My friend died 10 weeks ago in a car accident. I didn't attend her funeral because I found out after she died. Some of my other friends weren't able to attend because we're scattered everywhere. because I didn't attend I feel a bit of emptiness like a hole in my life.
I was thinking since we all a lot of time around Christmas time to have a memorial service so the rest of us who didn't get to attend can at least get the opportunity to say what we wanted to. The thing is I need her husband's permission and he's pretty unstable right now. His son and sister died with her in the accident and he was the driver. Is this memorial service a good idea?
2007-12-05 09:43:47 · 4 answers · asked by christigmc 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think it's a great idea. And if he can't be bothered, why not try something a little less formal? A dinner together to share your memories, it's a little cold to go to the cemetary. Guess it depends on how many people would be there.
2007-12-05 09:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by Katie T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is really thoughtful. christmas will be a very difficult time for him this year. but as the other answerer said, perhaps a meal - maybe you can organise it as i'm sure he wouldn't feel up to doing that - arrange something simple, perhaps a simple gathering at your home, or someone elses and have lots of beautiful white candles and pretty white flowers and each person can share their memories of her and then have a champagne "toast" to remember her. maybe wait until just after christmas. make sure you make some pretty invitations on your computer - print in soft golds and whites and just call it something like a "memorial dinner - and have a pretty verse and perhaps word it with something like a special meal to get together and share memories of a loved one" or something like that - invite her husband - he may not wish to attend - but he would surely appreciate your thoughtfulness that you cared about her.
, you don't need permission to express your love for a lost friend and her family - simply on your little invitation to him just pop in a well thought out note saying that you were unable to attend the funeral and were just holding this with some friends to remember her as you cared about her very much... don't make it a big memorial service formal thing - just a simple, quiet at home thing.
2007-12-05 10:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a sparkling e book so as that individuals can write their concepts or basically signal names. exhibit any awards or certificate she may have gained in events or at paintings. Have a exhibit board with images of relations & pals in events at the same time with her.
2016-10-25 12:31:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a good idea
2007-12-05 09:52:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋