When it comes to children of today, do you believe...?

Question

that beatings should be re-instated, or just maybe bring back the old school way of raising kids. My grandfather is a very respectable man, yet now, my daughter disrespects me all the time? Did we take a wrong turn somewhere? How about the "rite fo passage" for doing your time in the military? THAT is another issue I have, comment on what you wish! Thanks in advance. Kids just don't respect their elders like they should, and it gets me so angry. Especially, since most of those "elders" have been put through MORE HECK than those kids could ever dream of!

Big Daddy, I totally agree. What ever happened to "Honor thy mother and thy father"? I think as I child, when I had the fear of God in me, I behaved a LOT better.

Answer 1

I believe that the youth of today have no respect whatsoever for anyone, and mostly not even themselves!
All these new 'ideas' just install lazyness, and most kids do not have any common sense either.
How many can actually spell? read,or write with an actual pen?
Modern technology has a lot to answer for. Spell and grammar check on a pc, and a laser printer to make homework all neat, and hey presto, A+. Or YA to get help with it! ha ha!
I just helped my 12 year old step- daughter, and most of her work I couldn't read, and half of it was in text msg 4mat!
What is going on? I am only 26.
I was the first one when I was younger to offer my seat to an elderly person, hold a door open, or help lift a shopping trolley on or off the bus, and I always, and still do say 'please' and 'thank you.' The kids just use a string of obscenities instead.
Now the kids put their feet on the seats, and the driver dare not tell them to move for fear of getting stabbed!
Schools are too PC, and teach the wrong things. What about life skills? how to pay your council tax and bills, all about buying property? health care etc.
I don't even remember half of what I learnt! but I do know what I needed to learn, but was not taught!
I think national service for all should be installed in some degree, not just in the armed forces, but maybe in hospitals and public services. Even people that are not fit for war could help in a hospital by sorting patient records.
Maybe people would be more tolerant of one another, and their differences would be more widely accepted.
I can remember going on a school trip once, I must of been about 10. We went on an 'Edwardian day experience', and spent a couple of hours in an 'Edwardian' classroom, being taught the way the children then would have.
Similar methods should be re-instated, and teachers would have an easier time, and the kids would learn more.
Punishments are too lenient, and too Pc, for fear of a legal case of somthing being against their human rights.
I do occasionally smack my daughters hand, it gets her attention, and she realizes that she was naughty. It is a grey area, but that is as far as it goes. I tend to try and praise her good behaviour, and ignore the bad, but it depends on the severity of the naughtiness.
In the Uk punishment for crime is not tough enough, so kids do not respect or abide by the law, because all they have to do is get mummy or daddy to pay the fines!!
Absolutely un beliveable. And no, most do not understand what previous generations have done for them, by fighting in the world wars etc, let alone thank them.
I am trying my best with my own children, manners and respect are so important. If either of them only ever end up in a low paid job, and renting a house and in debt, etc ( think worst case life senario), at least I hope they will have achieved it by being respectful and polite along the way.

And Supertop, I know what you mean. That is exactly my step-daughters' birth mother, thats why we are fighting for custody, and have the child services involved. If my s. daughter were a cat, or a dog, she would have been taken from her mum a long time ago!

Answer 2

The times have changed in a big way. Many states are passing bills to make it illegal to spank your child. There is a a big difference between discipline and abuse. Most families have lost the values of love and respect for God,country, and family.Many children have not been taught to respect their elders and are being told by their parents you don't have to listen to anyone but me. They have not been taught to respect themselves, which also makes it hard to respect anyonelse. I was spanked as a child and it has made me a better person. I really think that many parents are setting there children up for failure because the children have become so spoiled that they think everyone should cater to them and their wants. How do we expect these children to make it in the world as adults without moral skills and respect, where the world does not revolve around them.Society has definitely made it more challenging for parents who are trying to bring up good kids, who in turn we hope will be productive adults. It is all really sad.

Answer 3

Yes I think it should be! My kids are raised to be respectful not nasty little brats and if that means a good spanking or cuffing here and there than so be it! I'm not dealing with all that crap that I see other people's kids doing!

But ^ he's right a lot of parents don't deserve respect. Mine don't and I know quite a few who don't but if they had been decent parents they wouldn't have the bs they have today ... But thats their fault.

Answer 4

The people of your grandparents generation were raised to respect God, country, and their elders. Each day almost like clock work another symbol of the Christian faith is attacked and removed from public display. Human beings were designed to worship something, if you remove God from society, children will worship what? TV, movies, video games. This country is now paying for raising a God-less generation.

Answer 5

True story:

One time I was in class misbehaving ( try to contain your shock) and everyone was laughing, as usual. Well, everyone stopped laughing, so I figured I needed to be even funnier. Well, about that time someone ( I soon found out it was Mommy Dearest, I mean my mom) grabbed me by the ear and drug me out of the classroom. Once there she proceeded to take my belt off, pull my pants down, and "wear me out" as she so famously called it. Then She pulled my pants back up and sent me back into the classroom, keeping my belt "just in case" I messed up again. And what did the teacher do? Well, she thanked mama of course. Yet these days, my son yells at the teacher and runs out of the room.......goes toi the playground and sits on the slide......and what happens? Well, he sits there til hes ready to come back in the room, cause nowadays teachers can't touch the kids. I SOOOOOOO miss the old days, cause I GUARANGODDAMTEE my kids wouldnt be so disrespectful if we were "in the old days."

Great q, star 4 u.

Answer 6

All I am going to say is that I was spanked as a child when I did something wrong. It taught me right from wrong and that there were consequences to my actions and I believe I am a better person for it.

And yes, your grandfather is a VERY respectable man. I know, he's my father and he raised me right.

Answer 7

Do not worry you are good you love your children
you spoil them you give them from your heart
you give them all the need to accomplish i grew up with paper dolls and my brothers soldiers were wood match sticks
and when i raised my it was quite a struggle we all struggle even make great sacrifices for our kids
Don't fret we are of a magic within us look and you will see it
just do not rush it respect it all you have is family and a
space you choose to built for them as you respect... that you respect whom taught you to put it there , and that comes from where you came from , its our History we are from that making
we have to believe in something and hell you know we do
NOW do not go slapping your kids around
cause you do not slap my grand children
BEAT YOUR HUSBANDS FOR SPOILING THEM..
now go to bed GIRLS PLAY NICE..
just get up and make sure they eat something and take
a hat and gloves hug them and god grant you alt of time
and guess what he will you will become just what you wanted them to be,!!

Answer 8

i was spanked as a child and taught to say "sir" and "maam" and not to interrupt when adults were talking.
i only had to be told once to either do or stop doing something.
i raised my kids the same way. people used to comment on how well behaved they were. i always said, they don't have a choice.

Answer 9

i agree with you. these days if you give your kid a swift kick in the behind (a harmless kick) they'll take you away in handcuffs. when i was a kid i was never spanked. i just knew how to be respectful. i think a lot of todays kids just expect too much or something..

Answer 10

Could it be because parents today don't deserve the respect they want? Do they show that they really care about their children? I know some that don't. They will tell you they do, but when they have passed out from taking drugs and don't know what their kids or doing or where they are, they don't really care.