2007-12-05 12:44:15 · 26 answers · asked by airforcewolf 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Quit letting divorce be the answer to unhappiness.
Raise our morals.
Have some respect.
Love more.
Marry someone who values marriage.
Raise our expectations of ourselves.
Lower our expectations of others.
Try harder.
I have seen many people "cry divorce" for lame reasons. I don't think there are many (if any) marriages that are argument and complication free, but when two people agree that divorce just isn't an option, it can be worked through. I think divorce is the answer in few situations, like abuse, but most situations just need work. It seems like many people want instant gratification today and when the marriage is happy and self fulfilling all the time, they think it's failed. Life's not easy and being with one person forever doesn't even sound easy so why should we expect it to be? I dated guys before that when I asked about divorce they said, if it's not working out, yes, or if we're both miserable, yes...I moved on. Now, I know I'm with someone who will stick by me through thick, thin, PMS, fat and skinny, lies, lost jobs, etc.
2007-12-05 13:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Part of the problem is worrying about the divorce rate itself. One should take care of their own marriage and stop worrying about what your neighbor is or isn't doing. If everybody stopped sticking their noses into other people's business, there would be less problems.
Why is it that one always seems to think he/she have the answer to everyone's problems but their own? I had a perfectly sweet relationship with a young divorced lady from Kolkata. I flew halfway around the world to visit her and the first time a neighbor saw us together, the neighbor started talking and spreading stories at some kind of apartment association meeting (I am not Indian and so I have no idea about these meetings). But the end result................ friendship ruined by someone who was miserable in his life and couldn't wait to make hers/ours more miserable. If everyone would mind their own business everyone would be better off. Want to lower the divorce rate? Help people learn to keep their own house in order.
And while I am at it, treat your spouse as an equals and not as a piece of property, a maid or your mom!!!!
2007-12-05 21:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by ezgoin_newyorker 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Great question! Marriage needs to be taken seriously. People now a days just get married because they know they can get divorced. If it was harder to get divorced, not as many people would get married so quickly, or for the wrong reasons. Judges shouldn't be so quick to just hand out divorces, couples should have to go through counseling or something first. Divorce is not always the answer. The grass isn't always greener on the other side.
2007-12-05 21:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Destroy all the computers...
All the T.V's....
And all the cell phones.
Not to mention all the....clothes, shoes, music.......
Today......as you know...is much different than how it was in the 50's and 60's.
Both my grandparents from each side were married for more than 50 years. Back then, they didn't have what we have today. It was hard work.....back then.
I've heard my grandmother(who just lost her partner of 60 years) say this 100 times. Back then Family meant everything.
Look at what community has the lowest divorce rate...
The Amish....The quiet people.
They work hard everyday. From morning till nightfall. They don't rely on what we rely on. They don't get tempted as we do, by watching t.v...or listening to explicit lirics.....and so on.
We are a very spoiled society. And yet all we do is complain.
It will change in some areas...maybe.
But not in all.
:-)
Lucy
2007-12-05 20:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by Photographer, USN Wife & Mother. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make the couple sit though some nasty divorce case and how the court rip apart everything you worked for, How much money is wasted on lawyers etc... then if they survive that maybe people would think twice before saying "I do"
Of course it might lower the marriage rates too...
2007-12-05 21:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If every married couple thinking about honest, scarify, caring, responsible and love some one else more than yourself it will be lower the divorce rate
2007-12-05 21:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People need to stop getting married to the first person who comes along and stop believing that they are in love when most times they really aren't. Most people need to stop getting divorced for the most stupid things. Couples need to work problems out instead of getting divorced so much.
2007-12-05 21:04:33 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here's an idea, people need to quit rushing into marriage, and do pre-marriage counseling, learn about conflict resolution, and actually learn how when problems come up in a marriage instead of giving up and leaving, to confront the problem and WORK at it.
Also put your spouse and their feelings & needs before your own.
Be a self-less person, love your spouse unconditionally, meaning love them expecting NOTHING in return.
2007-12-05 20:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Can't get married until you are 30 years old
2) Have to have counseling together
3) Have to write down what you expect out of a marriage
4) Have to spend as much time on preparing for marriage as you do preparing for the one wedding day
5) Out law Divorce, so that no one can get divorced
2007-12-05 21:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make it harder to get married.You can marry someone over the weekend the Vegas, but divorce can take years...Something wrong with that picture...
2007-12-05 21:56:56 · answer #10 · answered by PurplePeace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋