Upon hearing my baby's cry, this woman came to me saying that her babies never had the chance to cry because their needs were always fulfilled before they even had the chance to.
While I do know when my baby's hungry or wet, I don't always know beforehand when he suddenly cries in his peaceful sleep. All I can do is soothe him back to sleep if he needs it.
Is not having this "premonition" a bad thing?
2007-12-05 14:08:18 · 35 answers · asked by ♥♥ Shaun's Mamma ♥♥ 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Oh,please.ALL babies cry--that is how they communicate.
2007-12-05 14:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
No way! Tell that lady to hush! I'm sure you are doing a fine job raising your child.. You will start to pick up that premonition when your child needs something.. It just takes some time for both you and baby .What I do when my son cries is go down the list..
1. Bottle
2. Diaper change
3. Gas drops (If he is in peaceful sleep like you said and suddenly cries it is most likely gas.. my 6 week old does this so much.. I hate to hear him scream like that.. but then he's fine)
4. Rock him
I do that everytime.. and it is almost always one of those!! :) Good luck and don't let anyone make you feel like you aren't doing a good job as a mother.
2007-12-05 19:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by NBBTB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that woman was full of crap. and there is nothing wrong with a baby crying now and then.. not excessively, but for the time it takes to change a diaper or warm a bottle is ok. if she is filling their need before they cry she has no life and is sitting there with the baby in her lap 24/7 - impossible! a baby like that will grow up into a spoiled child who thinks the world revolves around them (think brittany spears and paris hilton). as long as you get to the baby within a reasonable time and handle the situation, don't worry! I don't have the premonition, and all 3 of my kids are ok. none are axe killers, they haven't started following charles manson or barbecuing small animals in the backyard for fun. did they cry when they were babies? you bet! I'm not Houdini. I am a human mom who loves her children very much. don't worry about what others say. i would, however, suggest you read any of the books by T Berry braselton, especially one called "What every baby knows" He is a great pediatrician. I learned a lot from him. Relax, enjoy your baby, and remember - every mom on the planet has made a few mistakes. we're human, it happens.
2007-12-05 14:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by busymomkaren 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 06:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old wives tail like this spoil the fun of having a little one around by putting fear and an inferiority complex into you. You are NOT a bad mother, you care for and love your baby. You will gradually learn what the various yells and howls mean but if you do not cuddles make up for it. you know when the baby is hungry because he/she will take food and will not if not. you will worry if it does not take food all day and is sick and get medical advice. You will notice if the poo is not right. What more does a baby need? So do not feel bad this time will soon pass, do not let anyone spoil it with horror stories.
2007-12-06 01:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by Scouse 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In order for the no crying at all thing to work, you would have to have your child on your body all the time. Some women need to do that. I need a break once in a while so I can shave my legs, wash my hair or fry chicken.
Women who say that their babies never need to cry are carrying their babies in a sling all the time and sleeping with them. I need a little more space than that. I do carry my babies in the sling, and they do sleep with me part of the night, but I need some time to myself too.
You're doing great. If you want to cut down on crying, then cosleep and wear your baby a lot. If you think things are fine the way they are, then that's OK.
As mothers we do the best we can. I think you're doing fine. You'll learn more about your baby in time.
2007-12-05 15:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
all sorts of well meaning, and sometimes not so well meaning people will give you opinions and advice as a new mom, listen politley and let it go. I am sure her kids needs were met, but i am also sure that they cried sometimes. and just because your baby cry's doesn' mean your not meeting its needs. its cry tells you what it needs. as you grow closer with the baby you will probably be able to tell the difference between a hunger cry and a fussy cry, just give it time. some babies cry more than others, your baby might just cry more than hers did. it doesn't mean that you know less. being a mom and a good one is trial and error, and takes time, its not a perfect science, it is a labor of love, and you are doing fine. don't let anyone tell you otherwise as long as you are tending to the baby when it cries than it s fine.
2007-12-05 14:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by TR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've NEVER met a person who could console or see to their babies needs all the time before they cry. That is so not true. Crying is the way babies get our attention, to tell us they need something. Since you do know to feed and change yours, and you do make sure you're there for him to get to sleep, you must be a good mother. There is no way to read your child's mind. You're only a bad mom if you ignore the baby.
2007-12-05 14:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is about getting to know your baby. AT first I was the same way, but my son is now 7 1/2 months old and I can figure it out before he cries most the time. Now, all the time, I don't. In the beginning I didn't thought. It was a new and learning experience for all of us.
2007-12-05 14:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by RearFace@18mo. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That woman sounds like the type of mother who has every second of their child's life structured. If she feeds it and changes it frequesntly enough, then it won't have a chance to cry, but this is just to make life convenient for HER, not to anticipate the child's needs. You are doing a fine job, I'm sure. Her children, on the other hand, will probably never learn the joys of being able to do something it wants if it interferes with the mother's schedule.
2007-12-05 14:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by kathi1vee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all!!
I can usually tell during the day if shes wet or hungry but not before she cries!
At night she sleeps soundly and sometimes wakes crying but i also dont know why. I just soothe her again!
Youre not a bad mum at all!
2007-12-06 07:53:46 · answer #11 · answered by Nicki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋