Disagreement about finding out gender.......?

Question

This is my 7th pregnancy, with my first I did not find out the gender until after she was born. With the next 6 I found out during my 2nd trimester ultrasound. My husband does not want to find out the gender of this baby, but I do. It doesn't matter to either of us what the gender is, we will be happy either way, we have 2 girls and 4 boys (1 of the boys has passed away). I do think the surprise factor would be really neat to go through again, but I am just so anxious to call baby he or she. And knowing how super easy it is to find out, I doubt I can lay on that u/s table and say 'no dont look there' lol. So if you and your significant other had a similar disagreement, how did you reach a decision on whether or not to find out? My ultrasound will be in mid january.

...sorry that was supposed to be "with the next 5" not next 6.

Thanks Squirrel. When I have my u/s, the tech will have dh wait outside while she does all the measurements, etc, then call him in and show him things. So I thought maybe I could have her peek at the gender before he comes into the room. My husband said though that if I know what it is, he will end up wanting to know too so he'd rather me not know. I also thought about having the tech writing it down, sticking it in an already addressed envelope, ,and mailing it to my friend 3 states away to see how long I can hold out before harassing her to open the envelope and tell me lol.

thanks for all the replies =) (well except the geico one lol). Almost all the 'wives tales' point to girl, gut tells me girl, and I really want to confirm or deny that my gut is right lol. Nusery isn't an issue, if it's a girl she will share the nursery with my 13 month old daughter, if it's a boy.......well we're not sure where we'll put him yet lol. I still have lots of both baby boy and baby girl clothes so thats not an issue. I just hate being in suspense lol. And I know that if I turn down finding out the gender, I will be one extra cranky preggo. We talk about this daily so I'm hoping I can persuede him before Jan. 15th to change his mind lol. If not, then i'll probably find out and let him keep it a surprise.

Thank you and I agree with all of you. No matter what I will definitely respect his wishes. Right now I alternate between calling baby "he" or "she" so if I were to say (after knowing) he's kicking or she's kicking it wouldn't phase him because he's so used to me saying that already. With my last baby he couldn't make it to the u/s, he knew i was finding out the sex but said not to tell him, he didn't want to know. Well within 15 minutes of me being home he was begging me to tell him lol. So he may very well even change his mind right there in the u/s room.

Answer 1

My husband and I had this same problem the last two pregnancies....he found out but I didn't want to. Unfortunately he let the cat out of the bag within a week that first time...and the same day this last time.

Have the u/s tech write it down and give to you in a sealed envelope. That way your hubby knows that you don't *know*. When you decide that you can't wait any longer you can peek at it when he's not home. You don't have to tell him that you eventually DID find out.

Of course you should also respect his wishes as well. If he doesn't really want to know....don't ruin the surprise for him. If you find out....do every thing possible to not let it slip etc. My husband let me know we were having a boy by telling me that my "take home outfit" was too feminine. And this past time he kept saying "she wasn't 100% sure so I don't know either" since I know that he prefers having boys...I knew that he simply wasn't happy that she told him a girl more than likely. It made me mad because I KNEW that he would let it slip and I didn't want him to find out for that one reason.

And think about it as well...it's hard to get thru the u/s...but once it's done it's over and done with....and you might just find that it's more exciting to find out on the delivery table than waking up on Christmas morning and finding out that Santa came!!

Good luck.

And God bless you....7 children with one in heaven...AMAZING. I've been pregnant 6 times...but only have 3 children (with one still cooking)

Answer 2

With my first 2 pregnancies we did no longer locate out what we've been having as we the two had to have a marvel. despite if 2nd time I had a feeling it ought to b yet another boy as my being pregnant became into very lots an identical 2nd time around. We ended up with 2 effectual little boys, Finn Alexander and Oscar James i'm now pregnant with twins and we are additionally keeping it a marvel....you are not getting many surprises in existence. The names we've picked out are: B/B- Charlie Stewart and Elliott Richard G/G- Matilda Louise and Annabelle Grace B/G- Charlie Stewart and Matilda Louise

Answer 3

I've had 3, and I never found out. Neither my husband or I wanted to know. My mother was furious with me! [Of course, I don't peek at my presents, either! ; ) ]

It was really nice when my last child was born. My midwife asked me what my name choices were. I told her Caleb and Hannah. So, when the baby was born, instead of telling me "it's a girl!" she said, "Hello, Hannah!" It seemed so very personal.

You will have to decide before you go in, and then just grit your teeth and bear it. However, I do think your husband's wishes should be considered.

Answer 4

honestly this is my first baby and i have enjoyed not knowing the gender but it aggrivates everyone else, and i find them asking what is, more aggrivating.
but you have found out for just about all of your kids, so maybe your husband just wants something to look forward to this time. U are the one that has to carry it though, if it is going to drive you crazy than find out, or if you can have them write it down so only u know but then you have to keep those lips sealed. Personally if you can wait this time do it, have one more suprise! if not he will just have to get over it, your the one doing the work, good luck.

Answer 5

Inform the tech that you only want to know. When the time comes to find out, have your husband exit the room. Then just be really careful to not spill the beans. That way everyone is happy.

Answer 6

He said something about not finding out, and I told him that if he didn't want to know that he didn't have to, but I was finding out. I told him I wouldn't show him any of the baby things and I would keep the nursery door shut, so he couldn't see what colors it was in. He decided before the ultra sound that he wanted to know, so I didn't have to keep it from him....but I would tell hubby the same thing!!

Answer 7

We'll if you want to find out than do it but if your hubby doesn't want to know than you'll have to respect his decision and not tell him. I found out with all my 4 children. It just seemed easier to get prepared than having to do it afterward. Now you really have your hands full you'll need time for yourself and having to shop after the baby comes, seems more of a choir. Good Luck

Answer 8

Well, couldn't you find out and just not tell him or anyone else?

I would think both of you would be happy that way. You get to keep the suspense of not telling him and watching his excitement/suprise factor and still know yourself.

Answer 9

ask the technician secretly without ur husband knowing, or before have a private talk with getting the technician to make a sign with the hands or something one for a boy and the other for a girl...

Answer 10

I would just have the tech put the answer in an envelope and you can look when you get home, or whenever. If he doesn't want to know, that's fine, but it doesn't mean you should have to miss out.