my ex won't let mee see or talk to my kids. i pay my child support, she call cops on me when i go to pick them up. when i don't give my ex extra money i don't get to talk to kids for weeks, they moved 2hrs away when she stole my kids from me, sometimes i could not see them because of work, when that happens i don't see or talk to them for weeks. what do i do
2007-12-05 12:23:49 · 20 answers · asked by scottytotaken 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u can take her back to court, get yourself a good attorney and go after custody.
2007-12-05 12:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, do you have shared custody, or does she have primary? If she has primary, the only time the cops can do anything is if YOU keep the kids away from her after your court appointed visiting time. The cops cannot do a darn thing about a CIVIL matter such as custody if it is in fact your appointed time as per the custody agreement. The cops are wrong in allowing her to keep the kids from you, unless the kids are sick or she has validated evidence that you are abusive, neglecting them, etc.
If it is your weekend with the kids, and the cops get involved, ask for their supervisor. It is a CIVIL matter, not crime related. Since this has happened more than once I doubt the kids are sick or otherwise, and the cops are completely out of line for following through.
2007-12-05 12:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it in God's hands and sweetheart I know it hurts because you love them and want to be a man, as well as a father and be there for the children but for whatever reason she's hurting but what's sad is she's hurting the children even more! You and I know in the world today those kids need you more then anything else in this world, especially when the country is in such chaos and when you can innocently go into a mall and get shot for no reason.... You don't need the stress or the head ache and your health comes first and maybe if you slow down and stop pushing she'll come around! I hate to reply to things like this because woman and I am one, have all types of issues oppose to creating all this drama that she's creating right now! I'll keep you and the kids and prayer and I wish you all the best and trust me just let it rest, and don't push at all it'll confuse her and just little things that you hold special to you have them ready for the children when she stops being a butt hole!!!!!!!!!!! Cherish all the special moments, because guess what she'll pay in the worst way for all she's doing..... Karma comes in a way sometimes when you least expect it, and God sees all and hears all the prayers....
Good Luck and God Bless....................
2007-12-05 12:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by rita_hiemy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to court, if and only if you have to. You have rights too. Just because she is the mother doesn't mean you can't take her to court.
But most importantly, and before you decide to take such drastic measures, if it is at all possible, try to have a mature talk with her. Tell her that you don't want to argue and that you are interested in what's best for the children. She may be bitter and is using the kids to get back at you for whatever reason you two divorced. This has to be put to the side right now. If you cannot talk with her, send her a letter. No accusations, no put-downs, nothing to do with her. Only mention that you want to work together with her to make sure you two raise solid, stable kids. It seems as if you both have issues with eachother, the only reason I mention this is because you mentioned her stealing your kids. Put that to the side if you want to get somewhere. You two have to realize that this affects the kids much more than you realize. It's not about you two anymore. Put them first. Set aside your differences, because you are in eachothers lives for a long time to come whether you like it or not. So you might as well make the best of it, for the kids' sake.
Good luck.
2007-12-05 12:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be afraid cos you did not breach any court order. If your ex still call the cops during your next visit, show the cops the Court Order. My advice is you report to the family court and inform them of what your ex is doing to you now. Why must you give extra money when now you are giving what is ordered by the Court. Your ex is doing this to avoid you from meeting your kids but this is wrong. Dont delay, report to the family court.
You can email me at sincereloan@yahoo.com.sg should you need further advice / opinion. I am here to share as your friend.
2007-12-05 12:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have court ordered visitation? If you do and you follow it she can't stop you from seeing them...If she is creating problems when you go to pick them up for your court ordered visitation then you need to take the cops with you. This is called an assisted pick-up. Take a copy of your court order, call the local police and ask them to go with you to pick up the kids.
As far as talking to them goes all you can do is take her to court. An attorney can file a petition that says she is interfering with the court order.
Don't be bullied out of your kid's lives. Keep fighting.
Good luck.
2007-12-05 12:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by George 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have court appointed visits then he cannot call the cops on you....what happens when they get there are you forced to leave? If so, that is wrong since you are legally entitled to be seeing your kids. I think you need to talk to a lawyer right away. He is using your kids as pawns to hurt you and that is not right and is very bad for them.
2007-12-05 12:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a court appointed visit I believe all you have to do is show the police the papers that show that it is. If that does not work go to a lawyer and talk to him or her about the situation. I believe also that it is illegal for her to withhold the children from you if you were appointed the right to do so and in some states she would be held in contempt of court.
2007-12-05 13:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can file and charge her with contempt of court. You have a manipulative ex wife - my husband does also. The best thing that we have done is read about what is going on. Read the Jayne Major study on Parent Alienation syndrome. You can find this on line. You can also go to www.Glennsacks.com he is an advocate for fathers rights. There is a lot of support and help there. He will answer your emails. This is just a start. I wish you luck.
2007-12-05 12:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to take her back to court for violating a court ordered custody agreement. You can also file charges against her for harrassment, especially if she has no reason to be calling the police on you. Make sure you get a good attorney, as well.
2007-12-05 12:30:06 · answer #10 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go back to the courts. If the court has appointed the visits...then you have a right to see them.
You can also go to the police with your court documents.
Just don't let her get away with blackmailing you for extra money.
2007-12-05 12:31:22 · answer #11 · answered by Wolfy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋