need for love and belonging. Included here are the needs for friends and companions, a supportive family, identification with a group, and an intimate relationship.'
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abraham_Maslow
'The Erikson life-stage virtues, in the order of the stages in which they may be acquired, are:
hope- Basic Trust vs. Mistrust
will- Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt
purpose- Initiative vs. Guilt
competence- Industry vs. Inferiority
fidelity- Identity vs. Role Confusion
love (in intimate relationships, work and family)- Intimacy vs. Isolation
caring- Generativity vs. Stagnation
wisdom- Ego Integrity vs. Despair '
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erick_Erickson
2007-12-05 14:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by Psyengine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would sit him down, look him in the eye and say is it time for a divorce? If he seems to get upset at the idea he may have just gotten used to the way you guys are together. If he doesn't react like a normal person I would say yes, there is someone else in the picture. We can't read his mind buy YOU can confront him in a peaceful manner. Don't stay married to just be married. If he and you as well are not happy and you don't have children move on to someone who will appreciate and care for you the way you deserve. Good luck.
2007-12-05 14:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime when couple's are married for awhile, our spouses fall into a comfort zone, this is a place that they feel they don't have to touch, or say "I love you" all the time, maybe he just automatically thinks you know he loves you, this is the time you both have to work a little harder on your marriage. If he is not willing to do things to make it fun anymore, you need to do things to bring the honeymoon period back into your marriage. For instance,. go buy a sexy outfit, and surprise him at the door when he comes home from work, make him a nice dinner with just the 2 of you, burn some candles, play some soft romantic music. Maybe you have also settled into that comfort zone too, and you have forgotten how to be the soft sexy woman he remembers you to be. Well, good luck, I hope it turns out well for you.
2007-12-05 14:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by tiny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The answers you have been getting are all Yes Cheating,Junk don't work,Gay....yes they could be right but also the old saying women change once they get a ring also goes for men. Alot of men are all loving and touchy to get you and then wham they change, what are his parents like, do they show affection to each other or even him?? sometimes work problems can change the way ppl respond to each other. You do need to talk to him and try and figure things out, there is nothing worse than being lonely in a relationship.
2007-12-05 14:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by Hunny 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is possible to fall in and out of love in the course of a relationship, maybe you don't peak his interest anymore, you could have possibly gained a little weight. Not stepping up your game or even maintaining the same daily regiment which once caught his attention. You should sit him down and tell him how you feel. You definitely don't want to wait until he is involved in an affair or you. Which could easily happen if you feel you are lacking. Please consider some one on one counseling or even couples counseling. Don't allow this to determine the fate of your marriage. If you want it then go for it. Work for it. And let God be your guide,.........
2007-12-05 14:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by mickey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I been married going on seven years now and the flame do die down a little bit but that doesn't mean he don't love you anymore try to spice it up a little bit. If you think something else is going on do some investigating because like the saying goes " what's hidden in the dark will comes to the light"
2007-12-05 14:13:43 · answer #8 · answered by uriah1198 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The death knell of passion. It is hard to know why and why he feels the way he does is buried deep inside him so much so that he may not want to talk about it. I hear this a lot and I am at a loss as to what to tell a woman to do when she craves passion from a man who no longer has it for whatever reason. All II know is that without you die--it us called emotional homicide.
2007-12-05 14:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to go to couples counseling and find out what the problem is. It could mean anything, that he feels insecure about himself, has a problem with intimacy, or he is seeing someone. It is just really hard to say without knowing your full history, but it does seem apparent that there is a problem if you feel he is treating you differently than normal. Have you ever communicated this with him or confronted him with his lack of attention? It could be nothing, but go with your gut if you think something is wrong, it just not be what is wrong is what you were thinking.
2007-12-05 14:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by Suzette F 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yup, you're probably right, he has fallen out of love with you. go back and think why the two of you were married to begin with. was there some issues then that you thought you could work out? are you two even friends now or just two people living togather? You should really sit down and talk this out.
2007-12-05 14:14:16 · answer #11 · answered by Bubba13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋