I'm 24 but I have never had a boyfriend, ever. I'm extremely closeted so I have never step foot in a gay bar or club. I do get asked out by girls every now and then, so I know my looks aren't a disadvantage.
I go to the gym a lot and I often exchange glances with guys I see there, but I don't have the courage to approach any of them.
Anyways, where can I go to meet other gay guys?
2007-12-05 12:53:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Current status:
Extremely closeted and shy.
To find a boyfriend:
Come out and be more outgoing!
Let them know you're available.. if nobody knows, well, most people are going to assume you're straight! And no courage isn't going to get you anywhere... just be confident in yourself. =]
2007-12-05 12:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, the only answer I have would be either go to a gay club and bring along one of your female friends. Have a laugh and joke and generally have a good night out, and you'd be very surprised how many people will chat you up. I used constantly go out with my friend here in cork who was a gay guy and we used have a blast and he would be scoring left, right and centre. Only other advise I could give you is maybe through a friend, I am a true believer in that. Your friend is not going to set you up with someone who is a disaster, because your friend cares for you, they will not set you up with a bad date. Exchange phone numbers, and text for a while before ye meet because ye will get to know so so much about each other that way, even before you meet in person, and you can get an odd cheeky text in there too, without saying it to their face, and not be too embarrassed about it. That's how I met my fiance - through text, and we fell for each other even before we met. Go for it, try hang out in a few gay clubs or even confide in a friend to exchange phone numbers for a text relationship and see how it goes. Remember sweety, there's someone out there for everyone, I'm sure you will find the happiness you deserve in due course. Hope this is help-full. Best of luck :-)
2016-04-07 12:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what everyone says... Online is only freaks.... But I have had my partner of 5 years, because of online dating. I met him online, we chatted for about 2 weeks getting to know each other before we met, then started dating, after about a year, bought a house together, a few years later we got married!
Of course, maybe that only worked because we're both freaks ;) Seriously, I was a recovering meth addict, and was terrified of bars and clubs. I kind of didn't feel I'd meet the love of my life in the park bathroom after midnight, so I went online. You should also check out your local center and see if they have any 20 something activites groups!
Good luck!
2007-12-05 13:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by spinn_doktor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I m living the same. The problem is I don t feel attracted to most gay guys I see. I unfortunately have a type lol. Most guys in gay bars and clubs mostly look up for hook ups, it s also just not my scene. My friends don t know anyone gay. So I guess I m doomed.
2016-05-11 11:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by Riverrunquiet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay clubs or bars, or other social outings that involve gays. But you have to hook up with someone that is gay, like a friend or go to the club or bar. Your not going to know whats going on out there until you start going out. Once you go out once, your going to meet someone and then that's when you will start to see a lot and do a lot.
2007-12-05 13:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gay and 26, but I don't go to bars and dance clubs. I don't dance and I'm not a drinker or smoker. I'm not wild, that's just my personality.
For me, I meet guys by doing thing I like based on my hobbies (cooking, reading, water gardens, the phi ratio etc.) Go visit gay related stuff from the advocate.com like volunter stuff, PFLAG mixers. Whatever you can find that's pleasing on your terms.
Most of all, know yourself as a person and where self-esteem and strength/empowerment comes from (as in role models who are positive and real people with flaws) methods to benefit your well being. This helps in building a emotional ties with a guy in order to relate to him and to yourself.
For example mine is Janice Dickinson and Tyra Banks and Ms. Jay
2007-12-05 23:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by sunriseINFINITY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
David,
go to www.GLYP.Com and see if they have a listing for the largest city nearest you.
This publication lists LGBT friendly organizations/groups where you can find people with similar likings to you.
Check www.Interpride.org calendar for the Pridefest/Parade in your area and there should be a link to your local pride committee.
2007-12-05 13:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by Robert W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is also the steriotypical library or book store...cause whoever is in the gay/homosexual/sexuality section probably wouldn't be straight..
2007-12-05 13:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by I_M_Melancholy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My room? Just kiddin'. Have you tried www.gay.com
2007-12-05 12:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Zach 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is there a gay center where you are?
2007-12-05 13:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by D.J. Corona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋