Why does my husband tells me he loves me but is not attracted to me. I know it's because im fat.?

Question

Well this make him cheat do I need to lose the weight?

Answer 1

It takes alot of work on our part to keep our husbands attracted to us we can't let ourselves get fat and out of shape.Your husband like most will lose the attraction he once had but that doesn't mean he doesn't love you. If you were to lose some weight and dress better he will look at you and the attraction will be there again. Sometimes just losing the weight will do it for him.

Answer 2

Your husband is an asshole!!I have been married for 20 years ,I have had 6 children and my weight has gone up and down.My husband has never said anything like that to me,he loves me and because of that would be attracted to me no matter how I looked.If he uses that as a reason to cheat on you it's a cop out!Why he would even say something like that is beyond me.If I were you I would start losing some weight (you can do it)you need to start feeling better about yourself,and when you do,he will be attracted to you again.Then you can tell him to get bent!!!

Answer 3

Has he told you it's because you're fat? Don't assume.

If he is no longer attracted to you, there's every chance that he'll cheat, or leave, or both. However, it may not be your weight that's the problem.

Sounds like you've convinced yourself that you're unattractive because you're fat. If that's the case, then you're probably not making any effort to look sexy. You may be overweight, but you can still have nice skin, nice hair and dress smartly. More importantly, you can still wear a smile, have a positive attitude and be sociable.

Of course, if you're fat, you should do your best to lose weight anyway - unless you want to head for an early grave. Excess weight is unhealthy.

Answer 4

he should love you just the way you are but some men are jerks like that. how do you know he is not attracted to you di he tell you or are you just assuming if its you then yes you need to lose the weight to make your self feel better and not have so much doubt on your man.

I know because i am the same way im not that fat but i feel like i am and i sometimes feel that he is not attracted to me and that he will look else where. so im trying to lose weight.

Answer 5

Are you just assuming he isn't attracted to you because you are overweight or has he said that is the reason? If you are unhappy with your weight then you should go on a healthy diet and get back in shape...for yourself not for your husband. The bonus will be you will feel so much better about yourself and your new positive attitude and slimmed down body will likely get your husband very attentive!!

Answer 6

You sound like you are in a very stressful and toxic relationship.
Marriage is a huge commitment, and when you said "for better or for worse; in sickness and in health" you made a huge vow!

I understand that in our society thin people are considered more attractive; and being overweight not only causes trouble in your self-esteem but also can lead to health problems.

But.... if your husband thinks that he is allowed to cheat BECAUSE you are overweight, he is an immature and selfish man who wants the comfort of having you around to take care of him and his house; but wants to have sex outside your bed. Cheaters cheat because THEY have issues; nobody forces them to do it. His excuse is a truly idiotic one.

This is NOT what a marriage is about, and it's up to you to decide whether or not to keep him around. When you really love someone, you care more about who they are inside, not about how they look.

I'd say consider going to therapy alone, and try to find out WHY you are overeating.
Once you discover what triggers your need to eat so much, you can then decide to start doing some exercise and starting a diet.
But you have to do this because YOU want to look and feel better; not because it will hopefully prevent your husband from straying. Good luck.

Answer 7

First of all what an *** and second if you want to lose weight then do it for number 1 not the ***. Also if he cheats it's because he wanted to not because you have a few extra pounds on ya. Sounds honestly like he doesn't love you. Leave him while you can.

Answer 8

If you decide to loose weight, you need to be doing it for yourself, and not for him or anyone else. Your husband should be attracted to you if he Really Loves you?. What makes you think he's not attracted to you? did he actually say it?? Yes, he "could" cheat if you don't keep a good line of communication going. Find out where his head is and exactly what he thinks, how he feels, etc... Good Luck !!

Answer 9

The guy sounds like a jerk, but lose weight. There are so many good reasons to be in shape, its almost impossible to list them all. Obesity is a sign of laziness. I hear it all the time; "I'm big-boned!" or "Its a glandular problem." Usually its just a diet and lack of exercise problem. Getting in shape...omg..so much good can come out of that; self-confidence, sex appeal, physical health, longer happier life, setting a great example for your kids! Just so many reasons. Get moving and remember, losing weight is 80 percent diet and 20 percent exercise!

Answer 10

If you are fat before you met him then he's just being a jerk. If you are fat when you marry him then you should try to lose weight. Man... they are weak. They can easily be attracted to a pretty thing regardless the use of it. (in your case, other women). If that's still not working .. try LEAVING HIM because you know you deserves better.