2007-12-05 13:45:06 · 10 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because it's such a huge change and is traumatic for all. I was told there is a grieving process, just like death.
2007-12-05 13:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by seba2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Few life events are as traumatic as divorce. You have to change your entire life, sometimes even your friends don't stay around afterward if they were couple friends. So not only are you trying to completely change your living conditions and life style, scrape together some self-confidence, heal your wounds, and feel good enough about yourself to get back into the dating scene, but you also have to deal with every little problem all by yourself. It takes a lot of energy to patch up everything that went wrong with your life during divorce.
2007-12-05 21:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because there is a mourning of the relationship that once was, a passing of the now-not-so-good relationship...and all that happens as things are changing in everyone's lives. There are lots of strange and new emotions and people tend to not be expecting to still be hurt or sad when it happens. Plus there are physical moves, working out logistical arrangements (especially with kids), and dealing with money (which no one likes to do). It all adds up to lots of stress. One of the top ten on the 'stress scale'.
2007-12-05 21:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by Jules, E, and Liam :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an end to things as you know them. There's a stigma with getting divorced.....somewhere inside it feels like a failure. The only thing that getting divorced has been compared to has been dealing with the death of a loved one. It takes time but it does get better. It won't happen overnight, but you will comes to terms with it. I wish you the best. :)
2007-12-05 21:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking as a divorcee or a child of divorce? Sweetie - its hard for everyone. It isn't nice to have a family break up but there are times its for the best - the best for everyone concerned. If you're a child coming out of a divorce - sweetie it isn't your fault. But if your a divorcee - sweetie - you had your reasons. Bottom line, its hard and you need the support of people who have been through it. There's always sunshine after the rain.
2007-12-05 21:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a hope and a dream for you that has ended. Future plans that will no longer be. Letting go of your old dreams and realizing you can have new dreams and hopes will take time. Right now you can't imagine it but you will.
2007-12-05 21:55:14 · answer #6 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because its the death of a family. Life will go on but never be the same.
2007-12-05 23:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody who has answered here so far has said something true. It is just like losing somebody to death...only its a little different. When my Dad died, he didn't die because he didn't like me, he died because he had cancer. When my wife left me, she didn't leave because she had no choice, she made the choice to leave because she was tired of me. That is almost harder to swallow than a death.
The one person who is supposed to love you forever decides that they don't have to or don't want to anymore. It is gut wrenching.
BUT...it gets better. I promise.
2007-12-05 21:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's the end of a Big part of your Life. May you be Blessed with Peace of mind, and Heart !! And this too shall pass......
2007-12-05 21:49:45 · answer #9 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is like losing a body part. You still feel that it is there. The missing limb feels like it is there. You can adapt, but you always feel that something is missing.
2007-12-05 21:50:52 · answer #10 · answered by shirrock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋