I'm sixteen, my boyfriend is seventeen... and me and boyfriend are always careful.. I don't know where we messed up.. we always use condoms and we're both in highschool.. I took the test it said positive so I took another one and it said the same thing.. so I'm sure I am.. but my parents are gonna kill me.. I just found a guy they like and now I feel like they're gonna hate me and him.. I don't know what to do.. I know I have to tell them.. but last time I was in trouble.. my dad said if I mess up one more time that I'm in for it.. I'm so scared I don't know what to do.. I think I could get hurt.. or they aren't gonna let me see my boyfriend.. gosh can someone help me?????
2007-12-05 11:25:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well, if the test said positive, well, your preggo...
You need to come clean, tell them the truth. So.. they wont let you see your boyfriend... so who is supposed to support you? Help you out? be there for the baby?
Well, i dont think they are going to "kill" you.. Im sure they are going to be mad at you..... but they will get over it.
2007-12-05 11:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by ツ Connors Mommy ツ 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If you took two test that came out positive more than likely you are. Yeah, youre parents might be mad, thats normal thou. What parent wants to see their teen daugher pregnant? You need to just come right out and tell them before things get even more complicated. Im 18 and I know how things can be, Ive had friends in similar situations. Yeah, they might be mad at your boyfriend but after a while they'll come around.
And not to be mean but you let this happen, both of you. NO sex, NONE prevents you from getting pregnant, a std, aids, etc. You should of thought about what would happen if you DID happen.
2007-12-05 12:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your father probably doesn't mean it. You have to tell them soon, having their support will make this much easer on you. Just sit them down, tell them you have something important to tell them, and explain how it happend.
The initial reaction may not be very fun, but after they clam down, they will help you. Its what parents are for.
If you not 100% sure, book in with the hospital and get them to test you, false positives are rare, but its better to be safe.
Also, if it turns out your not, take this as a lesson, condoms do not work ALL the time. If your going to have sex, double up protection. You do something too.
2007-12-05 11:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are responsible for your actions and you must take that responsibility and use it and accept it with the consequences for your mistake.
Learning from our mistakes is to admit ot ourself that we ackowledge what we did wrong and then don't repeat that.
There are a few alternatives here that are not comprehensible, but effective and not a sole solution to rid the problem.
Should you decide to keep the baby you already know what your in for so I don;t have to explain it, but keep this in mind, that's your child and his and both of you will have to face up to it and should you decide to keep the baby he will have his dues as well.
This is not a hard problem only a difficult situation since your still young and have your whole life ahead of you and that goes for him too.
If you keep that baby and care for it and continue your schooling you will be alright, but your ready to face Mother-hood early, but your not the first to have done this.
Sit down with your Mother first and tell her and then Daddy can find out later after Mom has had her talks with you.
2007-12-05 11:39:44 · answer #4 · answered by bigapple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not tell them alone. What do you mean that you might get hurt? If he hurts you or if you are afraid that he will you need to tell another adult that you are pregnant and ask for their help to tell them. Does he hurt you?I don't see why they would not let you see him, the damage is done and that is unreasonable. He has a right to see the baby and you need him to be there for you. I would tell your mom first if that is possible. I would tell them soon. Have you told your boyfriend? If not tell him first. Condoms are not foolproof and you did try to protect yourself. Good luck.
2007-12-05 13:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a feeling something will happen then I suggest you tell them that you tell them sooner than later.
Tell them that you know you made a mistake and you will take the consequences.
Don't worry though. At first when you tell your parents they will be mad. However, they will get over it sooner or later, and learn to love their grandchild as much as they love their daughter.
Did you tell your boyfriend yet?
Also, If you are not absolutely positive you are pregnant tell your parents that. Have your mom will take you to the doctor to see if you are or aren't.
Good Luck.
2007-12-05 11:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have an aunt or cousin that you trust get them to tell them for you. That will give them the chance to yell, scream and cry before dealing with you and give them a chance to think about what they want to say to you. If you can't find a go between then I would suggest that you have a friend there when you tell them. You will need the moral support and having others there my cause them to temper their response.
2007-12-05 21:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are worried more about not seeing this boy then the fact that you are pregnant? UNBELIEVEABLE! You are PREGNANT. You have a baby growing inside of you. Right now, that should be your main focus. You knew what you were doing. I don't understand all of these girls who say "I don't know what to do...I'm pregnant now." You were well aware of the possibility of a pregnancy and you're worried about it now? It's a little too late, don't you think?
My advice to you is to tell your parents as soon as possible so you can get to the doctor. You need to start getting prenatal care to ensure that the baby is fine. And no, I do not at all concone abortion. I feel if you are adult enough to have sex, you are adult enough to have a child and either a.) raise that child or b.) give that child to someone else (adoption.)
All you can do is tell them. I wouldn't worry about the consequences, as you are facing one of the biggest consequences of all. You really should have thought about this before you were out having sex, now shouldn't you?
2007-12-05 11:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 3⤋
Just tell them
They will be mad and yell
But after they calm down they will help you
They love you
Just tell them, and get it over with
Dad's always say things like this
Tell you mom first
2007-12-05 11:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents now. They are going to be pretty mad, but you are going to have to accept the consaquences
2007-12-05 16:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by Pauly W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋