I'm bisexual... and Christian?

Question

My dad absolutely forbids my feelings, and tells me it will not be tolerated. That it is a sin.


Can you justify this? Is it a sin? If so, where does it say?
Is it not? If so, can you prove it in the Bible?

You guys are AMAZING!
You people are AMAZING.
Thanks for all your advice. Unfortunately, as of yesterday, he has set down a rule that I am to no longer, in any way shape or form, talk to my boyfriend. This has struck me deep, and I don't know what to think about it. If you could please email me at [e-mail] so that I have someone to talk to, it would be greatly appreciated. I'm going through hard times with both of my parents... both of which who absolutely despise what I am. Its sad that my own parents cannot accept me, their very son, for who he actually is.

Thank you.

Answer 1

i can't point out a particular verse in the bible or anything, but how can loving someone of either sex be a sin? i think it's more sinful to be a gay basher. i'm sorry your dad is so indoctrinated and close minded. there are plenty of gay christians out there. how can someone forbid your feelings? he may not agree with it, but he can't stop it. do what you feel is right. don't worry about god, he isn't real anyways.

Answer 2

How many wars have been fought using the bible as justification? How many different religions justify different things based off of their interpretation of the bible? And how many things in the bible are actually sins? I read this wonderful book about a person who tried to live life strictly according to what the bible says to do and not to do. It was very interesting to see the things we do every single day that are considered sins. Of which, judging some one, whether you are justifying it with the bible or not, is a sin. It suggests that you know what God would think or want.

Look, the bible may have been inspired by God but it was written by man. And man always puts their spin on things and guess what, free will lets them do it. But free will also lets us question whether the bible is right, wrong, should be interpretated, should be literal.

But in the Bible it says that God is the creator and that God is perfect. You were made this way. God made you. You did not choose what to feel any more than a straight person did. People who say differently are closed minded and will never accept that just because they say you made a choice doesn't make it true. They don't know, but it is hard not to know so don't get angry with them.

The bible is only proof of what some people believe. And faith makes us believe it. But faith doesn't mean that we can use what was said 2000 years ago to justify the awful things people do to each other now. All the things that are sins are those that are within our free will to control. Ask a straight person whether they can control their sexuality. They can only control their choices. If you never made a choice to be any thing other than straight, then take comfort that God sees into your heart. The sin here would be letting your father's words keep you from being a complete person. You can honor him by looking past what he said, but dropping the rope. Let him fight his battles with what he thinks, it is not your fight. Your fight is to get through this life being the best person you can be and if that means bi or gay, then that is what it means.

Answer 3

First of all no one can forbid your feelings. They are yours and only yours and no one can take them from you. Secondly, they will not be tolerated by whom? If by that he means himself, then he should be questioning his motives, his own insecurities, his love for you. As a parent he should love you unconditionally. You did arise from his own genetic material, so whatever it is that makes you bisexual, it is in your dad's genes as well. Maybe that's what he's afraid of, himself and the fact that he too has bisexual genes. Whether they are expressed or not that is another story. Thirdly, if it is a sin, then "God" is not perfect, because "He" made you that way. The Bible is a compilation of stories that were originally handed down verbally from generation to generation and then written down by men hundreds of years later. I am sure that they are not what the original stories were and that they were changed over time to conform to the norms of society. Ever played the game "telephone?" The Bible is quite similar, so take everything it says and everything everyone says that it says with a grain of salt. Just because something is in the Bible doesn't make it true or correct. After all, look at all the instances of murder and incest that are in the Bible. Be proud of who you are, and don't let anyone tell you or lead you to believe that who you are is wrong or sinful. Hope that helps!

Answer 4

It DOES say that it's wrong to like another person fo the same sex in the bible (I forget where, though), but you do want to be happy, right???

How old are you? You are most probably around 14 years old. You only have a few more years until you can get emancipated from your parents! I think it's age 16 or 17.
Wait it out- say that it was a phase and lay low for a while, then when you haver a place of your own, YOU make the rules. Don't let people turn you away from a happy life you may have!

God loves you. If you still love him and give to him, being bi/gay may mean just as much as cheating on a test to God! I don't believe God, The Almighty, Powerful, Forgiving God will send you straight to hell just because you love one of the same gender! And if he does send bi/gays to hell, I don't want to go to Heaven anyway!

Wouldn't you hate to be someone you are not for all of your life? I know I sure would! You only have one life to live, so live it to the fullest!

Answer 5

As a Gay Christian, I can tell you that there is nothing in the Bible that says it's wrong. The verses commonly used against the LGBT community are generally about temple prostitution.

Also...

Leviticus 20:18: And if a man shall lie with a woman having her sickness, and shall uncover her nakedness; he hath discovered her fountain, and she hath uncovered the fountain of her blood: and both of them shall be cut off from among their people.

How many heterosexual couples have broken this one??

Romans 1:26 and 27 clearly speak of same-gender sex by both men and women, the only passage in the New Testament that does so. Rom. 1:18-32 speaks of Gentiles (heterosexuals) who could and should have known and served and given thanks to God but would not, so God gave them up and let them do whatever they wanted to do, and that resulted in degrading and shameful acts, including same-gender sex. It is almost a moot point, but Paul is not listing sins for which God will condemn anyone, he is listing sins that occur because people have forsaken Him. These are acts committed by those who have turned away from God and so become "consumed with passion." All of us recognize that those who forsake God and give themselves over to lustful living--homosexual or heterosexual--stand condemned by the Bible. This passage is talking about people who chose to forsake God.

Conservative theologian Richard Hays says, "No direct appeal to Romans 1 as a source of rules about sexual conduct is possible."

Answer 6

for the love of Pete do not EVEN get me started on this theme, I argued with people on mercury news about this for like, EVER! the biggest problem with all this stuff is assuming that everything in the Bible was put there from the mouth of God. It wasnt and he even tells in Jeremiah that the scribes will lay their pens falsely to the word and that the men of God will mislead the masses! He also said that his word will remain true and it has throughout time. The ten commandments and Matthew chapter 5 explains it all. If you read Exodus with the mt sinai and commandments, then read Matt chapter 5 and are still confused, IM me and I will go into depth about it. Anyone who says that being gay or lesbian is anti christian has absolutely no idea what they are talking about!

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"Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?" Jesus replied: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments" (Matthew 22:36-40).

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This one is for arklatexrat: no, it is not the reason God destroyed sodom and gomorra. He destroyed those cities because the people there wanted Lot to hand over two angels to them so that they could rape them. Angels are sexless remember? And rape is not a sexual crime, it is about domination and control, power over another.
as for the 5th commandment:
5th Commandment; Verse 12: "Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee."

Again, many religious liberals believe that the original text only included the first 6 words. The rest was added later by a second author.

The rationale behind this commandment might have been to prevent the neglect of the elderly. In the Middle East, where life was sometimes precarious, those who were unable to contribute to the standard of living of the family were sometimes not adequately supported.

The Commandment promises a long life to those who honor their parents. It implies that those who do not honor their parents will die young. We have never seen a study designed to check on the accuracy of this proposition.

Many would feel that it is an unreasonable expectation for a child to honor a parent who was a sexual molester, a physical abuser or was guilty of neglect. Harry Binswanger comments: "The middle commandment, 'Honor thy father and mother,' is manifestly unjust. Justice demands that you honor those who deserve honor, who have earned it by their choices and actions. Your particular father and mother may or may not deserve your honor -- that is for you to judge on the basis of how they have treated you and of a rational evaluation of their moral character. To demand that Stalin's daughter honor Stalin is not only obscene, but also demonstrates the demand for mindlessness implicit in the first set of commandments. You are commanded not to think or judge, but to jettison your reason and simply obey." 4

The Westminster Larger Catechism expands this this commandment enormously to include all older people, people who are "superiors in gifts," supervisors, managers, clergy, legislators, police, etc.

People I can do this all day long!

Answer 7

I only used to be Christian, but I remember that in the New Testament, somewhere in Romans (there are verses in the Old Testament too, but according to people on here in this section the Old Testament doesn't matter) in direct quote, "homosexuals" is listed as a group of people who shall not inherit the kingdom of God (along with thieves, killers, adulterers, etc.)


I'm spiritual, not religious. Was never raised religious, and I think it's wrong just because it violates natural law. Plus I'm a psychology buff, so I see it as a mental condition (I'm not saying a mental disease, just an abnormality) created by a number of issues in a person's environment growing up - such as abuse or lack of attention from one parent, rape, molestation, etc.

I consider it a dissociation disorder. If it were a natural occurence, more people would be homo/bisexual than currently. (plus, it's physically impossible to know when you are a child. The part of your brain that makes sex hormones isn't activated yet)

(if you or any answerer is offended, feel free to send hate mail. I've several essays on the subject that I've posted on Answers in the past and no one could argue with them)

Answer 8

Forget about Bible, Church rules and any religion involvement. I am a lesbian, I am proud to be, and I do not give a flying f**k what other people or priests or bishops or any other intelligent (or less) form around thinks about it and about me. You can be hetero, bi or gay and be a good person in all lines and under all respects, think to those priests and church men condamning lesbians and gays for their lifestyle and then going to have sex with 12 y.o. boys and girls!

Answer 9

The Bible condemns homosexuality , but also says that slavery is okay . It says women who misbehave should be killed in the marketplace with rocks by the whole community . despite this craziness , most Americans are Christian , and most American gays are beleiving Christians .

Answer 10

Yes, it is a sin. I am not sure where exactly in the bible it mentions it. In Genises it says that God created man and woman for each other.

Look at it this way, opposites attract....

What I would like to know is when did you know you were a bi, because I mean you can't just suddenly decided to like girls. There has to be a reason, unless you felt this way since you were a kid.