ive been seeing her for twice a week since march, so im very close with her, but idk if as a patient it would be kinda weird for me to give her a card
2007-12-05 12:16:01 · 5 answers · asked by justine 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
A therapist-client relationship is like no other; you are very close, but you aren't "friends", and the interactions are lopsided, since the therapy is all about you. A therapist is not supposed to get anything out of the relationship; that is considered unethical. Most therapists are okay with accepting cards or even small gifts like cookies you baked.
It's probably best to give her the card, since you want to. But give it to her in person. Then you might (or she might) use the card as a conversation-starter for you to talk about how much she means to you, or about the ways in which the closeness of being her patient feels strange or "wierd".
How fortunate you are to have found such a good therapist that she has come to mean so much to you in such a short time!
2007-12-05 12:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by SheyneinNH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is Jewish, I don't see why not. So what you are her client, you have to have developed a relationship with her to trust her enough to talk to her twice a week.
OK maybe this will help. Have you ever given her a hug? Has she ever given you a hug. If so by all means give her the card.
It sounds like you like her so if it feels weird give her a card anyway and just tell her what she has come to mean to you. We all need to know that we have made a connection. You could even mail it to her if hand delivering it feels weird.
I think if you do not give her the card you will regret it because wanting to give it to her is coming from your heart.
2007-12-05 20:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by jerzybuckeye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to, yes. It would be weird for her to give you a card, but not the other way. Patients always want to give things to their therapist. Sometimes a therapist uses it as an opportunity to talk about what giving the card means to you, and your fear that she won't approve, or that you did a bad thing. So they get valuable information, and you get to give her a card!
2007-12-05 21:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you feel that close to her (and assuming she's Jewish) then you should send her a card. I wouldn't hand it to her personally, but you could mail it to her office or leave it with her receptionist.
2007-12-05 20:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of Many 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if she's Jewish. ;-)
Seriously though, it is always a nice gesture to give someone a card. I'm sure she'll like it.
2007-12-05 20:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by sqwish1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋