sometimes i feel if i had, had more partners our sex life would be fine. he asks me what is it that i want him to do and i just dont know. now i dont have sex at all with him and i love him so much and i want to please him but i dont know how and im only 20 been married since 18
2007-12-05 12:59:35 · 15 answers · asked by ladysmokejs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your feelings are just energy in your brain and are not real. Do not give them too much power..they are not your reality. Your reality at present is you are a married woman with a wonderful husband that loves you. The fact that you did not have more partners maybe a blessing in disguse not a bad thing so please do not go down that road. Sex between two people who love each other is sooooo much better than random hook ups with 20 year old guys that know nothing about love or intimacy which is what a married relationship is all about. You are very fortunate to have found each other.
I guess I am confused why you are not having sex with your husband as you really did not list a reason, you just state that you are not having sex and you love him and you want to please him. How can you please him if your not having sex? Sounds very strange. Try counseling it may help get your head straight.
2007-12-05 13:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by DWInSTL 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't need more sexual partners, you need to act more mature and grow up! You possibly got married too young, that was your call, you should have thought about this BEFORE jumping into marriage at such an early age. Not much you can do about the marriage thing now, but there are a heap of books/videos/DVDs etc that can help with your problem.
Learn to relax and except new experiences with your partner, sooner or later you will find something that will "knock your socks off".
Try to make sex fun instead of the same old boring positions.
Good Luck!
2007-12-05 21:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by Badass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think having more sex partners is the answer, you would just do a big circle back to were you are now. You say your board so you don't have sex, then on the other hand, you want to please him?? You sound really confused! Get some toys and videos and try some new stuff! Learn what turns you on and communicate that to your husband, he cant read your mind! Good Luck!!
2007-12-05 21:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is obviously a lie that you "want to please him" because you say you don't have sex at all with him. If you have to be selfish at least be honest about it.
Do you know what he would think if you did have more partners in your sex life? Maybe he would enjoy it as much as you. Ask him. Some guys are turned on by their wife or girlfriend having sex with another guy so ask him. Maybe you would both like it.
2007-12-05 21:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let yourself relax is the main thing....and don't be afraid to explore....A lot of guys like to go "down south".....In a lot of ways that is more for the guys pleasure though, but you both benefit.....You can try getting some books, but stay away from the porn....just try and find something that would give you some suggestions on different positions, places, dress, overall activities you can get into.....just remember...the more you do it ... the better you get....Don't stop that part of the relationship because you are inexperienced, he obviously married you for reasons other than sex.
2007-12-05 21:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
gee, just hope on the net and start googling, there are plenty of idea's out there, find some you like and see where it goes. The issues of keeping your sex life interesting goes on for ever.
One thing I would suggest is, don't be shy in the privacy of your own bedroom, show hubby what a sexy woman is, you will be surprised what can happen when you both get in the mood
2007-12-05 22:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by zuk461 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to be that way and I found that having sex somewhere other than your be room makes things exciting. We often get a hotel room for the weekend. I seem to think less about things when we go and get a hotel room. sometimes being away from home tends to take your mind off of bills and other stress full things you might think about at home laying in your bed.
2007-12-05 21:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres this really crazy book i seen in barnes and noble yesterday it was called something ecstasy theres a link below of what i just searched. Try something different i was gonna buy one of these but I think me and my bf might be breaking up soon :( but anyways have fun and have some great sex!
2007-12-05 21:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have gotten married so soon and you shouldn't have waited until you were married to have sex.
I used to want to remain abstinent until marriage, but I'm glad I didn't. Now I know what's out there and I know what I am looking for...sort of...Still testing the waters. At least he is willing to work with you. Try pleasing yourself, then you can tell him what you like.
2007-12-05 21:06:09 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i agree with the other ladies, read some romance novels get a book about karma sutra or something along those lines go to an adult store and get some toys, dont be embarrassed to tell him what u want, even if u think its too risky. have fun with him your young you have so many possibilities. good luck
2007-12-05 21:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by yayasmamma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋