I have a sister-in-law who's son likes to bite, hit, kick at my son (who is only 5 months old). Her son is a year old and I understand that he doesn't realize that it hurts when he does those things. So I bring it to her attention and she always get mad at me for bringing it up. I do it in a polite way but it keeps happening and she just turns her head like nothing is wrong. My husband has even gotten into HUGE arguements with his sister over this and she just says, "Your son will do the same thing." I explain to her that yes he will go through the same stage, but I will try to correct it. She could at least try to discipline him. He's a very smart kid, she doesn't give him enough credit, so I think he would understand that it's wrong if she would just teach him. If one of us try to intervene when he is doing this she yells at us. I have tried just breaking off contact, but we get yelled at by other family members for being 'mean'. I don't know what to do!
2007-12-05 11:30:54 · 5 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Also, I try to keep them apart and she takes offense to this. She thinks I am not letting her son 'play' with my son. I just think the age difference and growth development is too big off a gap. I tell her this, but again I get the cold sholder.
2007-12-05 11:32:20 · update #1
From Medlineplus: Human bites may be more dangerous than most animal bites. There are anaerobic microbes in some human mouths that can cause hard-to-treat infection. Hospitalization to receive intravenous antibiotics may be required for someone with an infected human bite, especially on the hand.
As you can see, biting is no joke and your sister-in-law is taking it way to lightly. Your job is too protect your child and it is important to keep your son away from his cousin if he is biting him. No if ands or buts about it. Your husband supports you and thats all you need to worry about, screw the other family members, they are just as stupid as your SIL.
2007-12-05 11:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what is more important, your child? Or what other family members think? If she can not control her kid, then keep yours away. And no not all kids go threw these stages. I have 5, and only one has been as biter. And that was because he was bit by my brother in-laws unruly, bratty, little girl. And it didn't take long to make mine stop doing it.
If someone says something to you, then tell them, sorry but I will not continue to have my baby hurt.
And I wouldn't care what she said, if the kid is doing things wrong then tell him NO. If she doesn't like it, tell her to take care of her own child and then you wouldn't have too. If she gets offended oh well. She is the type who will wonder why her kid is so bad later on in life.
2007-12-05 19:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by cris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLY WITH A FOUR MONTH BABY ?WITH A LITTLE KARATE KID AROUND, NOT TOO BLOODY LIKELY !!!!!
The natural mother instinct is to protect, she is protecting hers and you have a little baby who cannot protect himself and if your family do not understand that just keep the baby away, sorry but you will have to hold tough against your family, your baby is a little to young, to take risks, and of course he will do it as well, he will have had a great teacher if you allow it,Try to talk to your sister, start every sentence with I
i AM SCARED FOR MY BABY I AM SORRY I AM OVER PROTECTIVE BUT HE IS SUCH A LITTLE CHAP, I REALLY NEED HELP TO KEEP HIM SAFE WHILE WE VISIT, IF SHE AGREES TO BE SENSIBLE AND AGREE THAT YOU BOTH NEED TO BE MORE ALERT WHEN THE OLDER ONE IS AROUND THE BABY, THAT IS THE WAY THINGS ARE ANY WAY, WITH OUT HAVING AN EXTRA AGGRESSIVE TODDLER AROUND.
I HAVE HAD EXPERIENCE WITH THOSE LITTLE TERRORS, ONE OF THEM TOOK A BITE OUT OF MY GRANDSON STOMACH IT BLEED FOR TWO HOURS AND TOOK A WEEK TO HEAL, AND YOU KNOW WHAT , THEY WERE PLYING LIKE BEST FRIENDS ROLLING ON THE GRASS WHEN I HEARD THIS PAINFUL SCREAM, THEY WERE SIX YEARS OLD, AND HE HAS BEEN DOING THIS FOR ALL OF THE SIX YEARS, (he is nine months older) I could never understand my daughter continuing being friends with the kid mother, but I am only the grand ma so I had to shut up,I DID GET HIM WHEN HE WAS OLDER, I GOT TO HIM WHEN NO ONE WAS LOOKING,( AFTER i SAW HIM SHOVE MY GRANDSON ON THE CONCRETE GROUND) I GOT HIM BY THE SCRUFF OF HIS NECK, DRAGGED HIM BEHOND A TREE, AND I TOLD HIM IF HE EVER TOUCHED MY GRANDSON AGAIN, HE WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO SIT FOR TWO WEEKS, AND I WOULD DO IT ON THE QUITE WHEN NO ONE WAS WATCHING, HE IS ELEVEN AND HE IS GETTING WORSE, BUT HE IS VERY NICE TO MY GRAND SON AT THE MOMENT, BUT I STILL HAVE MY EVIL EYE ON HIM WHEN THEY GET TOGETHER
So I know what I am talking about .
If things do not change then I suggest that you avoid as much as you can, and seek your husband help to keep a close eye on the little terror WHEN YOU HAVE TO VISIT
2007-12-05 20:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by Loretta M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your childs well fair is the most important thing at stake here, screw the sisternlaw, "i never liked mine anyways" the next time it happens you need to make areally big deal over it!!!! Tell it like it is! protect your baby!! Don't feel alone, this happens sll the time in every family!!
2007-12-05 19:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bite him back he,ll not do it again it worked for me
2007-12-05 19:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋